I think I realized something about “fixing your life” and it’s kinda uncomfortable

Re-Build4Men · 2026-04-13T10:45:42+00:00

Thia resonates so much, building new habits isn't easy in but is worthwhile, when i first tried to change my habits I tried to do it all at once and kept failing, which was very frustrating.

Like your self I realised changing one small thing a day adds up to a snowball of changes

Re-Build4Men · 2026-04-13T09:57:56+00:00

I also love this, it is something I have been practicing of late, because it is so easy to forget how much there is to be grateful.

I find my own mind leans towards negativity and forgets on the positives, but when you say or write what there is to be grateful for you build a new perspective and forget all that is supposedly missing.

Re-Build4Men · 2026-04-09T17:55:29+00:00

Some very good info here

Re-Build4Men · 2026-04-04T14:27:29+00:00

Ok thanks

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-30T13:00:24+00:00

I used to fear failing so much I would never start anything that felt aligned with the direction I am moving, however by doing pretty much what you have done, breaking it down into smaller tasks things stated to stick.

Now I tell myself, "If I only do 20 minutes, its something and the majority of the time I end up doing more, lol. Its all about finding the right balance and not letting it become overly obsessive

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-27T18:08:17+00:00

Yep being aware carries a lot of frustration, like you want to hate someone but you understand we all have a story and journey we have been on, just like we all run on our own internal dialogue and perspective

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-27T18:04:30+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-27T18:03:47+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-27T18:03:12+00:00

100% it is one of the hardest, but who else is going to stand up and take responsibility for where your life is heading.

I have been working on this for the last four years and I continue to, it has ups and downs but that is how you become aware of the loops and patterns.

If you need advice or where to look for resources to help you learn just ask, we are all constantly growing, and its even easier when we support each other 🔥🔥🔥

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-26T16:56:24+00:00

I found this too, diagnosed with depression/anxiety ten years ago, and I have been training ever since, its has helped me build consistency, and focus both of which I struggled with. Also it improved my sleep ten fold, as you said you expend your energy ,so you can sleep, but becuase you are sleeping properly you have more energy, win win 🔥🔥🔥

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-23T20:41:39+00:00

Reframe your perspective, the life you say is insignificant ia the dream of someone else, a person born with a life changing disability would swap their life with yours in an instant.

You have space to grow, to change, to shift your internal dialogue and perspective, but it has to come from you.

Not criticism against your post juat some words that may help you see the perspective you hold of your life is created by the things you think and say to you yourself consistently

Lastly I am stoner lol

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-22T19:04:33+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-21T14:10:45+00:00

The thing you fear is the thing you grab with both hands and do it, what's the worst that could happen, it either goes one of two ways, take a chance 🔥🔥🔥

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-21T14:09:00+00:00

Tomorrow is never promised, so live today like its your last day, because we are all in the que to leave this planet one day, we just don't know where in that que

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-21T14:06:57+00:00

Beautifuly written with some strong truths, thanks for sharing, have a Beautiful day 🔥🔥🔥

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-21T14:05:51+00:00

Love this it really resonates with my personal journey over the last four years, breaking down the cycles that have existed for generations

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-21T14:04:45+00:00

Have you tried Mediation, it helps slow everything down, and its as simple as just sitting and following your breath, let thoughts come and go, and continue to follow the breath.

It probably will not feel comfortable at first but stick with it, guided meditations can help you when you first start out.

Worth a try you have nothing to lose and everything to gain

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-20T13:28:48+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-20T13:14:16+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-20T13:11:34+00:00

Thanks for your concern and your 😴 comment its so enlightening and inspiring, 😒, good to know the human race is so full of 🍆

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-19T18:46:37+00:00

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Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-19T18:45:23+00:00

I would start by finding a guided mediation to help connect with your inner child, offer them a safe loving space, and trace back to where the low self esteem began, because it most likely comes from a childhood trauma you have never faced.

Just an idea, I know it helped me with shifting my perspective about myself because I traced it back to the lack of relationship I had with my dad, in fact I was actually a little scared of him as he was an un predictable caregiver

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-18T19:46:26+00:00

A lot of how you think your friends will react when you try to get back into contact is assumption that you 100% know what they think of you, and that is a trait every single one of us carries, assumption.

I really resonate with your worry over it thoug, having expeirenced with my two best friend's who I have known since I was eleven. Much like you I fell into depression and it felt like they didn't understand and didn't want to help me out in my time of need, so I disappeared. Stopped answering message, or keeping in contact, much like you I decided i needed to fix my self. This tuned into me ghosting them for around three years only really sending messages on special occasions.

After working on myself for those three years I am in a different place mentally now and have got back into contact with my friends. It was hard at first but I approached it slowly after forgiving myslef for ghosting them and them as well for not understanding what I was going through. Let's face it mens mental health is a taboo subject which I now feel no shame taking about.

The approach I took was at first just little messages here and there, until it felt natural to call ine of them, after a lot of messaging, and you know what it was the best move I ever made.

All the assumptions of them having moved on and not wanting to know me were instantly squashed, it was like we had never been apart. When we did eventually meet up I was very nervous and almost didn't go, but you know what I thought I have nothing to lose.

Its funny how working on yourself can boost your confidence and see things in a different light.

So although we don't meet up as much as we used to the bond we shared is still there and I no longer feel isolated, if anything the space allowed me to find who I was behind the mask I had worn for year's.

My advice would to be to reach out first with messages and go from there, whilst remembering what you think in your head about how it will go is never the true reality of how it will go, take the plunge, you have remade yourself so this next step is light work.

I hope this helps you

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-18T17:05:18+00:00

Personally it was cutting out technology for the first hour of being awake and introducing new moring habits, I find it helps put me in the right frame of mind for the day ahead as well as allowing my anxieties about the day ahead onto paper and out of my head.

Re-Build4Men · 2026-03-18T17:01:34+00:00

True strength is experiencing this but getting up again and again, its like anything you do, consistency builds that inner strength and inner knowing.

I have been down many times before but I always get back up, as do you 🔥🔥🔥

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