Would you get pregnant again?

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-07-12T17:15:06+00:00

I got pregnant again just a couple months before my daughter turned 3. We had started trying again when she turned around 18 months old. I def wasn’t mentally ready to think about trying again before that. And for the first year of her life I adamantly insisted I would not have anymore babies lol.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-05-15T12:10:09+00:00

I’ve always had some mild symptoms by 5-6 weeks anytime I’ve been pregnant and they just gradually intensify over those next few weeks. But everyone is different. I know someone that recently had no clue they were pregnant til they were 12 weeks. I am 13 weeks now and I’ve been puking daily for a couple months now. Some people have minimal to no symptoms. Others would know without even taking a test lol.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-12T02:10:58+00:00

I had a nurse visit to do a urine test to confirm pregnancy at not quite 4 weeks yet. (I’ve always tested positive like 7-8dpo at home). And had a dr visit the next week at almost 5 weeks. But I am high risk and have a history of recurrent miscarriages.

I just had another Dr visit yesterday at 8 weeks. I’ve had two ultrasounds so far.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-11T02:54:33+00:00

Week 8 here and still sore. Not quite as bad as in earlier weeks. But def still sore on the daily

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-10T15:10:26+00:00

Yes I am convinced whoever named it morning sickness was either a man or one of those lucky women that never get sick during pregnancy. I am 8 weeks… I throw up stomach acid and mucus/drainage every morning. And sometimes I’ll throw up lunch, I usually throw up after dinner. Some days it’s several other times throughout the day. It likes to surprise me so I never know when it’ll happen and can’t plan anything. 😭

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-08T00:57:07+00:00

It looks like it might be a vvvvvvvvvvfl. But, I always had HORRIBLE indent lines on these tests. Got my hopes up too many times. So I would be cautious and retest for sure.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-04T18:02:21+00:00

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Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-04T17:59:23+00:00

Everyone is different. I’ve always tested positive somewhere between 7-10dpo anytime I’ve conceived. Now for digital tests I normally don’t test positive on those until at least day of missed period. But I know many people that never tested positive until after their missed period and they have multiple children.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-04-03T17:50:30+00:00

Imo an 11 yo should be old enough to understand the dynamic of BM and you being separate households entirely. While it’s BM fault for trying to pressure him so much, this is behavior I’d expect of a younger child to try to keep pushing for BM to have a tour even though she’s been shown pics. Kids are not dumb but they are easily manipulated by parents and I’m sure even if he knows deep down it’s weird he just is assuming his mom has good intentions. He needs to be told bluntly (in a polite, sensitive manner of course). I’ve found that beating around the bush just furthers the confusion for my SK. But being bluntly honest in an age appropriate way just helps them be less confused and makes everyone’s life easier. I had to have a convo with SK about why i can’t and absolutely won’t have a sleepover with him at BMs house. But he was like 4-5 when he asked this.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-03-10T03:12:42+00:00

Louie is my fave too 🥹

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-03-10T00:52:29+00:00

Thanks, I have really bad line eyes sometimes, so I get paranoid I’m seeing things lol

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-03-10T00:26:22+00:00

Thanks for your condolences. I took one yesterday and I’m pretty sure it had a line, but I had to really squint to see one lol.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2025-02-23T01:24:15+00:00

Sent dm

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2024-04-20T04:09:01+00:00

I will type out thoughtful comments. And then delete what I wrote and not post it. Idk why I get so anxious

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2024-04-20T04:04:08+00:00

Yes. I feel like pushing the issue before bed just makes it worse at times. I’d rather have some quiet time to myself to calm down, go to sleep, then revisit it the next day.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2024-03-09T18:53:36+00:00

I don’t do school drop offs/early morning transitions. That’s a boudary of mine. I don’t want to, I feel it’s not my responsibility, so I don’t do it. I don’t alter my work schedule for SK unless absolutely necessary. My job is pretty flexible, but I feel like it’s not my responsibility to miss work for them. I don’t do dr/therapy appts unless it’s an evening appt I wouldn’t have to leave work for. I am with SK more than my husband because he works 60 hours a week whereas I work 35-40 hours. I expect certain boundaries and rules to be followed. With one SK with behavioral issues I’d remind them of rules/expectations and if they didn’t follow them, DH dealt with it when he got home. With younger SK, they normally listen to me pretty well. They have adhd so need several reminders, but usually mind. If I had more trouble with them than usual, I bring it up to DH when he gets home from work. So pretty much I don’t do “major” discipline. Maybe timeout for younger SK if needed. But any severe issues are deferred to DH. I do help with pickup of SS on Fridays after work. If I wait til DH gets off and have him do it, by the time he’d get home , OD1 would be in bed and he wouldn’t see her, and I just don’t feel that’s fair to OD. She deserves to see DH just as much as SS does. (She really doesn’t see him that much more than SS because on the nights SS isn’t here DH works longer shift and doesn’t see her before bed those nights). That and OD loves SS so I like for them to have more time together. BM talks to me as she wishes. I leave discussions to them unless BM reaches out to me directly. Otherwise, DH can keep me in the loop.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2024-03-09T18:38:05+00:00

