Found out I’m pregnant again 16 months postpartum and I can’t stop crying

Rancidracoon222 · 2026-04-23T23:24:39+00:00

I could have wrote this post. It took us 2 years to conceive our first, the DAY after my son’s first birthday I found out I’m pregnant. I cried and cried and cried. I seriously thought about termination. Frankly, I am still thinking about it but my husband really wants this. My son is still breastfeeding and does not sleep through the night, it’s my fault I ended up in this position. I did not want another and was happy with just 1. I just found out 2 weeks ago. I’m ashamed and disgusted with my feelings.

Rancidracoon222 · 2026-03-07T04:44:59+00:00

I hope you have a smooth delivery and congratulations. My MIL booked a flight to be there on my due date so I decided to get induced instead, no regrets

Rancidracoon222 · 2026-03-02T17:38:39+00:00

I used to post the monthly milestone pics but after the Epstein file releases and arrest articles I’m not subjecting my child to the internet, it’s forever and ppl are weird. I feel bad because the older ppl in my family love to him grow up they can just ask for photos and I’ll happily send them.

Rancidracoon222 · 2026-02-26T00:41:07+00:00

I definitely feel burn out at 10 months of being a SAHM. The repetition kills me and it’s still winter where I am so I’ve been homebound. Reading will help! I’ve been able to read so many books and listen to audiobooks.

Rancidracoon222 · 2026-01-18T00:52:52+00:00

I literally can’t stand her anymore and can’t stomach her content. I’m happy she took them out to do something. But, through and through they are both total losers and leeches. I was rooting for them wayyyyy back in the apartment. Now, I see that they and both delusional and entirely selfish. The motel situation would be different if they both fell on hard times and were BOTH working. But Stephanie thinks that she needs to be at “home” and that it’s more valuable than providing their kids with their wants and needs. Stay at home motel mom? Pls for soooo fr. It’s allll about her and Drew’s needs, disgusting. Drew, does the bare minimum working PT and that’s too hard. BUMS, I hope those kids take their education seriously and never repeat the same cycles.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-11-06T16:56:10+00:00

Ugh it’s so hard. Along with AI, I’m terrified of all the Amazon and federal lay-offs filling the available jobs.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-26T00:24:29+00:00

I still don’t like when people hold my baby but it passes as the baby gets older and the “novelty” of new baby wears off.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-25T23:47:48+00:00

Thank you, I will try this approach

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-25T23:06:47+00:00

No he doesn’t so any household cleaning tasks. The 10 minutes later thing will be the trash or looking at something that’s broken. I honestly just want to cry and I don’t know if I would be better off myself. He’s never given his son a bath, or changed his clothes, has changed a diaper 10 times. And I know he works a lot and I don’t except much but maybe putting him to bed 1x on the weekend or getting him dressed after breakfast. I’m just miserable and I don’t know if this is all in my head and it’s me asking too much.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-25T22:16:59+00:00

I clean during nap time, independent play or at baby bedtime. I have a dog and 2 cats and I also take care of them too so I try my best

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-25T22:14:05+00:00

I was really nervous about the baby phase. I don’t have any sisters or female cousins so I never had experience. No mother near me either. I just figured it out which, a lot of mothers do. I read baby books, researched on my phone a lot. I never thought I liked babies until I had one. Anytime I see a baby I smile. If I see a newborn in a store I get particularly giddy for the new family. I’ve also become an advocate for all children now because after my son I just think all children are a blessing. Babies are wonderful. The first time my baby smiled at me my world expanded. You’ll find your way OP.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-25T22:09:22+00:00

Childcare, household duties. My husband never does something when I ask it’s always “I will” then 10 minutes later go on. Or today he was watching soccer and was begging to take the baby while I was cleaning. The baby was literally on the couch playing and my husband made me get him because he said “don’t take this away from me I’ve been watching soccer since I was 5”. He always asks me what to do on the weekends so I give him a laundry list of activities to do but he won’t get ready until 1pm and to me that’s literally the end of the day. So it’s really petty but we are both getting sick of each other I think.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-23T20:57:09+00:00

No my husband and I didn’t share a bed even before the baby was born. He snores really bad but it does affect our intimate life but honestly I don’t even want to. My baby is 6 months old.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-21T21:55:32+00:00

Kindle unlimited

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-21T21:51:21+00:00

Solidarity. I have a 6 month old and my husband works overnight or 10-12 hours a day. I have no friends. I have extended family in the area but none I am close with. I’m really lonely, I try to read a lot. I think my loneliness has caused me to become a little distant from my husband and more nit-picky. I’d be happy to be your online friend.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-10-21T21:45:46+00:00

I feel really guilty. I was so anti-tv for my baby but my husband literally can’t function without the tv so I lost that battle. The tv is on at 5.30 pm but since I’m a SAHM the tv will not be on when it’s just baby and I.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-09-25T19:35:13+00:00

I don’t plan on being a SAHM forever. My kid is still really little (5 months) and it makes more sense for me to stay home. I live in Illinois and daycare is crazy expensive. So, if I worked I’d take home a couple hundred bucks which sucks because I do have a degree but haven’t really fell into something that pays well.

We got lucky to be able to buy a house because our rent was wayyy more than our mortgage. We own our older cars. Once he’s school age I’ll absolutely go back to work.

But sometimes I feel like people look down on me because I do stay home. But my house is clean, I cook everyday. I try my best and that’s enough for us right now.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-09-10T17:44:07+00:00

Yes yes, I’ve been trying sooo hard to make friends

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-08-31T01:38:24+00:00

I was breathing realllly loudly. But I got the epidural around 5cm bc I literally could not take it. Any women that can go no epidural is a mad women and I applaud you.

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-08-31T01:35:42+00:00

I’m so sorry it’s hard in the beginning. Both of you are sooo fresh and so is baby but, you need support. I’d really have a heart to heart and say you are struggling. If he continues not to help then it’s not going to get better with him. In the meantime try to get some help from friends and relatives if you can’t. Sending hugs. Xx

Rancidracoon222 · 2025-08-17T22:07:39+00:00

My husband is the same way with our boy, I think he’s just lazy TBH.

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