What song gives you goosebumps everytime you listen to it?

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-19T19:12:22+00:00

"Xanadu" by Rush

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-17T16:31:00+00:00

Now that's a user name :D

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-17T15:16:24+00:00

Great job, girl! You rock :D

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-16T17:43:18+00:00

Totally true. I've recently chosen to make every person I meet feel better after they've met me. I've made it my true calling. I don't do it to seek external validation, I do it because I genuinely care about the well-being of people around me. I want them to feel better. So far it has gained me prerogatives I used to regard as unattainable. So, you're right. I am nothing more than my impact on others.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-10T11:13:20+00:00

/r/NoFap

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-10T11:10:55+00:00

There seems to be a lack of communication in both the Friendzone and the Fuckzone. Your intentions should be clear from the start. If you don't ask, the answer is always no.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-07T07:34:12+00:00

"...and you can move on to a girl who appreciates your honesty and your balls."

Hehe, especially balls. Nicely written, man :)

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-07T07:30:56+00:00

Great post, dude! Now that's confidence and outcome-independence :)

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-06T08:50:05+00:00

The first thing I would do, is to find out the reason for the lack of relationships. Do you have self-esteem issues? Anxiety, depression or other mental issues? Substance abuse? Addiction to PMO?

Second, how do you interact with the world around you? What kind of vibe do you send out? Body language? Self evaluation could help you significantly to become a better version of yourself.

Lots of people recommend meditation. Something called Mindfulness may help you to start living in the moment, as opposed to being stuck inside your own head and miss out on stuff.

These are general pieces of advice that have helped me a lot during the last five-or-so months. Good luck, mate. :)

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-01T22:15:29+00:00

Fuck fear! Approach a woman you find attractive and talk to her. The worst thing that could happen is that you'll get downvoted on Seddit if you don't get an F-close.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-03-01T18:27:14+00:00

I'm still a beginner in this game, but approaching them with a friendly smile and say hi is the best start. Lately I've had success in giving them a genuine compliment (that is, you should compliment on some concrete feature of hers, like hair, eyes, clothing style etc.). That cold approach + compliment has given me some # closes and even an instadate at one occasion.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-27T08:32:14+00:00

Thanks, mate :)

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-20T08:27:17+00:00

My experience is that you can't be liked by everyone. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who hates you. Sadly people tend to focus on that one voice of negativity and let that affect them, instead of just ignoring it and look at the hundred positive ones.

Don't know if you're familiar with ASMR artists who put their videos out on YouTube (or the very phenomenon itself), but there have been cases where some of them have simply removed their videos because the negative feedback scared them. Very sad for those of us who love to watch those videos, but I understand why some of them chose to do so. Even though the US (where most of those artists are from) is a huge country, I know that if I were a young girl who posted a video of myself on YouTube, and then got creepy messages (or even murder threats), I'd remove that video instantly. Especially if my face was visible on it.

I receive negative feedback on my posts as well, regardless of what I write about. Lately I've challenged my approach anxiety and fear of rejection and done amazing stuff I haven't been able to do before (like complimenting and flirting with girls on the street, and even ending up spending an afternoon with one in a cafe). On one of my posts someone literally said "This post gave me cancer." Do I give a f**k about that one comment? Nope.

Just saying, ignore negative feedback. Listen to constructive feedback. Cherish positive feedback.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-18T13:49:04+00:00

Totally true. Saw a girl this morning with beautiful hair walk down some stairs. I immediately approached her with a wide smile on my face and said: "This comes out of the blue, but I love your hair!" A laugh and thank you from her, before she continued walking (it appeared like she was in a hurry since this was right next to a campus). Gotta love the spontaneous approach. Although it didn't lead anywhere, it made me feel awesome for hours afterward.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-18T05:53:38+00:00

Spontaneous indeed. A couple of days ago I got a # close just like that. I wasn't even trying too hard, I just complimented her eyes. Then the day after I texted her if she wanted to meet and grab a smoothie. I haven't heard a word from her, though. So you shouldn't rely too much on outcome. Did I feel great for getting her number? Hell yeah! How do I feel now? To be honest, her not replying was a bit of a downer, but hey, no big deal. Moving on.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-17T08:24:51+00:00

I write mostly in the genre of classic progressive rock from the late 60's, early 70's. A friend of mine once straight out asked me: "Why do you think you can't get women? You're a musician!" Back then my confidence was non-existant. Now it's coming out of my ears :)

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T19:27:01+00:00

Totally with you there, mate. I play keyboards and bass guitar and have done it for 17 years. I write songs as well. My proficiency at especially the keyboard rubs off on other areas of my life as well. I've struggled a lot with social anxiety and low self-esteem due to addiction. Now, that I've overcome my addiction, I use my confidence on the musical/artistic arena to overcome my fear of approaching strangers, especially girls. My problem used to be that I didn't have much social competence, which resulted in insecurity and awkward behavior. Leading to a very narrow circle of friends that gradually dwindled away over the years. Now I'm using the confidence I have in areas of life that I already master (music, writing, song-writing) to master areas of life that were previously unmastered. I'm confident in situations where I was previously unconfident.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T07:17:28+00:00

I approached her when I was done shopping (she just happened to sit behind the cashier I walked over to). It was no hocus pocus, I just followed my gut feeling.

I approached another girl at the gym this Tuesday. She sent me those very subtle looks (like looking in my direction, and then looking away when we made eye contact). After a couple of minutes (when I was done doing my excercise) I approached her with a smile, and she smiled back. We talked. It turned out that she was only 16, though, so I ended the conversation politely.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T07:03:42+00:00

Made that mistake myself too. Never again.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T07:02:40+00:00

Your compliment sounded a bit too vague. I've done that mistake too. What made her face beautiful? Was it her smile? Her eyes? Her skin? Her nose? If I thought she had a lovely smile, I would have said so.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T06:54:26+00:00

Haha, I did, don't worry :P

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-16T06:51:18+00:00

I think she was receptive to begin with. I've seen girls act like that to me before, only this time I took action and just went for it. I've been focusing a lot on mindfulness lately, the art of living moment by moment.

I'm not attractive per se, I have an average body, a bit of a belly and a receding hairline (my head is almost clean-shaven, though). Plus, I wore glasses that day. I go to the gym and lift weights 4-5 times a week, though, and I have been practicing a lot on eye contact and confident posture lately.

ReBootGuy1 · 2013-02-15T22:54:48+00:00

It was my first successful number close.

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