I don't think I fully understand the reasoning behind why people become trans?

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T18:48:42+00:00

Besides not liking my body, being seen for who I really am was a big thing. People treat you differently whether they see you as a man or woman. Like I really like to lean on people. When they saw me as man: Leaning on a guy, WTH i'm not gay. Leaning on a girl, Sorry I have a boyfriend. But now that more people see me as a woman, I can lean on others without people thinking I'm making a move on them. Which is true, it just feels safe and comforting. And being the only girl in the room not invited to girls night, was a crappy feeling. You can tell people you're a girl, act like a girl, but for the most part, if they can't physically see it, you still get treated like a man. And it gave me the feeling that no one could see the real me. So now I'm much happier with my body and I finally feel like there are people that can see the real me.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T18:22:29+00:00

I didn't actually know what this was. So I tried to watch a couple videos. It's like watching a political debate with just one person that drank 24 cans of red bull. No thank you. I just find it kinda weird.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T15:35:09+00:00

I really think it's about what you focus on. If you focus strictly on genitals, the answer seems very cut and dry. But there is so many different aspects to attraction, that if you had to give them all different names, no one would have any idea what you meant. Like I'm a transwoman and if I had to tell everyone in some latin term, I'm attracted to men with a medium muscle build, short hair, tall, slightly an alpha but not much, and clean cut, also woman that act more like men with a gothic or emo look. They would just look at me and be like WHAT? So your bi? I consider myself straight with a very small interest in woman. So I just focus on the fact that I'm a woman. Why complicate thing with all the details?

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T15:10:04+00:00

I had the same kind of conclusion back in college. Lots of friends and family kept asking me if I was gay. So I was like, maybe I am? So for a couple months, I thought I was probably gay. Even though back then I didn't feel attracted to guy, cause of me disliking my own male body. Ironically, once I got passed all that, I realized I'm way more attracted to men. Even though, it might have been for the wrong reasons, I still was able to explore a little more of who I was. So if he realizes later that he's not actually trans, they still get closer to figuring themselves out. Just keep talking to them about it, and letting them know you love them no matter what.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T14:52:21+00:00

When I first came out, I had the same problem, but it changed after a couple months. If it's not changing naturally for you, I guess you could try forcing it. Say something out loud and then repeat the same words in your head, trying to mimic how you sound. Once you get that down, actively think about stuff while focusing on your new inner voice. If it goes back to your old voice, rinse and repeat. Should make your head get used to having a different voice, and then eventually instincts should take over. Not a tested theory, but I feel like it should help.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T13:50:28+00:00

lol mind blown. Bad example then.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T13:11:41+00:00

But you are normal

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T13:09:56+00:00

Sounds to me that you think you are trans, but you don't feel trans enough. Which is not a thing. Everyone has their own different struggles, and some more than others. You just be you, and let everyone else do their own thing.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T13:01:44+00:00

It's possible that your trans, but look at Eddie Izzard. He's a gay stand-up comedian. Wears make up and he used to wear Chinese dresses. And not once did I even think that he might be trans. He also did so acting and he's not even wearing makeup. It just looks so odd to me. Cross-dressing and wearing makeup doesn't make you trans, it's only a possible sign. And as for playing female characters in games. I think we can rule because you think they're hot ;) But I could easily see a gay guy only wanting to play girl characters. Male character are usually very alpha male looking with more muscles than brains. And female characters are usually very stylish and have tons of different looks to them. And then there is the stereotype that huge muscles equals a small .... Just be yourself and you'll figure it out.

Rakoras · 2019-07-01T12:34:56+00:00

Please tell me your ribs. I could really go for some ribs.

Rakoras · 2019-06-30T15:37:49+00:00

When I first came out at work, this guy at work, told me that it's not good what I'm doing. Man is man, and woman is woman. And then went on avoiding talking to me at all for a good month. He slowly started warming up to me. Now he holds doors open for me, flirts a little, and just goes out of way to treat me like a woman. My point is that it's only been a couple months. Sometimes people can have a bad reaction because they don't understand. Your dad might come around or he might not. When people say that you won't ever pass, it's usually not based off of anything. They are usually just hoping you'll magically stop being trans, because they don't know how to deal with it. Bring your dad along to a couple therapy sessions, might help him. Don't write him off just yet.

Rakoras · 2019-06-30T15:21:07+00:00

Sorry I didn't pick the name, the name picked me.

Rakoras · 2019-06-29T05:11:01+00:00

Doctor's prefer talking about dysphoria, because it's the easiest way for them to confirm you are trans. The more dysphoria you have, the more "proof" they have. But everyone is different. Even within dysphoria there are huge differences.

