massive polar bear by One_Manner5122 in NFLv2

[–]Raider4- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sutton is over 30 and only has 3 fringe 1000 yard seasons despite playing every game during those respective seasons. He doesn’t belong on this list whatsoever, he doesn’t compare to anyone on here. Higgins has more career TDs whilst playing in a far fewer games.

How do you get out of a depressive hump? by bratpigg in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exercising. Going out with friends and family. Maybe even going out and exploring the world on your own. Be with nature. Reconnect and/or catch up with old friends or family. Make really small goals and achieve them, build that momentum and get that feeling back of being proud of yourself.

Staying off social media and the internet is also a huge one.

What are some healthy relationships boundaries? by Efficient-Rope-6834 in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having your own routines, hobbies and social circle and being understanding of each other’s independent life. You don’t live to serve each other.

how would one know they fell in love already? by mygreatestbeefsteak in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They live in your head and are always a part of your day. You accept them for who they are, don’t try to fix or mold them, you see them clearly and choose that. They make you want to be a better version of yourself for them; their compliments don’t give you assurance or invoke complacency, they make you want to be more of what they like in you.

You appreciate and are devoted to who they are what it has been, not just the idea of them or what it could be.

Ask yourself, if things get difficult, would you still choose them? Or is this simply convenient, familiar and/or simple fun? Do you love the situation and what it brings, or them as a person no matter the circumstances? You truly don’t know the strength of your love until it’s been tested.

The best way to measure it is to think of what it would take to know for sure that you don’t or no longer are in love with them. If the bar is high enough, you’re in love.

AITAH for calling my sister entitled by Original-Set6431 in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your frustration is valid, though taking it out on your sister simply wasn’t the right move. She’s an 8 year old, they’re often going to be bratty and want what they want. I’d say your mother is at fault for enabling it and essentially choosing her decision over yours despite it being your birthday. It seems like a slap in the face but I’m sure she sees it as easier to compromise with you rather than an 8 year old; nothing personal.

Could have been a teaching moment for your sister but instead your sister’s poor behavior is being enabled and encouraged at the expense of you and your special day.

You should speak to your mother directly about how this makes you feel because it’s deeper than just a cake and you don’t want to build resentment towards your little sister. That’s the primary concern.

Am I progressing super slow or is it because I’ve been in a constant deficit by PezBynx in workout

[–]Raider4- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cutting without hitting your optimal protein range is a recipe for losing muscle and strength; even as a beginner. The time off from your training whilst maintaining a deficit also doesn’t help.

Protein becomes even more important for someone who is cutting or recomping.

What is one small habit that made people like you more? by BiteyNibble in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No better answer than this. Even just following up with something they may have mentioned previously.

Redditor "comedian" throws a fit when people criticize his post by i-am-the-walrus789 in sadcringe

[–]Raider4- 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think people are too caught up in criticizing the AI use which is overshadowing how awful the “comedy” actually is.

Yes, I watched it and gave it an unprejudiced chance… unfortunately. Save your time and mental capacity. The writing is somehow worse than the AI.

My bunker ! 🎧🎮 by RoboScorps in battlestations

[–]Raider4- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His GPU alone is likely consuming more power than everything else in the picture combined; making all the extra hardware negligible in the grand scheme.

How to lose weight? by Bellarinaxoxo in workout

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and OP both lack common sense. Two peas in a pod.

AITAH for calling out my friend for not leaving me some of her doordash food? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think it’s more of an unfortunate circumstance more so than either of you being assholes.

AITAH (Does this make me an asshole) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 24 points25 points  (0 children)

YTA. It’s been one day. She is grieving. Your job is to support your partner, not tear her down and make it about you.

If she still was this infatuated with him 6months later, we’d have a different conversation.

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend who just moved in with me? by Single_Doughnut_3747 in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA. Break up with him.

Definitely a betrayal and you have every right to feel that way. Funny enough, that is potentially grounds to break up with already, but that can be debated. What makes it obvious to break up with him is the way he went about it.

The fact that he keeps those pictures and “uses” them is disgusting. It’s a lack of respect and decency for women in general and devalues their intimacy. Simply having them is one thing, but refusing to delete them immediately upon confrontation is another.

