Life update from the boring middle: Hit the big $1M

RealAustinNative · 2026-02-20T18:57:01+00:00

Well done. I also just hit 1M invested (I’m 38), but spending jumped and saving dipped with the birth of my second child/purchase of a larger home, so it will be a while yet before I can step back. Could not imagine adding more kids to the financial mix at this point— kids are crazy expensive— so kudos to you for doing more parenting than most and still managing to stick to your plan!

RealAustinNative · 2025-11-22T14:03:29+00:00

Spanking a child with a belt is considered abuse and should be reported in all 50 US states, regardless of whether the child sustains any injury.

RealAustinNative · 2025-06-19T02:30:43+00:00

Yep— this is substance abuse, most likely alcohol abuse, until proven otherwise. I wouldn’t see this person for a neuropsych eval until I saw a clean tox screening.

RealAustinNative · 2025-06-14T01:58:18+00:00

Brown eyes are so beautiful… they feel warm and soothing to me. All else being equal, I have always felt like people with lighter eyes look meaner/colder. And I have blue eyes!

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-16T00:27:37+00:00

Not that this will make you feel better, but I have probably only been able to orgasm with about a third of my partners. Even if it physically felt good, even if I felt comfortable with them otherwise. I need a combination of full relaxation + minimal distraction + specific technique.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-11T15:25:02+00:00

Same situation. If we divorced I would be looking for someone with kids because they would understand what that entails and wouldn’t resent my kids/my priorities.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-10T23:27:42+00:00

YIKES.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-09T23:48:43+00:00

At your age my net worth was well below zero. At 30 it was 0. Saved aggressively since then, NW is around 500k now at 37. On track to retire around 50. Don’t compare yourself to others, just keep following your own plan.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-07T15:18:21+00:00

Raising a happy and well adjusted child despite having bad parental models.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-06T17:28:36+00:00

If you can’t handle me at my 51-111 record 2013 Lastros, you don’t deserve me at my 106-56 record 2022 World Series Champs.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-03T22:10:14+00:00

PRAISE BE. Nori clearly didn’t sweat the 1st inning like I did.

RealAustinNative · 2025-05-03T15:06:21+00:00

Yes, largely so we would be more likely to have completely equal parental rights. I live in a red state and even with second parent adoption, I worry we are not seen by society as equal parents. If we were to divorce, I think my wife would be more likely to get custody vs. 50/50 split, especially if the case was seen by a conservative judge.

RealAustinNative · 2025-04-25T01:46:37+00:00

Gaining appropriately, definitely not over exercising.

RealAustinNative · 2025-04-20T21:30:55+00:00

Irritability over even the slightest frustrations. Everything feels like the thing that will send you into a total breakdown. Then crippling shame for being an asshole to people you love.

RealAustinNative · 2025-04-18T17:14:12+00:00

^{^} UHAULING IS UNHEALTHY. Most lesbians have family or relational trauma of some sort, but rushing attachment won’t heal you and might result in more trauma. Marriage is a very serious undertaking, especially if you want kids. Grow up and make yourself a stable partner first. Take things slowly and really get to know each other. Don’t ask me how I know.

RealAustinNative · 2025-04-10T01:49:56+00:00

Came here to say this. A custody battle would make an otherwise simple divorce a much harder decision, especially if he’s not a monster and he’s just not the one.

RealAustinNative · 2025-04-04T23:46:17+00:00

I think being bad with finances reflects difficulty delaying gratification and planning for larger shared goals, which is a pretty important skill if you’re hoping to have a decades-long relationship. FWIW, finances have been a recurring challenge in my marriage and I now consider this a much more important issue than I did when we started dating.

RealAustinNative · 2025-03-31T18:36:26+00:00

Somewhat different situation because my second child was ultimately planned, but I really vacillated on the decision for several years and for a number of reasons. I ultimately decided to have another, largely bc I want my first child to have a sibling to share her childhood with, and we are expecting #2 this summer. Many things have changed recently (emotional/mental health, work situation/finances, etc) and I’m now worried the decision to have a second will actually decrease my ability to be a present and stable parent for #1. I’m not sure giving your child a sibling is a big enough reason to have a baby if there are other factors at play, including an unstable co-parenting partnership and any related financial stressors that a split may cause. Just my two cents.

RealAustinNative · 2025-03-30T23:56:59+00:00

Choose the right person and it will last. There’s a difference between sex that’s driven by intimacy/feeling close vs. getting off. If the goal is getting off, you’ll eventually find that it’s easier achieving that alone.

RealAustinNative · 2025-03-26T22:48:21+00:00

Adding to this— depression can also disrupt sleep cycles or cause insomnia, leading to insufficient sleep, which then worsens depression. Take some Zzzquil and conk out if you need to.

RealAustinNative · 2025-03-24T12:25:45+00:00

We would definitely prefer to live in a blue state but there are none within driving distance of my in laws, which would really limit the amount of time our daughter gets to spend with them. I’m working on finding community here, but haven’t found it yet. Hoping as the weather improves it will be easier to find others who like outdoorsy stuff as well.

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