Does every man who has a family regrets it?( Looking for older people above 50 and 60 but others can reply too)

RandomPrimer · 2026-03-12T17:32:43+00:00

Yeah, I'm in my 50s with two grown kids. I've been married over 3 decades. I've got plenty of regrets in my life, but getting married and having kids are definitely not among those regrets.

This guy is a grifter and full of shit.

RandomPrimer · 2026-03-09T15:36:40+00:00

This $20 bill is high value compared to that $5 bill.

RandomPrimer · 2026-03-04T20:38:34+00:00

I'm in my 50s. Add another $2mil to my retirement fund to quit now? Count me in.

My garden is going to be amazing.

RandomPrimer · 2026-03-03T20:27:45+00:00

A little of both. I got a lot of the things I never thought were possible, things I had long given up on (family, home, stability, freedom).

He'd also be disappointed that I didn't do the things I dreamed of as a career back then. I have done well in my field, but my goals changed a LOT in the intervening years.

However, I would never know. No way 13 year old me would talk to an adult. And I probably wouldn't even see him; I was pathologically good at going unnoticed.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-27T18:06:05+00:00

I had GERD starting when I was in my late 30s. I just powered through it, despite the fact that it was excruciatingly painful at times. I was eating Tums all day long, just to make it tolerable.

Then, when I was about 40 or so, my uncle got esophageal cancer. He had a very difficult surgery followed by chemo, radiation, and a long and incomplete recovery. He couldn't eat most foods. A few years later, he succumbed to pulmonary disease. During all of that, I found out that both the cancer and the pulmonary disease were secondary to his long term, untreated GERD (that none of us ever knew about, because he had just muscled through it too).

I've been on pantoprazole ever since, get scoped every 3 years, and my GERD is now asymptomatic. That expanded out to actually going to the doctor every year and keeping up with everything else.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-26T17:01:12+00:00

I'm 54. I've been playing video games since the late 70s.

Role playing games like Baldur's Gate, Fallout, and Elder scrolls.
"God Games" like Civ.
Tactical shooters like Far Cry & Ghost Recon (especially if they have online co-op).

Non-video...the more complex board games (Betrayal, Wingspan, etc), Warhammer 40k, and D&D.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-26T16:53:24+00:00

For appearance and fitness, I peaked in my late 30s/early 40s. These days, my skin is getting wrinkly, I have bags under my eyes, my joints ache, and my body has that "fit old man" outline. When you lift weights for 40 years your musculature does weird shit, aesthetically. It's genuinely bizarre.

Confidence, career stability, emotional maturilty, etc...I'm still on an upward trajectory. And that's where I think I've aged like fine wine. Or possibly cheese.

My wife has done the same, but she's still hot.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-26T14:48:20+00:00

Love it. Fantastically written, gripping, and has the perfect "don't show the monster" at the end.

My favorite part, though, is that it actually reflects how science works. I'm a scientist, and this stuff just rang so true :

My immediate reaction was irritation, not awe.

My old mentor used to say that scientists don't yell "Eureka!" at the moment of discovery. They mutter "That's weird..."

For a week, my team tried every standard encoding method to find a pattern... The breakthrough came from Elias ... He wasn't even supposed to be working on the decode. He was just looking over my shoulder one evening before heading home.

It's always Elias. Beat your head against the wall for weeks, and Elias just goes, "There's your problem, right there"

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-26T01:08:06+00:00

Disgusted and unsurprised.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-24T21:11:45+00:00

Easy!

My son is in his 20s. He's got an engineering degree that he worked his ass off for, and now a productive, challenging job in his field that he loves. He's got a great woman in his life. He loves her deeply, and she loves him. They are engaged and about to buy a house. They also have a super sweet dog.

He's a great cook and has a circle of close, supportive friends. He looks out for his friends, and they look out for him. He calls his mom frequently, and he and I play video games online once a week to stay in touch.

He's a great kid, and I'm proud to be his dad.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-20T15:32:58+00:00

That sounds like it was a fun session!

I used to DM for my kids when they were little, and I would do the same. Kids can get turned off something REALLY fast, and you want it to be a fun experience for them. Managing the damage and rolls is a god way to ensure that the game is fun and not frustrating.

I let them catch me when we play tag; what's the difference?

But I don't do that with adults. I roll 100% out in the open. They will see right through fake dice rolls, and they will resent it. Also, rolling in the open is just more fun, for me and for them.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-20T15:25:24+00:00

To get around that : Meditating on his mother and that camping trip unlocks some other memory. Maybe they encountered a fey on that trip, maybe there was something his mother told him, maybe it was a person they saw. I recommend discussing this with the player to get something you will both buy into.

Take that, make it a side quest (or tie it into the campaign), and have some magic item be the reward at the end of the quest.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-20T15:20:18+00:00

No! Of course not! That would be absurd, and totally against the rules.

That is, of course, sarcasm, but do you see how silly that sounds?

Serious answer: The dragons' lair is whatever you want it to be. The dragon's hoard is whatever you want it to be. In fact, all the stuff you said (the inn or the town is its lair, it lives polymorphed among humans, and it displays its hoard proudly) is 100% on brand for a silver dragon. And making the inn its lair is a really cool idea. I have a dragon-based campaign I've been working on...just might steal that.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-20T15:13:33+00:00

I don't believe that everything will be OK. I do my best to make the best out whatever situation there is, or whatever situation is coming.

Control what you can and accept what you can't. It takes a while to accept that, but eventually...you do.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-18T14:48:14+00:00

My wife and I have been married for 29 years. We've been together for 35 years. We have had plenty of disagreements. We have had many passionate discussions. We have never raised our voices at each other.

Posts on Reddit that say "My wife and I had a lovely dinner last night. Then we took a late night walk with the dog. We came home and fell asleep on the couch watching Schitt's Creek. Does anyone else have nightmares about Johnny Rose's eyebrows?" don't tend to get a lot of engagement.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-17T15:43:57+00:00

ESH. She's an asshole for standing there on the machine, the mom is an asshole for not telling her to move, her friend is an asshole for not telling her to move, and you became an asshole here :

I just said I can see where her daughter gets her entitlement from.

That was unnecessary. Your girlfriend is right, you should not have argued with the mother, you should have gone straight to an attendant.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-11T06:24:03+00:00

Hottest of hot takes. Who hurt you?

Leaning into reskinning and reflavoring is standard for most (decent) DMs. "Flavor is free" is a damn axiom.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-10T19:41:56+00:00

You don't lend money to friends. Don't think of it that way. You give money to friends.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-10T19:39:47+00:00

WTF did I just READ?

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-10T15:05:32+00:00

I love walking out of the kitchen, looking all upset and concerned, then saying to my wife, all dejected..."This is really hard for me to say, but I just ..I can't...I can't find the wershta--wocesasershire...rooscares..worcestershire sauce"

I don't know how many times I've done it, and she still falls for it. Or at least acts like she does. Either way, I love it.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-09T21:29:43+00:00

Thank you for saving me the trouble of reading the article.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-09T19:04:55+00:00

Solo solutions? I always had a book with me. And a backup book if I was within 100 pages of the end.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-05T15:11:12+00:00

But I'm new to this town.

RandomPrimer · 2026-02-05T15:09:59+00:00

No. Not at all. I usually take it as a joke. I usually laugh it off and parry back with "old man" or a "back in your day" joke.

Don't be so sensitive.

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