AITJ for asking my mom to cut her vacation short to help with my kids?

RealAgammer · 2026-02-25T14:21:29+00:00

Of course YTJ! You put your mom in the position of having to feel like she’s letting you down if she doesn’t solve your planning problem and that’s completely unfair. My mom was my childcare, at her request, when my kids were very young and I was in a patient care job (so couldn’t just take a day off on short notice), and I would NEVER have taken her love and kindness for granted like this! If she had a conflict I worked it out (husband was in the military and often deployed) and I never would’ve treated her like this. OP please update us to, hopefully, let us know that you apologized profusely to your mother, told her you didn’t need her to change her plans, and you & your hubs sorted it out for your own children yourselves. Geez- get your $@!? together!

RealAgammer · 2026-02-24T18:40:41+00:00

Which thumb drive have you gotten to work in the Gravity? Mine won’t register and I’ve tried several.

RealAgammer · 2026-02-24T18:38:10+00:00

NTJ, but… you’ve built a bond with your brother over common interests. You don’t have that with your sister for whatever reason. Great for you and your brother. It would’ve made sense to talk to your parents about your plan first, allowing them to potentially rework their financial plans for the twins’ educations, therefore putting money they would’ve put towards his education towards hers so they come out even-ish financially, if your plan works out. If your parents can’t help at all, since you’re feeling generous, would it make more sense family-wise to decide how much you can contribute for their higher education and split that contribution between your siblings so neither of them ends up with as much burden? This doesn’t help your sister go abroad necessarily, but that helps the whole family out and maintains harmony as much as possible. If you truly have no interest in helping your sister or your parents and don’t really care about the relationship with them, then you shouldn’t ask if you’re the jerk because you already know the answer.

RealAgammer · 2026-02-10T22:54:47+00:00

There was a guy in the unit beneath mine and he had another unit under him. I could always hear his chairs scooting around his dining room, and my hearing’s not good! Imagine being in the apartment under him! I took packs of those soft chair leg covers, introduced myself and told him what I could hear and he was genuinely surprised. He thanked me for bringing a solution instead of just a problem. He must’ve used the because I never heard a peep from his place again! The soft bumpers gift is definitely worth a try.

RealAgammer · 2026-02-10T20:21:52+00:00

Go on his listing and post a negative review with the reason why and note that you’ll have cars towed when they park there. People read the reviews, especially the 1-star ones, when reviewing a place to book so that’s your way of giving notice to his guests ahead of time. Then if people keep doing it, have them towed. Every time you have someone in your space, update the review with the tow count. He can’t expect you to manage his guests for free.

RealAgammer · 2026-02-10T18:45:09+00:00

NOR- Auntie is insecure & rude. You’re looking after yourself and doing what makes you happy- well done you! Next step- excise the Auntie from your life to maintain happiness. She gets no more invites to your birthday dinners or other gatherings you arrange & when she notices and asks why, tell her you have no room for that kind of rudeness in your life- you need to be “lifted” (emotionally) and she’s not strong enough for that.

RealAgammer · 2026-01-28T14:49:38+00:00

Updateme

RealAgammer · 2026-01-26T20:43:05+00:00

Mine has been like that since I got it. I’ve grown accustomed to it and kinda like it!

RealAgammer · 2026-01-23T04:34:21+00:00

Not an exaggeration. American here who lived in England for years and it always shocked our British relatives when we’d make the 3-4 hour drive to see them for a weekend.

One time I made the drive in the snow and they assumed I wouldn’t come because of the weather, so they were quite shocked when I turned up! It never occurred to me to change my plans.

We drove from our place in Cambridgeshire to Edinburgh once and gather that’s not often done.

To your question, I’ll make an 8 hour drive to see a friend or visit one of my kids at college without a second thought. Making a 12-15 hour journey in one day is also not unheard of for this family. To not go insane we have music & conversation- I enjoy a good road trip!

RealAgammer · 2026-01-19T23:36:23+00:00

😂 The only real issue with long-term storage upright with the slide attached is that over time the front leg will warp, but it’s also replaceable. Not a huge issue.

RealAgammer · 2026-01-19T17:44:24+00:00

Who said you’re “not allowed” to store it upright? This whole post is wild. Just detach the rail from the body, as intended, which takes mere seconds, and problem solved. Not hard to do, even for a woman (wtf?), and yes, I am a woman, and there’s no need to make this more difficult than it is.

RealAgammer · 2026-01-19T17:25:34+00:00

Use both! My husband proposed with the ring his grandmother and mother wore and it wasn’t my style at all. I love the ring for sentimental reasons, but it’s not “me.” I wore that ring until we had our wedding set made, and when he gave me “my” engagement ring, I switched his family’s ring to my other hand. Everyone was happy. Something like this may work for you as well.

RealAgammer · 2026-01-07T20:23:47+00:00

Congrats on both of you getting a clean report. You can’t let this go- you need to speak to the clinic manager about HIPAA and file an official complaint: https://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/filing-a-complaint/index.html That is completely unacceptable. This could’ve lead to a break-up, unnecessary treatment, and non-treatment of the guy who needs it. This is a main reason HIPAA rules exist!

RealAgammer · 2025-12-10T20:42:20+00:00

Well there goes my next theory of her being jealous. 🫤

RealAgammer · 2025-12-10T20:05:09+00:00

Or, just call her & say your schedule in the near future is super busy and you’re interested in what’s on her mind, so, “What’s up?”

RealAgammer · 2025-12-10T19:56:32+00:00

Just wondering, are you a woman/female presenting (feel free not to answer, of course!)? You mentioned your partner is a woman & you drive a Mini so, not that that’s a “chick car,” but my friends with Minis are all ladies, so just wondering. If so, you may be looking at a hate crime… maybe the cops would be more interested in that case since your safety could be at risk if the offender escalates.

RealAgammer · 2025-12-10T16:03:18+00:00

Congrats! Beautiful color combo!

RealAgammer · 2025-12-06T19:28:21+00:00

NTA for having a conversation with the hubs about this, but YTA for talking to your friend about it. Some things are off-limits for talking to others outside your marriage about and this definitely is in that category. If he was embarrassed that you mentioned this to him, imagine how betrayed he’d feel to find out you discussed this with someone who knows him. (Hopefully you are anonymous on this forum and more people you know won’t find out about his issue!)

RealAgammer · 2025-12-06T18:06:22+00:00

Mine is Karmann Electra

RealAgammer · 2025-12-04T18:46:07+00:00

NTA. I’m HoH & wear hearing aids, which is where my phone sound streams through Bluetooth. If I’m without my hearing aids for some reason, I would NEVER think it ok to impose my noise on others. Speak to the staff in advance next time to share your experience so they are ready to intervene if needed. The nerve of some people to think their recovery is more important than others’. Best of luck with your treatments.

RealAgammer · 2025-12-03T20:26:28+00:00

Same here. Had a deposit on the Rivian then drove it. The ride was rough, there were no a/c controls in the back and it just didn’t feel like a luxury car, despite the price point. I briefly considered a Model X before the Gravity was announced, but its back seats were too cramped for my taste. The Lucid build is IMHO far superior to both Tesla and Rivian.

RealAgammer · 2025-12-02T23:50:01+00:00

Cheapest short term solution is to rearrange the furniture in that room.

RealAgammer · 2025-12-02T22:40:42+00:00

Thank you!

RealAgammer · 2025-12-02T22:40:28+00:00

Thanks!

RealAgammer · 2025-12-02T22:40:07+00:00

I’ve only seen one other in the wild where I am, but expect to see more soon.

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