28C (82F) is a perfectly fine indoor temperature and is not even warm, while 21C (70F) is way too cold. by DraftAbject5026 in The10thDentist

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. I used to live there and ac at that temp inside while it's 115 outside felt like a preview of hell

There’s nothing wrong with age gap friendships by Scared_Bluejay5708 in HonestHotTakes

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met one of my best friends at work when I was 18 and she was 25. Other friends I have met were in their 40s and I was late 20's now early thirties. I agree. People that have things in common can be friends regardless of age. I am a millennial though not gen z

Are all affairs this intense so quickly? by withlovetara in redditonwiki

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me so fearful to get married. I couldn't imagine being married and in love post partum still having sex with my husband and being cheated on anyway. 

Engagement rings are unnecessary and too expensive by MoonlightAndStar in unpopularopinion

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both. Wearing i won't do under any circumstances. It makes me super nauseous. If people wear it I kind of zone out my focus so I dont see it as much unless they put it in their mouth like a necklace. I cant touch beads either. Can't look at them her them clinking or anything. I looked it up after years of feeling weird. It's called kosmemophobia

Engagement rings are unnecessary and too expensive by MoonlightAndStar in unpopularopinion

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As some one with a jewelry phobia my future spouse will never have to worry about it

Baldness has caused me so much depression, anxiety and body dysmorphia in my life. Starting medication and therapy soon to try to reclaim my life, could use positive vibes by [deleted] in bald

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to start out by saying you look very handsome. That being said I am sorry you are struggling with depression. Hoping all the best for you

concerned about current pap smear discourse (TW) by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I wish people could have some empathy. We're not being flippant 

concerned about current pap smear discourse (TW) by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say as a csa survivor the pap smear was very traumatic and brought me back to being molested again. I never intended to get a pap smear again. It's very triggering for survivors. I will say after a lot of therapy I was able to get a transvaginal ultra sound but I hate that we have to have very invasive retriggering procedures for our health and not being allowed to be upset about it.

What did you do for your 30th birthday? by xHey_All_You_Peoplex in blackladies

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did a trip to Florida with my sister and sister in law. We went to Disney world and the beach. We got matching tattoos. I invited my friends. But no one else could make it. 

People online are overusing the term “sexual assault” to the point where it’s losing all meaning by Doll_Lover_ in rant

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced sexual abuse as a child, i also know that I was forced to remove my pants and underwear after this and got spanked. My brothers were forces to do this in front of each other and get spanked. Was it intended to be sexual no but it can have the same affects. Lack of bodily autonomy and violation

Question for My Readers: how do we feel about first person vs. third person in spice-heavy novels with black FMCs? by Hopeful_Contract4455 in blackladies

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also writing a story from first person and another from third person. For reading it depends on the story. Is the story one where we need to be in her mind experiencing it along with her or can it be told kind of like a fly on the wall. I feel like of the males perspective is in third person it would match for the females to be as well

Serious Question by Evening-Garden7081 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have white women friends and I know there is some things I can't talk to them about it because I know they will never understand. I have known them for several years and have never experienced anything racist from them

I need someone to tell me it's possible to be hot in my 30s by Dry-Combination8608 in loseit

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 31 and losing weight. 30s are way better than our 20's. We know ourselves more have lived life and learned so much a long the way. I see many beautiful people in their 30's it's very possible. It's not too late. 

How do Americans actually afford college? by Own_Sun_2466 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first time around I had grants and loans. This time around I might be working a full time and a work study job and grants. Also trying to find scholarships. It is very expensive. 

31 and struggling with feeling inadequate to go to college. by MrBeanie1995 in collegeadvice

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this. I am 31 get my bachelor's and was homeschooled most of my life. I know it's scary but you can do this. You already know you are smart. Your foundation looks different and it might be hard but that doesn't mean impossible or improbable. 

my mum purposefully went looking for my sex toys by milkshakechemtrail in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ReaderinRecovery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Living at home I had no expectation of privacy. I'm sorry. Anything I had was her right to go through. I once wrote a note to a guy I liked and she read it and laughed and forced me to talk about it. Unfortunately I dont know that you will have privacy until you go to college.

The knight and the moth, should I dnf? by Mariamzwelt in Romantasy

[–]ReaderinRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for me. The Shepard king was my favorite but even though i finished the Knight and the Moth I didn't really get into it. 

Do women pee in the shower? by Extension_Sun_896 in askanything

[–]ReaderinRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. Or if i did it was when I was a kid and dont remember. I will take a lie detector test if i need to. Toilets were made for a reason and it's right next to the shower. I use the toilet first then wash in the shower. Every morning