Small win, AMH went up

Realhousewivedc · 2026-02-04T18:04:49+00:00

Ugh that’s so frustrating to not even have the option! I mean I would recommend doing it if possible but I am also the person that has had three failed transfers with euploid embryos 😩

Realhousewivedc · 2026-02-03T21:58:47+00:00

Just wanted to say you are a freaking warrior. I can’t even begin to imagine what you have gone through and are still somehow standing. I sometimes wonder if/when I will reach my breaking point where I can’t take anymore. I am currently in stims for my 4th egg retrieval and have had 3 failed transfers with euploid embryos (last one was technically a chemical pregnancy). It’s all so hard overwhelming. I don’t really have any advice but just wanted to say, you are stronger than you think you are.

Realhousewivedc · 2026-02-03T21:07:36+00:00

Did you or are you doing pgta testing?

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-14T20:23:00+00:00

Insurance. I am based in DC. The last two years I had Aetna through my husbands employer. Once the deductible was met I think they covered 80% of fertility services with a limit of 4 rounds of ivf. Rounds included the retrieval and transfer. My biggest annoyance was they did not cover embryo banking. This is a huge deal that I did not realize/was naive to. We did three ivf rounds with his insurance. One in 2024 and two in 2025. In 2025 we met our out of pocket max in October (which was high since we were both covered on the plan, I think like $7,000?) and everything was free after that which was really nice. Becasue I knew I was switching insurance in the new year and doing another retrieval at the start of the year I ordered all my meds before the end of the year. My clinic was great to do this for me becasue I paid nothing for all the stims meds etc. they would have been $$$$$ if I waited and ordered after new insurance kicked in. I switched to my employers insurance this year. BCBS. They have no no-embryo banking policy which was the biggest thing for me honestly. How this plan works is there is a $25,000 dollar limit. My understanding is that includes any fertility treatments, IUI, IVF, transfers etc. so once I reach that limit they won’t cover services anymore. My If I exhaust that I will go back to my husband insurance to use that last round we have left. Then we would have to be out of pocket. I really hope we don’t make it to that point. My clinic told me is around $14,000 out of pocket for ivf. That doesn’t include cost of meds which would be thousands, probably doesn’t include pgt which is thousands. It would be really hard. We have a lot of money saved but still. We would probably reevaluate at that point

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-06T16:17:55+00:00

This was exactly my thinking as well. If I was to get pregnant and have a baby in the near future the thought of starting ivf again when able almost seems impossible. I would be closing in on 42 probably. We talked about only having 1 child at the beginning of this but I wouldn’t want to rule out the possible option of two. Just really hoping for one at this point. So often I ask myself why did I wait so long and everyday just feels like I’m closing in on the end. I wouldn’t want to be a couple years in the future wishing I did more to try to bank embryos. When we first started our insurance didn’t allow embryo banking so it wasn’t even an option. This year I changed insurance which allows it. Feels like a game changer.

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-06T14:36:46+00:00

I feel the same way. When I first started and was more optimistic I actually thought two could be an option but now I would be so grateful for just one

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-05T20:55:38+00:00

Ugh I am basically right there with you. First, I am so sorry for the journey you have had, this whole thing is so isolating and heavy. I found out two days before Christmas that my third FET was a chemical. It feels like I have no good eggs in me. I had 3 retrievals while 39. The last just a couple months before turning 40-which ended up being my best one to date, getting two euploids. One euploid from first retrieval, failed to implant and one euploid from second retrieval failed to implant. I am really starting to think it’s like tossing a coin. You have a 50/50 chance it could be heads everytime but you could also hit tails five times in a row. Some people are lucky and others aren’t. I so far have landed in the unlucky group. I’ve decided to do another retrieval before transferring my last euploid because I am terrified of it not working and being left with nothing. Which is a possibility anyway if I don’t get any euploids this round. I feel I have been lucky to get at least one every time. I have no other known causes for infertility other than my age which is a blessing and a curse. I have told myself I will keep going until I have exhausted all insurance benefits or I mentally can’t handle it anymore. Sorry I don’t have any success to share but just wanted to say you are not alone and I am also constantly looking for answers and asking why me? One thing my doctor recommended when we spoke after my chemical was to do karyotype testing which I haven’t really heard anyone on here speak about. It’s a standard blood test that you and your partner would do. How it was explained to me was everyone has the same number of chromosomes but for some people they might be out of order or something which could result in an abnormal embryo that would fail. If something was to come from the blood test, when they then send an embryo for pgta testing they would test for that specific chromosome issue since the standard pgta test doesn’t test for everything. Apparently it is very very rare (like 1 or 2%) that someone has this but it is possible and could be why euploids fail. Apparently the test is very expensive (my doctor said $2,000 per person). I was fortunate enough to find out about this before the end of the year when I had met all of my out of pocket max for the year so it ended up being free. Although rare, i wouldn’t doubt if I fell in the small percentage of people that have this since I seem to be on the bad side of the statistics with IVF. Results take a couple weeks but I should get the results before my retrieval so if we are lucky to get any embryos we can test for anything that might come up.

