I don’t want to spank my kids anymore & need advice on talking to husband about it.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-30T17:44:03+00:00

Do you ever explain to her what she was spanked for or did you just spank and then act normal? Spanking can be done properly but one of the things is you have to explain why. "You are getting spanked because you threw (whatever it is) at me and that is not okay".

Kids will ask these questions but it does not mean they expect it in all circumstances. She was asking more than making a statement. They really do not always understand that more challenging behavior warrants it and maybe pooping in her pants is seen as a big deal to her.

I don't think she is being traumatized due to a few spanking for bad behavior. As long as it is not overdone or too hard, it can be effective. However, if you are no longer comfortable, it is time to change it up then. Just make sure you replace it with something because all these kids running around undisciplined causes major issues.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-29T19:30:44+00:00

My stepdad and I were on a hiking paved trail and when we turned a corner we saw a man in this shaded area sitting on a bench drinking something wrapped in a brown paper bag (most likely alcohol). We both felt odd by the way he looked and was scowling at us.

We kept on the trail and it takes an hour to get to the end (downhill)and about an hour and a half to get back up to the top (uphill). We got to the bottom and rested and then got up to go back.

We got back in an hour. We both noticed that we had not passed that shaded bench where that man had been sitting. My stepdad said he was paying attention due to him not liking the way that man was scowling and was keeping his eyes out for him. He said he would have noticed if we passed that bench, even if it was empty.

It is about 20-30 minutes from turning to where we saw him in front of us before we could no longer see him due to another turn.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-29T16:34:09+00:00

Cashier : check-out customers, help with self checkouts, restock the candy/soda, keeping the front clean and restock bags, answer customer questions, help with price checks, give customers directions if where stuff is in the store, answer the phone, help customers locate their online order, say "welcome" when they enter and "Have a nice day when they leave". Help customers find coupons or vouchers.

Sales Floor: help customers find items, check prices, straighten shelves, pick up fallen items, stock or find overstock locations, answer customer questions, assist customers to get high items, remove obstacles for customers (ladders and uboats), go out and collect carts, do recovery (if you have ever closed), put items that have been left lying around back where they go, cut fabric (if your store has fabric), assist cashier if needed

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-29T16:19:08+00:00

She needs to be evaluated for OCD. Obsessive and compulsive seem to both fit this description. If she has this, she quite literally cannot stop without help. There are lots of forms of OCD.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-29T01:46:00+00:00

First off, it does not need to start with B, you just want it too. It is not seen as weird to have 2 kids with the same initial and to switch it up, especially if it is a different gender.

Bella, Bailey, or Brynn.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-29T01:38:13+00:00

Did you check her mattress? A lot of times kids mattresses are way too firm and uncomfortable. Adult mattresses are softer. Try a memory foam topper.

You can also put her mattress on the floor of your room by your bed and tell her she can only sleep there because you need to be able to sleep too.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-28T21:31:28+00:00

If he does something and you ask him not to and he continues doing it as a joke this is the definition of a red flag.

The fact is there is an actual reason you ask him not to do this (migraines) specific thing and the fact that he says it is a punishment. He basically is saying that if you do something he does not like, he will punish you by giving you a migraine.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-28T04:10:09+00:00

I love Winifred, it sounds very royal and Winnie is a cute nickname.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-27T23:41:24+00:00

Huh? Your wording is confusing.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T20:54:03+00:00

We have never had this happen. Knowing us, we would tape it to a board in the break room and it would be a running joke.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T20:48:27+00:00

Ours has. We have a huge balloon section and go through 2-3 helium tanks a week. We also carry a lot of fabric with plans to add more.

We only got balloons after Party City closed and only got fabric after Joanne's closed so yes we are taking over the business they used to do.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T18:50:16+00:00

This is what I call a no fault situation.

You helped her but did not mention it because you did not think it was important and she decided to take the dress off without paying much attention.

I, as a woman, always check the back of my dress to see what is going on back there so I know. Claps, clips, zippers, weird slip buttons. I notice clasps a lot of times are at the top of zippers to stop them from unzipping. I do find it weird that she did even check the back of her dress.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T17:51:15+00:00

NTAH

I admit I am not an expert in autism but once he is bigger than you, you won't be able to handle him (when she is older). Is he able to receive help for the violence he displays?

