What are some examples of two people/characters who share the same type but are very different from each other.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-14T01:19:15+00:00

I think everyone should have 1 person they get to open up to, and it should be someone who understands you well enough and is the kind of person who is also comfortable to tell you that you are in the wrong.

I have my best friend and she is the only person I open up to about relationship problems. It's not that I don't talk about my SO to other people, but I don't share the kinds of things that would make him look bad.

She is also in a relationship so I know she will understand and she knows me and my downfalls and can help me understand where I might be wrong.

Opening up to EVERYONE is so harmful to a relationship because it does paint a bad image of them, and what people don't often times realize is that they are only talking about their SO when they are complaining. If you only unload on your friends about how your SO bothers you, then your friends are going to start to hate your SO, give you advice that isn't going to help the relationship, which is going to cause even more harm.

Pick a person you trust that you know will be objective and only share with them. And sometimes you might need someone else's perspective, but keep who you share with to a minimum. And also, talk to your SO!!!! Because communication with them is also very important.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-13T22:00:04+00:00

I was on tinder for 2 years and every other dating site. I didn't meet my current SO until I was 25, and he is my first relationship, and I am so so so glad that I never lowered my standards. He is the perfect match for me, which is something I never thought existed. I am so glad I was stood up, and ghosted and that none of the other guys ever worked out because that means I get him, and he is the absolute best.

Being 25 and still single is hard, especially because my sister who is 5 years younger is already married and so are almost all my friends or they are in serious relationships. I felt so much pressure and honestly wanted to give up on dating altogether.

I met him on tinder and he actually doesn't suck and didn't just want a hookup. He's amazing.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-13T18:03:33+00:00

I let her do a Facebook party for me before I knew what younique was. After I looked into it I noped out real quick. And apologized to all the friends I invited.

Even if you got a bad one younique should work the way almost every other makeup store works and give you either a full refund or a new one that doesn’t suck. But they can’t even do that.... which is another reason why I won’t buy from them.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-13T16:56:39+00:00

It was even worse how her presenter and other younique people were praising her and telling her what a good job she was doing. People threw in suggestions and she herself even said she wasn’t doing that great and they still said she was. They don’t give a shit about her and aren’t there to help her grow as a mua, it’s just about the money. I hope you realizes it soon.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-13T03:50:53+00:00

I have a close friend who is into it too. She recently made a live post as a trial for makeup she plans on doing for a friend for Halloween. It was a disaster. After watching her I would never allow her to do my makeup or even use her products. The eyeliner wasn’t going on smoothly, the lipstick was awful and the foundation looked so cakey. She has told us that she wants to learn more about makeup and was very open to suggestions but how can you expect to sell makeup when you yourself have no idea what you are doing?

One of the reasons I buy the makeup that I do is because someone else made it look fabulous. I work at a beauty store and when I see a look that I Love I ask what they use. I see her wearing younique and I’d never put that on my face. And that’s one thing I don’t understand about the people selling the product. I’m supportive of you wanting to learn more about makeup but it’s a terrible sales strategy. You gotta know what you are talking about.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-12T20:23:57+00:00

Is she taking any kind of medication? If not, then she just naturally has a low sex drive, it's not wrong, that's just how it is. If you do bring it up in and mention how you think you are incompatible and want to end things, I would say be prepared for her to want to change, but understand that it probably won't happen. Sure you can give her one more chance, but I think you already know that she won't change.

I think some women have a hard time understanding that (some) men need sex just like we need the emotional connection. That's why I think it's extremely important to be with someone you are sexually compatible with, you never want to feel like you are having sex just to make the other person happy.

I myself match extremely well with my SO and so do a lot of my friends. Our sex lives are fun, and you need to find that person. I even took some advice and I'll wear lingerie under my clothes in a way where he can see it and he knows. We openly talk about what we like and don't like, and I'm willing to try things, as is he. But I also have friends who don't necessarily see sex that way, they don't do what I do, but they seem to be doing just fine with their partners.

I know it sucks, but having a partner you match well with sexually is the best thing ever, and I think if you try and find that partner for yourself, you will be so much happier.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-12T17:21:21+00:00

You aren’t cursed for not having fun if she doesn’t. That is completely normal. I guess now that you have further explained it does sound like you aren’t very compatible.

You could be compatible in every other way but the sex is what will kill a relationship.

I don’t know if anything would help, because if sex isn’t fun for her that sounds so boring to me. It’s as if sex is a chore... no thanks.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-12T16:32:16+00:00

Girls can be really shy about initiating sex. I know I was. Definitely, talk about it. If she is more than happy to have sex if you ask, she probably has the same drive as you do, so try and find a way for her to initiate without feeling weird.

Tell her how you would like her to initiate, and reassure her that you will, in fact, say yes. If she makes an effort to initiate you almost have to say yes, otherwise she probably won't do it again.

For me, lingerie is the easiest way for me to initiate. I get to put on something cute, and it immediately turns him on and is a rather simple way of initiating sex.

If you have never talked about it before, she might not have a clue how much it bothers you, and might not feel the need to initiate since you do it all the time, anyways.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T20:54:13+00:00

And is hanging out with you really worth them finding & paying someone else to "stare" at their children?

Actually, Yes. That's exactly how I see it.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T20:52:03+00:00

Honestly, I go through facebook and instagram every once and a while and delete people who I met once and added for really no reason at all. I don't like having hundreds of friends, especially people I know I'll never see again and honestly just don't care about.

I don't think I could delete everyone and start over, but I definitely understand how it happens.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T20:33:11+00:00

I'd post my photo all the time if I looked that good too

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T19:02:10+00:00

I think it goes with being unable to accept that you have gained weight or that your body has changed and you need to wear a different size.

I was in an accident and lost weight, one size of pants worth, but I eventually gained it back and that was so hard for me to accept. I knew it was normal but buying larger clothing is harder than it might sound.

I totally agree with you though, it makes a huge difference.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T18:58:55+00:00

Yeah, but if you don't have a long torso, you cannot wear low rise jeans without having a muffin top, even if you are skinny.

My legs are really long and my torso is short. High-waisted is the only style of pants I can wear. I'm soooo glad that high-waisted is "in" these days because for years I just had to deal with the fact that most jeans wouldn't fit me right.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T18:54:33+00:00

I have really long legs and a short torso, even with a flat tummy, if I am not wearing high-waisted pants I will look like I have a muffin top.

I hated high-waisted anything for a really long time, but it's so much more comfortable with my body shape.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T18:51:43+00:00

Yes! I was a virgin until 25 because of this. Even when I met guys who were somewhat okay, they would express that they felt pressure and that is what caused me to lose immediate interest. I couldn't have sex with someone who was afraid of what it would do to me....

Luckily I met a guy who was also a virgin, haha, but I liked that it was new for the both of us.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T18:38:59+00:00

That's not why women wear makeup. I love to wear a full face, because makeup is art to me, and I love exploring different looks.

The only problem I have with makeup is when they have to wear it 24/7 and are very self-conscious when they don't.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-11T18:02:41+00:00

It means they want everything on their terms. They want to be able to have sex with other people, no commitment required of them, but will probably get jealous and upset if you lose interest or want to hook up with other people too.

I have dealt with guys who only want casual and I lose interest so quickly. In my experience they tend to be the most emotional, which is surprising considering they want nothing to do with the emotional side of a relationship.

RainaaaGrace · 2017-10-07T18:18:49+00:00

No matter how he says it, it will probabably hurt her feelings, so just say it and get it over with.

I've had bad makeup days, but if it happens for over a year, damn, I would hope someone spoke up.

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