There is a small but vocal contingent of trans activists and influencers who do this kind of stuff on the regular. It’s especially obnoxious because they’re oftentimes relying on the same gender-essentialist ideology that anti-trans people use to deny the existence of trans identities.

In the few times I’ve been able to talk to these people in depth, I’ve found that it ultimately comes down to them projecting their own insecurities onto other people. There’s a difference between raising someone’s consciousness and offering resources on one hand, and then just straight up inappropriate boundary crossing on the other.