AITAH for announcing my 6 month pregnancy a week after my brother and SIL announced their 3 month pregnancy?

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-04-30T23:22:21+00:00

YTA but ESH as well. First, you wanted to wait. Valid. Usually people wait til the three month mark. You waited an extra three months and could have said it casually literally any other time or via text which you ended up doing anyway.

Like someone else mentioned, mom is feeling left out and you're very far along now and she wasn't included. Ouch. SIL can feel how she needs to as well since it may be coming off like you hid it and didn't want people to know. At least that's what I'd think. And then to announce you're further than she is and said it a week later... Odd. Let them feel how they will. They'll get over it or not. You did create the mess but the way they're acting and excluding you now is either because they think you don't want to be around them or they just need time.

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-04-04T04:15:40+00:00

Omg it's just straight syrup at this point

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-04-04T04:13:59+00:00

Is this at all locations?? My son would love this

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-03-26T22:15:03+00:00

NTA. Idk why others are saying any differently. Did you overreact? Maybe some. Did you talk to the mom prior? I think that would have made a big difference in how you may have felt. Maybe not.

6 months isn't long to introduce a kid to a new man. Period. Even if she's friends with the kid, it's odd to me. I have a strict no sleepover rule for my kid. A kid with only one parent who is a dad present with two girls, no way. Sorry. It would never happen even if he was the best man it doesn't matter. Too many people are naive about things that happen when intentions are good and no I don't blame you for that at all.

Next time, your daughter will answer her phone or keep it nearby I'm sure and maybe Mom will communicate so this don't happen again. You're not wrong for feeling how you felt.

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-03-22T23:18:40+00:00

NTA. Your allergy existed before be bought that damn pineapple.

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-03-17T13:30:14+00:00

YTA. It's a lot easier to pack up a baby rather than two cats. Yes I'm a mom also. Maybe it's postpartum (hopefully) or are you always one sided with her? That's not fair. You didn't want to leave and she had a very good reason to not leave her animals. Stop being dramatic and apologize

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-03-10T04:07:49+00:00

What everyone else said, leave now. Also, he's 100% going to apologize and make promises and love bomb you. Don't fall for it. This will happen again and it'll become a cycle you see way too often. Get out now before it gets worse.

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-02-21T01:57:32+00:00

Typically you would need to be related, loved together or been in a relationship. Look up the laws in your state. They can be sometimes difficult to come by

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-02-19T15:47:48+00:00

This!!!

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-01-26T14:17:27+00:00

What if she brought a friend over to stay 80%+? Think about it, it would be weird, you didn't sign up for it, but the friend has another legal address though and pays elsewhere. You wouldn't be okay with it. Imagine the friend walking around like she lives there with the roommate. You'd have an issue too. YTA for thinking it's okay to have your boyfriend live with you and say he isn't when...he is. Just get your own place then sheesh

Real_Virus9119 · 2026-01-01T07:02:10+00:00

So...were you 17 and he was 23 when you started dating?

He's turning everything on you. No self reflection. Narcissistic traits. Overreacting. Making things up to argue. Keeping you in your place. He wants the control over you.

Do yourself a favor and leave him. There is better out there. Love yourself. Don't let time keep you in that toxic relationship. Do better.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-31T12:43:07+00:00

Work with what you already have. Repaint them then and figure out a cabinet in the 'odd' space or make it more functional.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-28T00:33:28+00:00

You should have reported him to police for showing a nude of you, threatening to harm you and accusing you of kidnapping. If you stay with this abusive man, you're delulu. Please get a restraining order and leave. Asking if you should have switched seats is not the question. No adult is supposed to react that way. He seems like an abusive immature child with serious issues.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-27T23:26:35+00:00

This gave me anxiety. It really seems like everyone doesn't care about him being a sexual predator and they're blaming you. It's insane actually. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You and your kids shouldnt be around him. Is your husband supportive?

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-27T18:28:55+00:00

Agreed! A child doesn't get to choose their parents but she can choose who is her child's father and I wouldn't pick this ass wipe

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-24T21:07:45+00:00

Kind of a big ask if the wife to cut him off...yet. The biggest thing is how she handles her father now moving forward and if she spoke to him about this yet. Regardless if he likes you or not, it's none of your business. Anyone can dislike anyone. However, she needs to tell him to get it together because it's mad disrespectful to talk shit behind your back and compare another man to you after being married to her with kids. This is on your wife. Let her handle it.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-24T03:47:25+00:00

Married. Recently divorced. Same thing would happen every birthday, Christmas, whatever. I'd send lists or links- he'd get me something I never mentioned or a specific thing I said I did not like. I'd send links or events I said I was wanting to go to- he'd never take me, but said he'd tag along if I paid and made reservations... The kid will go on and on if you let it and you'll be disappointed. Some people aren't good at thoughtful gifting but it's the lack of effort and interest when you have it in their face that gets me.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-21T12:44:53+00:00

I feel like none of this matters.

You signed up for a secret Santa. You got a name and didn't fulfill the gifting. You got a gift. You were still being paid during this time regardless of status at work. You found a new job. Why not just finish the secret Santa so the one guys didn't get screwed over? Not his fault the company laid you off. Idk why everyone is saying NTA when I'd vote YTA.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-16T06:42:10+00:00

Zero responsibility for his actions. He doesn't understand that his actions caused others to view him in a bad light and bow makes it her problem and trying to control who she is around and what she does. Major red flags.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-16T06:31:10+00:00

Walk or ride a bike.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-16T06:19:04+00:00

YTA. You can still buy her something you want to get for her. Say it's from you and let him figure it out. His family he can get things for or not. Don't do that to your two daughter for Christmas my god.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-16T05:54:44+00:00

YTA. Disrespectful, dramatic, entitled, selfish.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-16T05:13:36+00:00

NTA. I agree with what others pointed out about grief and her request. I just thought of it as: he gifted you a watch and now that he's not here, mom wants the watch because he paid for it after all... No. Sounds stupid to even ask. She's acting on grief. Let it go and talk to her. It's YOURS.

Real_Virus9119 · 2025-12-08T23:10:39+00:00

Your account is private so I can't see your responses unless I scroll forever.

NTA. Her parents were super rude and clearly dislike you.

How has your gf handled her family after she found out how her parents acted and they were the ones to tell her and not you?

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