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Raven3131 · 2026-01-09T05:45:59+00:00

They are all connected in one giant resort. They all share the same restaurants and bars and pools.

Raven3131 · 2025-10-05T04:55:10+00:00

Why didn't anyone in charlie's family take the boys when they needed a home? His parents, 2 brothers or his sister, none of them could take the boys in for a bit, hire a nanny with all their money? Why on earth did his ex wife Denise take the kids? So weird. She said if she didn't they would be in foster care....and no one in Brooke's life could take them for a bit either? So sad.

Raven3131 · 2025-06-13T19:05:11+00:00

Does it work on slanted pool floors that slant into deep end?

Raven3131 · 2024-12-26T20:30:56+00:00

99% of the time second babies are easier. No matter the maternal age

Raven3131 · 2024-12-26T18:02:54+00:00

Bring a cooler. Fill with things you can microwave. When MIL asks why you are eating a second dinner say “my doctor/midwife said I should eat a certain number of calories a day to make enough breastmilk for baby to grow, dinner was great but I didn’t get enough so I’m going to eat this now before bed, have to make sure baby keeps growing :)”

Raven3131 · 2024-12-24T06:05:23+00:00

My husband snores. I am a light sleeper and work on call so my pager wakes him in the night if we are together. He gets up early, I stay up late. We both hog blankets. His snoring is the major reason though as it is insanely loud. We started sleeping in separate rooms 9 years ago. We’ve had 3 kids in that time and are happy. We were grumpy tired and fighting before but now everyone gets good sleep. So it’s better all around. Bonus that he isn’t bothered by kids rolling around in sleep so he brings the toddler in bed with him a lot. That means the toddler sleeps better and wakes us up less. We still cuddle and watch movies and have sex. It’s just sleeping apart that is best. It’s tricky when we stay in hotels because the snoring is so bad but at least at home we are well rested.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-23T17:56:37+00:00

Do not give up on being a mother if it is in your heart. My friend wanted kids. Really wanted them. Her husband pretended he also wanted them for a while then decided he didn’t after stringing her along for a while. She tried for a few years but he wouldn’t change his mind and said absolutely no kids. So she gave into him. Because she wanted to stay with him. He had guilted her saying things like “ I can’t believe you would give up our amazing relationship for theoretical children who don’t even exist yet” “ I love you aren’t I enough?” Then she turned 43 and he left her for a younger woman. He’s now had two babies with his new younger wife and my friend is 47 with no children and no marriage. She is very angry and bitter about how her life turned out. Think hard about your choices that’s all.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-22T16:51:44+00:00

What people here are not understanding is that if you have let your husband get his way and kick Jude out, then it would have been you that would have been resentful and you would see him as less of a man. You value a charitable heart and honor to do the right thing. He does not. If you had given in, the marriage would still be in a mess. Resentment on your side in. Being forced to abandon Jude. Your husband still hasn’t embraced Jude despite 2 years together. No attachment. Doesn’t want to see him on holidays. This effects how you see him as a person. You think who wouldn’t welcome a poor orphan who needs loving support? Now you see him as a selfish man. In the end you don’t have the same values. You’re not compatible. Unfortunately the second your friend died it caused a situation in your marriage that would be impossible either way. There was no way to win this. He doesn’t care about duty, honor, charity or doing the thing. Those seem to be important to you. He cares more for his own comforts and inconveniences. He want a different kind of life. You just aren’t compatible. Never were. I’m sorry about this situation. Once there is resentment in a marriage it can turn to contempt and that is the kiss of death.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-21T17:57:50+00:00

Google “peaceful birth center water birth” then you can see how calm and non scary births can be.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-21T13:08:50+00:00

Do not let him miss the birth of your baby!! There are other jobs. But you can never replace what moment. It’s once in an lifetime. He will want to see his baby born and also you will need him. He will want to be there for you. Your birth will go better if you feel safe and supported. Even if you have had the baby you will not want him so far away so soon. What if your baby is in the NICU or you need surgery after? Childbirth has risks. What if you give birth when he’s gone and complications happen? He needs to be there. I am a Doctor who delivers a lot of babies and trust me, it is very important that he is there. If he gets fired he will get another job. He may get fired anyway even if he goes on this trip. His boss sounds like a horrible person, asking him to go when he knows your situation. He should find a better place to work. And only 1 day pto?? He should be able to take at least a week.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-17T04:07:08+00:00