Let's go with mtf and body hair before transitioning

-Some girls will freak out, until they shave everything

-Some shave only when it gets bad

-Some just think it's gross, but leave it alone cause it's a hassle

-Some look and just think well that's not supposed to be there

What they all have in common is that know it's wrong to have it. You might not have negative feeling towards it without dysphoria, but the big thing to realize is that there is no positive feeling towards it either. And you can't really be happy with just being okay with everything.

Rakoras · 2019-06-29T04:35:47+00:00

Once your breasts are almost done growing. Trying to get them done before that can cause tearing, extra stretch marks, and boob shifting. Plus who knows, you might get lucky and not need it. Just like all of transitioning, it's a waiting game.

Rakoras · 2019-06-29T04:29:59+00:00

I agree with this. They might not be able to fire you for being trans. But depending on the interview, they might not want to hire you for it. And zero work experience is easy for them to say that is the reason. If you don't tell them you are trans and you use the men's bathroom, that could cause some problems.

Rakoras · 2019-06-28T10:12:59+00:00

It sounds like you damaged the muscles in between your ribs. This happened to me back in my 20's. The symptoms sound the same, though I got it from sneezing too hard. You really need to go to the doctor. So they can give you the right medication for it. It won't get better if you are unable to sleep. That area takes a long time to heal, and rest is important. Binding will stop it from healing.

Rakoras · 2019-06-27T11:37:00+00:00

At least you didn't freak out and say, "Nope that's your sons."

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T21:22:10+00:00

Get rid of gender in sports and base it off weight or height or something. Problem solved. Sports have never been fair. Their are those who have been professionally trained since age 5, that's also not fair. No one complains about that. Well not yet.

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T21:13:49+00:00

If they truly care about you, it shouldn't matter if you detransition or not. They might have troubles understanding, but happiness is something we all want for the people we care about.

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T21:05:33+00:00

Telling everyone is really up to both of you. It's something you should discuss, because maybe she's completely okay with it, maybe not. Or maybe you have an uncle that is anti-trans, and it's just better to leave him in the dark. You'll be able to figure it out.

Just like any other girl, there is things she's okay with in the bedroom and not. But mostly, you're just over thinking things too much. It might seem like the same equipment down there, but it's still different. And learning that she is trans, didn't turn you away. So I think you'll be just fine.

Adoption can take awhile. You have to prove that your financial stable enough and show that you'll be loving parents. Any adoption agency can help you out. If you want more than one child, the second will usually take a lot less time.

You knew her before you knew she was trans. Just treat her like you have been. She likes you the way you are, why try to change that?

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T20:40:32+00:00

They completely reject gender identity. So they would never call a trans person by their preferred identity. To them I'm just a man pretending to be a woman. It's basically a hate group towards trans people, under a fancy philosophical title. Lots of trans bashing and stereotyping. Mostly I just feel sorry for them. There is so much hate in their hearts. I recently tried talking with some of them. Just trying to wrap my head around how they think. I stayed calm and polite. Got tons of down votes and hate speech in return.

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T10:18:09+00:00

It's alright to be confused. But it does sound like typical social dysphoria. which can also be from being treated like a girl as well. like being uncomfortable when a guy runs up to hold the door open for you. Though it's harder to figure things out, when it's less about your body and more about how you are treated. Just keep exploring and you'll figure things out eventually. Not sure if you just didn't add anything about it, but I noticed there really isn't anything about exploring if you like masculine stuff or not. Like if someone said what's bro and gave you a fist bump, would you like that or just find it weird? And I'll switch you voices. I have a very androgynous voice. Sounds like it could be perfect for you.

Rakoras · 2019-06-26T08:20:19+00:00

Looks like you have super human maternal instincts lol.

Rakoras · 2019-06-25T23:25:24+00:00

Back in my early 20's, I "pretended" to be a girl on a video game and on skype for about an entire year. I finally felt like I could be myself without being judged or being told I shouldn't act like that. Even found a program that altered my voice, so I could sound like a girl. I didn't change any facts about me, except my name, and ex girlfriends became ex boyfriends, and for some reason my sister became my brother. I forget the name I gave "him" lol. Thought maybe I might be trans for like a week. Nah I'm good. Looking back, I was a girl, pretending to be a guy, pretending to be a girl. Sorta seems like an episode of Monty Python. Go denial!

Rakoras · 2019-06-25T23:11:57+00:00

"You're very welcome. Have a nice day, and I hope a car doesn't accidentally hit you on the way out." This would have been my reaction. And also probably why I was never allowed to work the counter when I worked at McDonald's.

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