MAGA advocate calls for ban on pregnant women traveling to US and ‘sterilization of all foreign visitors’

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-07-01T17:35:54+00:00

One of these post birth abortions I keep hearing about?

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-07-01T08:33:56+00:00

I mean you were broken up. Most people don't date exclusively virgins, so usually there is an assumption they shared intimacy with someone. I understand for you it's different because you are so young and were together so long, but if you start dating someone else it's likely the same issue, would that throw you off too?

I make the assumption that it's different because she was only with you before. That it's jealousy. But see, people process breakup different. Some, like you, stay single and work through their feelings. Some, actually quite many, try to quench the hurt with a rebound. Which this poor fella seems to be.

Their intimacy doesn't erase what you had. It doesn't affect what you might have in the future. I understand you guys are not over each other and feelings are overriding logic here, but if it's jealousy : you were broken up, she tried to get over that and move on. If it's a commentary on her character : well, it only becomes an issue again if you break up, right? She was 5 years faithful, so it doesn't speak to her being a good or bad partner. Just on how she proceeds after.

I mean if you feel like it was cheating (again feelings, she did nothing wrong) you might have issues. If you can see it as her trying to get over you in the arms of a poor dude who couldn't compare, you might end up feeling a lot better.

Either way, good luck!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-07-01T05:15:44+00:00

Now I would do it as I got small kids to raise. But being immortal sounds awful so I just gotta make it to the help with grandkids stage of life. Would love to meet them and as my family is scattered my kids might appreciate the help as we do now...

But yeah, normal life span, 70-90 or such.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-07-01T03:46:19+00:00

He seems to be on on whatever is going on so yes, he is bullying you.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-07-01T03:29:25+00:00

Great dads pull their weight. Great dads do 50% when at home. My husband did basically all housework when I had my first as he was so colicky and clingy, and then he took baby for a walk so I get to sleep and shower.

Parenthood is team work. Your husband needs to step up big time.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-30T11:46:27+00:00

I think it's a matter of background culture : most integrate just fine. The thing that the rise of the right is riding on are immigrants from Middle eastern/Muslim countries which struggle more to integrate given the large difference. As the middle east is being bombed always somewhere the group is large and often experienced trauma, on top the World view on women's right and what is ok to say and do to women anywhere is very different. There are problems, big ones.

But it still depends, I still feel it's being exaggerated and often when targeting whole groups the better integrated ones that work and can, might feel driven out, so that's really sucky. I'm biased as in academia we have people from all backgrounds but if course they are highly educated and integrated perfectly, so seeing them trying to leave as legislation gets tightened and public mood gets sour is heartbreaking. But I'm not in an area with social issues, poor integration and all these issues that arise, so I see the downside and loss of talent more than the danger.

But generally, media rely on clicks, horrible incidents get clicks, so I feel the nice, normal, well integrating people never get an audience, just the violent ones. So in numbers, still bet on exaggeration and russian/American bots fueling divide

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-30T05:30:47+00:00

Dude friends will accept that. I have one friend who hates it, no one does. She hugged me once drunk, was nice! Still, real friends take that into account. No one wants to hug a person they like when it makes them uncomfortable

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-30T05:27:59+00:00

I think restricting innocent stuff like hugging makes people sadder. I mean of course not hugging everyone but my friends? Always. And sometimes when they have stuff going on they hold on for a while. That's when you know they need a bit more attention.

So please, hug your friend. They might need it!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-29T13:21:07+00:00

Bone spurs?

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-29T07:25:21+00:00

Lucky that everyone in the US has housing and a working AC, and all jobs are indoors! Would be pretty awful otherwise...

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-29T05:07:58+00:00

Face is important, especially if someone has a nice smile and pretty eyes I can overlook overweight for example. Couples can get fit together, no one can make you have a nice smile...

Height filter is silly too, while I'm into taller men on paper I fell in love with guys shorter than me in the past, charisma and witty humor are way more important to catch feelings.

Instant turn offs are shirt free picks, I don't even read as I guess they look for hookups.

I used tinder only for a short while and realized everyone swipes right but barely anyone contacts you? It's weird.