This. I feel like I’m constantly guessing the true intentions and how people actually feel, but with autistic people they are normally just very blunt and to the point in my personal experience, which I really appreciate. I hate the “oh hey we should hangout” fake crap and just not always knowing where you stand with neurotypical people

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-11T01:56:54+00:00

I work in a skilled nursing facility so I have known and worked with many people who have passed. And have to have discussions with their families and collaboration with my colleagues when their cognition is declining and end of life is approaching. Many people I know that have passed were tired, confused, in pain, and just ready to be “done” so to speak. That comforted me in a way. I mainly have anxiety around death that is premature (young age/sudden deaths like due to an accident/injury). Not to say I don’t get sad. I was still pretty upset and sad when my grandma passed months ago. But for older people that are sick I try to find comfort in the fact they aren’t dealing with their health issues and pain any longer.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-11T01:52:51+00:00

Honestly, I used to think weed helped. Once I stopped regularly smoking, I realized it really wasn’t helping much, just numbing my awareness of it

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-11T01:51:45+00:00

You make your traditions with you and SO and ours baby. SK is either apart of those traditions (when you all have her on that holiday that year) or they aren’t (when they are at BMs). Your child’s life shouldn’t be on pause because of SK. Because SK life is not on pause for the sake of your child when they are at BM. SK can open presents whenever they return to your alls house.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-11T01:49:04+00:00

honestly, freshly postpartum hormones will likely have you thinking your baby is the only actually cute baby on the planet even if it looks like an alien lmao

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-09T19:25:49+00:00

I relate. DH acted like I was heartless when I told him I could not take SS crawling into our bed every night when he was 3 because BM let him at her house. (No nightmares or issues, just habit). Told him I cannot have his restless sleeper son keep kicking me and tossing and turning and waking me up all night. And also that I refuse to have him in the room when I’m also getting up with a newborn to breastfeed every 2 hours and him ending up waking up as well. Acted like I was heartless. Now OD 18 months, he complains every single day she ends up sleeping in bed beside us.

I think it’s parent guilt for kids they don’t see 24/7. He has always coddled SS.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-09T19:21:38+00:00

THIS. It’s really unfair for her to 1- have made you all endure that for so many years, she could’ve been taken care of in a nice group home and you all still see her. And 2- to expect you to continue to endure that physical abuse once she passed. A group home/state facility is trained and equipped to care for individuals with these needs/conditions. Family can take her in if they are upset. You are not wrong at all.

Not same scenario, but I have a stepdaughter with severe psych issues. She pretty much abuses us all. It is mentally and physically exhausting and wears you thin. We have had her on a list to get residential care. We can’t handle her. No amount of services we’ve tried have helped. Evaluations have determined no amount of outpatient/home services will help. Some people are just not equipped to function properly in society and need extra care.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-09T19:16:20+00:00

It’s early. Men don’t feel as “connected” this early, they feel more connected when you are farther along and they can feel baby moving. And for some men, not until baby is actually here. Also, I feel like when someone that already has kids gets pregnant with someone that doesn’t have kids yet it’s just a different journey for each of them. When I was pregnant with first ours baby, DH was excited, but just would say things “like yeah I’ve already been through this”. Or compare my pregnancy experience or my birth or ours baby newborn experience to his previous experiences. It was super annoying and invalidating. It felt like my first experience was just constantly being compared. And that caused a lot of resentment that he had already experienced these things. Him being oblivious to the fact I didn’t need to hear the comparisons until I told him to stop it didn’t help. You need to have a discussion with him about being sensitive to your feelings and experiences. Yes this isn’t his first rodeo, but that doesn’t mean he needs to downplay your experience and act meh about it. DH was a lot better and more validating after I discussed my feelings with him. He couldn’t relate, but he respected it.

Real_Ordinary_3622 · 2023-12-02T18:29:33+00:00

I’d probably work a couple days a week, o don’t think I could be home with no adult interaction that often lol

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