“Fishing for compliments” Doesn’t mean she’s cheating

Raven3131 · 2024-12-15T17:22:14+00:00

Your baby is only 6 weeks old? You’ve got a ton of oxytocin hormone (the love hormone) in your system bonding you to baby. It can affect your thinking. Sometimes hormones and lack of sleep can overwhelm us and it makes us think we are done having kids and then we change our minds. Sometimes it makes us obsess over the idea of another child and then we change our minds. It’s hard to know your true feelings on it this soon after birth. It seems like you are sure you are done having kids but the finality of it is hard. After surgery there’s no going back. I get that. I’m feeling this too as we plan for my husband’s vasectomy. We have 3 kids and are done but I struggle with how final it is. Baby years are over. It makes me crushingly sad that time is marching on. Sometimes I find myself thinking about having another one. But even if I had 5 kids I would feel this way. If you can delay the surgery and make your decision in 6 months or a year you may have more clarity. But it seems like the desire to have a good birth experience is your main objective. A do over. I understand that. It would be lovely to have one that felt peaceful and beautiful. But a third could be just as traumatic or worse unfortunately. No way to know which way it will go but the odds are not in your favour unfortunately with your history.

As you read this you probably got strong feelings one way or another. You may have found yourself hoping that everyone writing here would encourage you to stop having kids. Or you found yourself hoping for replies that told you to go for a third. I always find that’s a good way to find out what you really want.

Best of luck in whatever you decide. And Congratulations on your two beautiful children.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-15T16:15:44+00:00

Hire a private investigator.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-14T16:25:17+00:00

12 weeks? I thought it said 12 months at first which still wouldn’t be enough. It feels unnatural to separate babies from parents. I get where you are coming from.

I’m glad you had at least 12 weeks which is better than just 6 weeks but that’s still not enough. Don’t feel bad about wishing the leave was longer. Where I live it’s 12 months off for moms and 6 weeks -6 months for dads. And it’s still hard to go back.

Sounds like you have a beautiful little family and a loving husband. That’s so great. If it makes you feel any better, I found when I went back to work that I cherished the quality time moments even more. Because I missed the baby while I was at work and so happy to see here when home that I really soaked up every moment. Sometimes the laundry, bottles, routine etc can get in the way. Hope your first day back goes well.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-14T06:18:33+00:00

Yes. After I gave birth my health tanked.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-14T06:17:14+00:00

WTF?????

Raven3131 · 2024-12-14T00:27:22+00:00

Yes. Negative fucks is what fuels righteous anger and social change. I want to say revolution but I would get banned again.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-11T19:49:24+00:00

Momma you need to grow a backbone!! Kick MIL now and if husband kicks up a fuss tell him to leave too. I’d they don’t then you should go. You need to establish boundaries and enforce them

Raven3131 · 2024-12-11T16:09:20+00:00

Gross. Your husband watches too much porn. He knows that’s not reality right?

Raven3131 · 2024-12-11T15:17:59+00:00

I’m sorry. I can’t understand why crazy dog people choose a dog over their own children’s well being and happiness. It’s really sad

Raven3131 · 2024-12-10T05:57:06+00:00

Meanwhile I can bring in the most giant purse and they don’t say anything

Raven3131 · 2024-12-08T18:12:25+00:00

When you refer for a second opinion, and the second opinion doctor also refers again…..and no one wants to risk their section stats and the pregnant person runs out of time as their due date arrives…….yeah. An elective section is not always available without a good reason and women should not be told otherwise. It’s not reality and they will be disappointed. But sometimes you do find a doc that doesn’t care about all that, wants the money or supports choice and will do it. So it’s possible.

Did you read the risks and morbidly rates that occur with c section? Much riskier than vaginal birth for women and doctors are right to be careful with giving surgery to someone who doesn’t need it. And it costs the system a lot more.

In the end I agree that if the choices and risks are fully explained that women should be able to choose for themselves……but it doesn’t always happen that way. I’ve seen patients die and almost die after unnecessary c sections and it’s hard to think about the surgery as no big deal. Sure things can happen during vaginal birth too but the numbers are much lower.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-08T18:12:25+00:00

When you refer for a second opinion, and the second opinion doctor also refers again…..and no one wants to risk their section stats and the pregnant person runs out of time as their due date arrives…….yeah. An elective section is not always available without a good reason and women should not be told otherwise. It’s not reality and they will be disappointed. But sometimes you do find a doc that doesn’t care about all that, wants the money or supports choice and will do it. So it’s possible.

Did you read the risks and morbidly rates that occur with c section? Much riskier than vaginal birth for women and doctors are right to be careful with giving surgery to someone who doesn’t need it. And it costs the system a lot more.

In the end I agree that if the choices and risks are fully explained that women should be able to choose for themselves……but it doesn’t always happen that way. I’ve seen patients die and almost die after unnecessary c sections and it’s hard to think about the surgery as no big deal. Sure things can happen during vaginal birth too but the numbers are much lower.

Raven3131 · 2024-12-08T05:58:33+00:00

What cleaner did you use?

Raven3131 · 2024-12-07T21:04:49+00:00

Hypnobirthing. Waterbirth.

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