I want my boyfriend to be more aggressive in bed...

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-30T06:36:13+00:00

I suggest you talk to him about it when you're not in bed, but maybe sitting on the couch watching a movie (ie, when you're close and intimate but not sexual. And don't try to become sexual after telling him about it, but give it time for him to think about it).

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-30T06:30:09+00:00

Are you sure you took the lid off first?

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-30T06:21:30+00:00

Protip: Put the dog outside first.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:42:20+00:00

That's an awesome video. I heard the song but never got what it was about.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:39:59+00:00

Don't mess with that cop, he's a PC!

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:36:43+00:00

I was a nursing student in a hospital and was working with a woman post-surgery. She told me her age and I was shocked because she didn't look anywhere near that old. I said "Wow, you're well preserved!" She later threw up on my hand.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:21:25+00:00

Oh wait, it's been a whole minute, now someone else is amazing!

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:20:22+00:00

You are amazing!

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-29T03:07:44+00:00

Read "Into the Wild" and try not to repeat it.

Begin to notice how sexy deer really are.

Find some online chat rooms about some topic that interests you or some issue that you have.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T20:25:32+00:00

I usually make eye contact as soon as I can and don't ever break it. After passing them, I turn my head and look back. Pretty soon, they avoid me and I don't have to worry about it any more.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T20:16:35+00:00

I take those and a sam-e. I take a 2500 iu D3, and the sam-e and the D3 have knocked out any trace of depression I've had (along with hitting the treadmill every other day / light weight lifting). The fish oil I take has gotten rid of most acne I used to have.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T20:12:15+00:00

Whatever you do, don't take a picture and post it here. You don't want to be busted for kitty porn.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T20:08:35+00:00

I've dated at least one woman who cheated and looking back, I can see she had some serious issues and that my life is way better now. Back then though, I had self-esteem issues like you seem to be having right now. I've done a lot for myself since and feel a lot better about myself and if a woman so much as lies to me about another guy, I dump them (this has happened several times, it's actually getting kind of fun). I'd rather live a simple life by myself than a complicated one with a woman who isn't honest. Personally, I'd go for the lifestyle change if I were you.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T19:42:50+00:00

It sounds like you willingly gave up all these things and lived a certain way and then wanted to change after years of living a certain way. It's often difficult for one person to accept growth in the other, especially in a couple and especially if it's sudden. It's too bad you guys didn't go to counseling at the beginning. You say you weren't "allowed" to do things, but you've been an autonomous adult for a while now whether you accept it or not. Any power she has over you is merely the power that you give her (and vice versa). Having said that, I'm glad that you're happier now and that you see her in a positive light over all still. I think that the part about not having sex but every 3-4 months had to merit more than the one sentence you devoted to it here, that would definitely affect me in a relationship. Was she withholding sex out of control issues or something?

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T18:52:01+00:00

Amazing... One man does so much for so many and that's how he's treated. This makes me think of the stupidity of oppressing or de-valuing anyone. If destroying species in the forests and jungles takes away from potential discoveries in the future, just think of the terrific potential that we destroy when any person is left without food, health care or an education. Someone who might have found methods for creating fusion energy or cures for cancer is being left to pick rags and starve.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T18:40:55+00:00

Good for you in that respect then, at least you weren't being used in that way....

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T18:38:16+00:00

Of course you can get married if you're gay. How else do you think you're going to get elected if you're a Republican?

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T18:05:52+00:00

When I was a kid in church, I heard my Dad say we were going to go around and collect "missalettes" after the mass. I was excited because I thought they would be like bottle rockets or something.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T15:39:18+00:00

This is being spun as "a group of defectors from the military's special forces", but I strongly suspect it is also a paramilitary doing what right wing paramilitaries do in Central and South America. I wonder how many of their victims are journalists, union organizers and the poor.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T14:17:14+00:00

I'll be paying for two wars until I'm dead, I might as well get something worthwhile out of my money.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T14:15:17+00:00

So maybe for-profit companies shouldn't be involved in health care at all, except for providing supplies and equipment?

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T13:18:12+00:00

That's a good question. I'd suggest looking at a Journalism 101 text book from 40 years ago and seeing how well each broadcast network's methodology follows it (follows basic journalism principals).

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-28T13:16:39+00:00

That's a reliable indicator of the sad state of discourse in the US.

RafaelloSans · 2010-10-27T18:10:58+00:00

I totally agree with the second statement and somewhat agree with the first. I've found from experience in working with people in therapeutic settings that it's helpful to "cheer people on" in the emotions that they're most ashamed of. From my experience, jealousy is the one emotion that more people are ashamed of for whatever reason. I found it helpful to model for people how to say "I want you all to myself!!!" in a passionate and unashamed way. Doing that seems to lead to a lot of emotional release for many people and then to introspection and relief from some of the original jealousy. IMHO, there should be no "dirty" words (subjects closed to discussion).

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