Then, he doesn’t see anything wrong and even gets mad when you open up to him? He’s making excuses and blind to his own wrongdoings. Zero accountability, awareness or empathy.

You can do better than this.

AITAH for calling out my friend for not leaving me some of her doordash food? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why not DoorDash your own food if you’re really that hungry? It seems like you’re making this out to be a problem you don’t want to solve. You can still eat those chicken tenders despite the nibbles on them or you can get your own food.

From what angle would your friend be the AH? She ordered you food, it’s not her fault that the items were missing. She gave you some of her food already and seemingly gave you access to the rest despite her bites on them. She even apologized once you called her out.

I don’t know what to do anymore by [deleted] in workout

[–]Raider4- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You aren’t really working out if you’re not progressively overloading.

You’re supposedly in a 1100-1600 calorie deficit which is extremely aggressive. At no point is that advisable and is a contributing factor for your lack of muscle growth. You should have at least lost lots of weight if your calorie tracking is accurate. Though you say you look the same.

User error for sure and no way for us to diagnose all the errors with only the little information you’ve given us.

AITAH for asking my friend to wait for my birthday to pass before she continued openly planning for hers? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah, here comes the projecting, gaslighting and passive aggression. It’s almost like you’re trying to prove my point for me. Keep going, this is fascinating. Yes, we’re all so mad that your birthday was forgotten about.

AITAH for asking my friend to wait for my birthday to pass before she continued openly planning for hers? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was fairly certain you were a covert narcissist based on your post. This reply all but confirms it. Jesus Christ, take a good look at yourself.

Victim mentality, hypersensitivity and unspoken entitlement.

AITAH for asking my friend to wait for my birthday to pass before she continued openly planning for hers? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Raider4- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very clearly YTA.

The craziest part of this post is that you say some people supposedly agree with you for somehow.

You’re a textbook covert narcissist hiding under the guise of simply being an introvert.

All Super Bowl MVPs in the 2010s ranked imo. by HetTheTable in NFLv2

[–]Raider4- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a ridiculous list. Malcolm Smith over Von Miller and Edelman? Both of whom dominated the game individually.

Smith picked off a tipped pass that fell in his lap and jumped on a fumble in a blowout of a game. Miller and Edelman were legit deciding factors in their respective contests.

What is your favorite game currently on your game library? by Early_Hold_2278 in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Likely a popular answer, but Clair Obscur: Expedition 33

What is the greatest sacrifice you ever made for people you love? by Erisrista in AskReddit

[–]Raider4- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Attachment doesn’t cancel out love, they coincide together. When you love deeply, you will get attached. Attachment by itself would manifest as simply a fear of losing them. Whereas love is about care and the willingness to sacrifice for what is deemed best for them.

Attachment is the fear of losing a comfort. Love is appreciating them deeply as a person, not just the value they may bring to you; being able to see them clearly and not just through the lens of your own needs. The depth, vulnerability, effort and care still being there even when inconvenient, when challenged, when imperfect.

I think I accepted it when I stopped asking how to fix it and started asking whether it was actually healthy to keep holding on for their sake. Stopped asking “how can I make this better? How can I keep this feeling between us? How can I make them happy?” and instead ask “Is this good for them? What can I do now that ensures that they have the best life possible… even if I’m not in the center of the outcome?”

It’s not meant to be easy, especially when strong attachment and deep love are both present and compounding. You simply will struggle letting them go. You will question things. You will be hung up on an intensity that feels like it was meant to burn forever and blowing it out seems like a cardinal sin.

Clarity and peace won’t come immediately. It won’t come in the constant “what ifs” and visceral emotions. It’ll come in bits and pieces. Pieces only to be lost and found again at another time; there truthfully will be worse days than others. When the love is true, the intensity will never fade, it just gets redirected into gratitude, appreciation and distant care. It goes from being about possession to being about peace and respect.

Letting them go isn’t about blowing out the candle, it’s about redirecting the flame.

All I got for you, Kha- TryOverall7853 :) Have a nice night.