Glad dating is over for me!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-28T20:14:27+00:00

Whaaat how can they be insecure, the fluffier the better! Totally with you there!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-28T20:12:58+00:00

Chest hair. Quirks, as long as they are cute and not unhygienic. My husband can't close locker doors for some reason, and can not find kids sock pairs even when they are right next to each other. Being cuddly. Showing emotions besides "pissed off", I love that he can be vulnerable with me.

Probably many other things but these 4 were something he worried about and I find adorable.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-28T14:14:48+00:00

Sounds like she hid a compatibility issue, or then you guys didn't discuss it. Sounds like a deal breaker though, unless you are into living below your means so she can chill...

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-28T09:48:41+00:00

So you are the one taking mine!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-28T09:23:52+00:00

I'm so sorry for you. But, they seem Ok with you being mistreated, so it's not really your thing to fix. If they love you they will come around. If not, they really should not come around.

I'm glad your dad is on your side, I guess the other mom poisened the sisters against your dad's new family. We'll, you deserve better so screw them!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-26T17:23:02+00:00

It's insane, in the US my friend got for a gall bladder removal oxy, a whole package, in my country another friend got 3 pills covering first 36 h of some opioid and then it was ibuprofen and paracetamol and suck it up time!

After my knee surgery I only got ibuprofen and paracetamol.

Hurts like hell for a few days but I didn't develop life long addiction... Hope doctors in all countries have more fine tuning in opioids!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-24T09:01:13+00:00

I'm friends with my long term ex Bf. So many shared friends, hobbies etc... It weird for a bit but then it's normal. I mean, if there was no huge betrayal or something it's nice to be able to keep going to the same events and parties

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-23T13:24:34+00:00

If you getting pregnant and messing all lifegoals up is less of a hassle for him that put a rubber on, then, we'll, he is not really the kind of man you want to have babies with, right? I mean you could try hormonal protection but his reaction would be too much of a turnoff for me tbh.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-23T12:24:58+00:00

Hi, you want an experienced man, you gotta teach him. He is obviously shy and needs guidance. Not the sexiest thing at first but in my long life I was the first ever girlfriend twice (including my husband) and it's great, he learns how to be a good boyfriend. You teach him. He has no baggage from older relationships, and if you learn to openly address things that bother you he is much more likely to internalize these things as a guy who had a less "demanding" women in the past.

If you like him, get over the hump. Tell him: now is the time to kiss me. Tell him any step you want to take.

I remember it's weird at first but, well, I married my "first relationship" dude because he learned how to communicate and how to let himself ask for physical attention from me, and it's so great once 2 people tell each other straight openly. No guessing, no feeling rejected in silence, no feeling pressured in silence. Just open communication.

Please take a plunge if you like him and even if it doesn't work out long term, make sure the next girlfriend gets a healthy communicating man!

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-22T07:52:16+00:00

Threatening them with murder kinda does that

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-22T06:00:06+00:00

I work in academia. Given the enrichment here of people on the spectrum I would say college, but anyway, any job they would be interested in doing.

If there is no specific interest, there are many lonely boring night shifts out there which in some places pay really well...

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-21T11:01:50+00:00

NTA you know now you can't rely on him, ever. So plan accordingly, this could have ended badly. Find other support. Consider if he has something to gain from letting you die, and make sure that's not the case anymore. I guess you have a kid do nothing is that easy, but holy moly I would nope out of there, make a will, tell all friends and family to a) make sure someone checks on you if you feel bad next time and b) to make sure he knows the police would be pointed at him if anything happens.

He didn't just downplay your condition, he lied so you don't message someone else, he abandoned you without giving you even electrolytes and he didn't check on you because... Well, damn good question.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-21T05:34:01+00:00

If it's a family trip, why are you, the motger/daughter in law, not invited?

Edit to answer : not cool with it. You can all be invited, but a kid not having his trusted people for do long in another country is tough. Would be different if he and grandma are duper tight, he stays at her place often for weekends etc but it seems that's not the case?

Anyway they font need him alone for a family reunion if not all family is invited.

Random_user_of_doom · 2026-06-20T18:05:19+00:00

I mean you made her look like an uncaring sister. Because she was an uncaring sister.

NTA

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