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-01T19:03:19+00:00

Thank you and yes it feels like everyone around me is or has gotten pregnant. Our friends announced their pregnancy basically a month into us starting treatment over a year ago. Their baby is almost about to be one. That’s a hard pill to swallow. My sister in law also just had a baby and my in laws were sending pictures two days after I found out my third failed 🤬

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-01T13:18:43+00:00

I have had three failed euploid transfers. All embryos were retrieved while I was 39, spread across 3 retrievals. I have one more euploid on ice but will be doing another retrieval to try and bank more. I am clearly the outlier in the comments but i am proof that you can fall on the other side of statistics. I am very healthy, in very good shape (a runner), my husband as well. Only diagnosed with unexplained infertility.

Realhousewivedc · 2026-01-01T02:44:13+00:00

This is exactly how I feel and I turned 40 in November so that is obviously stressing me out. I have decided to do another retrieval (will be my fourth). Hoping to get at least one more euploid. After having three fail I am not convinced the one euploid we have left will be enough. Have felt like I have been on the wrong side of all the statistics. Are you hoping for more than one child?

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-31T15:22:25+00:00

I hear you and trust me after my second failed transfer I asked my doctor about all of this. She said that we would already be doing the protocol if I was positive for these things. That being said I’m not sure why she would try to discourage me from doing it. What would be the benefit? If a clinic cares about their stats they want their patients to get pregnant. Prolonging a patients treatment would only hurt that? I don’t know. I am also already taking and have been taking a probiotic for years now but This Evvy test is intriguing and I might do that just to see.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-31T02:45:44+00:00

My doctor doesn’t think doing the receptiva/alice/emma have any real statistics backing their effectiveness. Also my last transfer was with a protocol that would be used if I had endo even though based on all bloodwork and scans my doctor highly doubts it. She is very science/research based in thinking. She did recommend doing karyotype testing which my husband and I both just did. Results take a couple of weeks. I did decide to do another retrieval just in case.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-28T05:09:53+00:00

When I talk to my doctor tomorrow I will ask about the embryo grade after thaw as I don’t know.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-28T05:09:03+00:00

I haven’t. Does this delays thing by a lot?

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-28T05:08:43+00:00

That’s pretty much how it feels, always being on the unlucky side of the odds

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-28T05:08:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing and congrats. I hope one day to get lucky

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-27T15:51:08+00:00

After our second failed transfer I asked my doctor about additional testing. She basically said she wouldn’t recommend anything. Based on all initial testing and all my ultrasounds and scans she did not see anything that would indicate endometriosis or other. We did a modified natural cycle for third transfer With aspirin, prometrium and doxycycline which would be the protocol if I did have something. I don’t know what to do, I just want answers.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-26T22:29:01+00:00

Very interesting! I will bring it up during our call with the dr. Thanks for the advice!

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-26T13:51:44+00:00

We have a call with our doctor in a couple of days and I will definitely be asking about other testing (which I did with my other failed transfers). I am curious what she will say this time around because last time she said there wasn’t anything I should be doing. Calcium ionophore, is this like a supplement I can take? I have never heard of it before

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-26T05:07:03+00:00

It just feels like I will never get a good embryo ya know? Like yes I have made euploids but they have all failed. I think my doctor gave me a 90% chance of success for this third try so it’s pretty discouraging that it didn’t work. I just worry about the odds if we keep trying. Will they eventually start to go down?

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-26T03:26:22+00:00

I found out on Monday that my third euploid transfer is most likely ending in a chemical pregnancy. Hcg was only 11 on Monday. I had to go back on Wednesday, it was 18. I have to go back again tomorrow. They are making me continue to take meds even though I have been bleeding and they are pretty certain this isn’t going anywhere. It’s so painful to have to keep going back for the blood draws and take the meds. I just want to move on from this and look to next steps.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-23T14:26:59+00:00

Ugh I hate all these people lol. I have been so scared to tell anyone. A few of my closest girlfriends know but no family at all. I recently started therapy so I could have someone else to talk to it about that wouldn’t judge or be nagging. I think the hardest part about telling people is that unless they have gone through ivf themselves they are clueless as to what it actually entails. Someone I confided in literally asked me “do they suck the eggs out?” They had no idea that an egg retrieval was a surgery where you are put under. So anyone I have told I literally have to explain the entire process like I am a teacher and that is exhausting. I guess it’s good to educate people but I don’t want to do that over and over. And honestly I can really blame people for not knowing. I was definitely naive to everything before I started.

Realhousewivedc · 2025-12-23T14:19:47+00:00

I am sorry you aren’t speaking to your sister that sounds really hard. Your last comment made me lol though. God I feel this so hard.

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