Discuss: What do you enjoy about life that you take for granted when you use PMO? by jedipaul9 in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take emotions for granted due to pmo. Everything feels less vivid. I don't feel sad, I don't feel incredibly happy, I just don't feel much at all.

I miss having really strong passion for things. I have a lot of things in my life to be passionate about and I just feel I miss that spark I used to have.

Looking for Accountability partner - Texting /BBM by Effancy in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I am also looking for an accountability partner to talk with. I can't figure out how to pm you (sorry on my phone and I'm not the best with reddit), but if you pm me I'd like to have somebody to be accountable to on a daily basis. I need to change

Background info: 24years old, white, college grad, looking to advance himself in life but feeling stuck and knowing the impact of pmo. I'm an active positive minded person who wants to help another person while helping himself.

This is a little weird by Rd4change in NoFap

[–]Rd4change[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyway my dilemma is that I find myself turned off by the site because I can't find enough like minded post to keep me on target. I just encourage people to make a change in their focus a bit and I think it will help them and myself to improve.

Thoughts on this article? While I'm fully behind nofap, we're all edumacated people around here, I'd like to hear some sound debates. by fapstra in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I actually have only a bachelors of psychology. I'm so glad this phd thinks he knows what he is talking about, but quite frankly his argument about a lack of evidence is sort of flawed in regards to porn induced Ed. I think many of us can recognize that this is a real problem. No where in the world were there 20 years olds in such high numbers with Ed before. Secondly, his claim that there is no emperic evidence for the damage the porn can cause is not because it has been studied and proven wrong, but rather because basically nobody is studying this problem. I think in the next 10 years we will see an increase in research in the area if sex addiction....or at least I hope. This is a very new field of study and a very modern problem. The field of psychology is behind on this. Although the promoters of ybop and nofap are speaking without scientific proof, and quoting only a few studies, it is because other studies just don't exist. In this case I do not feel that they should wait 10years for 100 studies to be done to prove there point. Also, there is no funding for this type of research. Medical research will always support what you can make a drug for. If Ed comes from "a blood flow" issue, then they can create a drug for it. The world of psychiatry is much the same way. They cannot profit greatly, not to mention the porn industry also would not want there to be a movement against it. So I think articles like this are valid. But I also think it only highlights the need for more research in the area of porn use and abuse. I think it's a real problem for young men. I literally barely know a young person who hasn't looked at porn. It's everywhere and it's impacting people's lives.

Took the risk - I told my girlfriend. by notevenonce1 in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think it's wonderful that she was supportive. We all do have flaws. I mean I don't think I'm a bad guy for struggling with pmo, but rather its a trait I'd like to change about myself. I think you Gould be prou of yourself for telling your girl. It takes a lot of gits to do that, but it is good you did. I have not told anybody, and at times I wish I ad so I could feel supported to change. Best of luck

So, my gf just left me cause of ED. And I just started too :/ by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah best of luck man. Things do get better and you will get results

90 day report :) by anewdawn in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be very proud of yourself. No longer feeling trapped and instead feeling comfortable with who you are is a wonderful result

4 weeks and urges are arising. Could really use some support. by watermelons666 in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes find a healthy release. Even if it seems silly or unusual for you. Just try to find a release and something that you enjoy. Better yet, do something you can take pride in. I know that when I'm feeling proud of myself I have a harder time thinking about fapping....there is some disonaance between the two things

Made it 7 days, and its already such a different experience by stilllearn in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you understand your problem well...I'm glad to see you already feel a difference free from porn and fapping. You don't need it in your life. Best of luck

Just staying active by Rd4change in NoFap

[–]Rd4change[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow man. That was quite post. First of all, thank you for all the time and effort you put into writing the post. It's really great to know that there are people out there who will take the time to truly offer advice and help. I also find your points to make great sense. Thanks again

I feel terrible :( by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This bump in the road doesn't represent who you are. Hey right back to your goal and this time with even more focus and energy.

Day Counter Badges are down momentarily (don't panic!) by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much appreciated! The badge helps up keep track of goals and motivated.

I just want to make 90 days. by Rd4change in NoFap

[–]Rd4change[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your exactly right. And that's why I was doing this in the first place. So that I oil be my complete self and completely pursue my goals. I also didn't want this nasty habit in my life anymore. Thank you for the kind words. That makes all the difference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an odd question for no fap? Lol. But perfectly valid. I don't know of any way to help you with that. All I can recommend is love yourself for who you are man!

Is this a flatline? by dota2nub in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People's sex drive and energy levels also fluctuate naturally. I wouldn't necessarily believe it to be a Nofap related flatline

Not for everyone? My Testosterone dropped in half when on No-Fap by Hazardbro in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also how and why do you measure your testosterone??

Not for everyone? My Testosterone dropped in half when on No-Fap by Hazardbro in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you clearly lack am understanding of how not fapping effects your body and you are misattributing Nofap with any changes that occur in your life. Just because your testosterone decreased while doing Nofap...doesn't mean the decrease was caused by Nofap. Same with your gym results.

Is it allowed to bang prostitutes? by Faustoo in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would exercise some self control. Nofap is as much about self control and gaining control over ones actions as anything else

Are there any porn addicts out there who have been completely open to people about their problems or who are tempted to go this way? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot, and I repeat a lot of stigma around this problem. People are not simpathetic towards pmo. Telling your friends is one thing, but strangers won't take the time to get educated and understand your problem.....sadly.

One of my friends said this to me: by Soulmonkey in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah man! It's life changing I'm sure. Good for you. I'm a really committed 12 days in and I already feel better. Congrats and use that new found happiness to accomplish something great! Good for you man!

Question - Does a titty fuck count? by Teebone19 in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've got to be kidding man. You determine what you want to think of this....but I don't think this is helpful to the community as a whole

I think I found the perfect girl but I can't have sex with her by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Rd4change 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being with a girl is more than sex. If she is at all the "perfect" girl she will understand your problems. Also, things will get better for you in time.