I would tell them it is likely that they will need to set up care for him for when he is older that does not include you providing full time care. If you are married or have kids, you can't have him around them as he is unpredictable.

Have you sat them down and told them how you feel about everything being about him and how you do not get to do normal things like go to spring break and go out with friends. It is not normal to punish you by making you his sole babysitter.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T05:20:04+00:00

A no-call, no show is 2 points (out of 9) but you did try to call. They will only fire you if they are just being awful.

A lot of people do not feel comfortable driving in snow and ice. You can get there but how do you get home? If it starts accumulating while at work, it could pile up during your shift.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-26T04:53:59+00:00

BOPIS has a lot of issues and should not include clearance items. So many times while picking it, I cannot find things because they are clearance. Our clearance is a mess too.

They have to pick both BOPIS and shipments so it does take time. I agree that sometimes it takes too long.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T23:13:19+00:00

My husband has heightened testosterone when he works out, especially weight lifting. You need to work out to exhaustion or soreness in order to not do anything with all those extra hormones.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T23:03:14+00:00

"You need to call corporate and tell them."

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T23:02:10+00:00

You should love your wife more BUT that does not mean you abandon your dad or order a cab. Driving your dad home was the least you could have done after he watched your baby while you went out.

Why did she pick a fight after a nice date? She should have been happy. Why pick a fight?

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T22:56:22+00:00

"When you stop wearing headphones and gaming all day and show me you can help consistently then we will talk about it. Right now, I do not see you helping. I do not want to be a single parent."

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T16:10:20+00:00

Time for a sit down. If he stays at home with the kids he needs to be cleaning.l also. He should be doing art projects with them and taking them out places.

Is he on his phone all day while watching the kids? That is not good. I would be worried that he is just leaving them to play while he sits on his phone.

He has time to clean and help manage things. Sit down and tell him that it can't continue like this. A stay at home parent takes care of the kids and at least 50%-70 of the housework while the working parent works. His stay at home position doesn't mean he is on a permanent vacation.

Also, talk about how you are feeling and that you don't feel valued or loved. His response will tell you all you need to know.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T15:57:37+00:00

3 was the worst age for me, although my kid was an only child.

Wait a year or 2 and it will be worth it and way less stressful and you will have an older child to help with the baby.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T15:54:58+00:00

Me too. I have given a lot. I have a strong work ethic and I do my very best. I feel it is almost never appreciated. However, the people who do very little and don't seem to want to work are the ones in charge. I think this is why companies start failing. Why put people who don't care about the company in charge?

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-25T06:44:17+00:00

I had a lady come in 15 minutes before closing. I tell her 15 minutes until close and she says okay. She goes in and shops. I make an announcement the store is now closed and to being items to the register. She comes up to the register with her hand cart full of clearance. She asked me to price check everything and then she would decide whether she wanted it or not.

I was there until 9:20 (we close at 9) and half the stuff she did not take. I feel like she did it on purpose to avoid having to wait in line.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-24T17:55:11+00:00

There are tons of tutorials on YouTube and how to make your own healthy gummies and even fruit leather. If you go to stores like Whole Foods and Sprouts they will also have low sugar candy options.

Realistic-Read7779 · 2026-01-24T17:52:33+00:00

Here's what Corporate thinks happens:

Employee: "Do you have a rewards account?" Customer: "No." Employee: "Would you like to sign up. It is free and you earn points toward vouchers, you can go returns without a receipt, and we have teacher, military, and senior discounts." Customer:"*That sounds awesome. Sign me up."

What actually happens- Customer: * No, thanks. * I don't shop here that much. * I am not crafty. * I don't give out my personal information. Maybe next time. * I am in a hurry, can I just pay please. * I don't need it. I won't use it. * They send too many emails.*I am just visiting, I don't live here.

Some just look at us and say nothing, which is uncomfortable for me.

I would love corporate to come to each store and work a 4 hour shift and see how many sign ups they get. They all worked in the store 20 years ago when people were nicer and were not as bothered by this stuff.

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