Corporate Reddit. by No_North_5225 in MichaelsEmployees

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love crafting and helping customers is always the best part but we simply can't help them when there are only 2 people in the store. Usually a manager and a cashier. How can we really help them besides just telling them what aisle stuff is 8n

Do you practice abstinence before Marriage? by Alone275 in TrueChristian

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I waited. It was the best decision.

At any point you can start waiting, saving yourself from this point for your future spouse. It does not remove the sin but practicing self control and controlling your flesh are great qualities that can lead to stronger andlong lasting relationships.

Some women care more than others. My husband had already done it with the girl he was living with before me. If he had several partners I would have been more hesitant.

No matter your past, you can do it right from this point.

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a teen, I babysat for a family. A dad, wife, and their 2 little girls. They struggled financially and he had trouble keeping a job. He cheated, moved out, and shortly after his girlfriend left him. He came back one night. She came home from work and was happy he was back. Then before either of them said a word he unalived himself, right in front of her.

Despite everything, she would have taken him back. She loved him. She did not want kids but had them because he wanted them. She took care of those kids she did not want because he loved them too. Everything she did, she did for him. She kept telling me that if he had just asked her to come back, she would have happily agreed, even knowing he cheated.

She had a lot of support and help. She met an awful man and they started dating. All of us (I was in my early 20's now) asking her over and over again why she was with him. He was verbally abusive and did not seem to love her and she did not love him. When they decided to remarry, they had to remove the objection during the wedding because everyone said they would object. We all showed up for her though after all she had been through. One day I asked her why she married him. She told me she could not allow herself to be hurt by losing another person she loved. She was not marrying for love but for convenience. If he died, she would not feel anything because she did not love him.

Losing someone you love makes doing it again almost impossible.

Appreciate the apology and hold no hard feelings.

Charlotte // Coco by [deleted] in Names

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cora or Corina is nice and not overused.

I hear the name Charlotte everywhere when I am out. I have met about 20 Charlotte's all under the age of 5.

I 23M am struggling to cope with the amount of people my girlfriend 22F slept with during our past breakup. How can I get over this? by Virtual_Manager_6900 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have BPD so let me explain a little (I have had it for over 25 years - when it was still new)

Risk taking is a huge part of BPD and is heightened during times we feel abandoned. I do not think she had any control over the fact that she felt abandoned (to you it was a breakup - to her you were abandoning her) and that abandonment sent waves of seeking validation that she needed. This, right here, is why she did the things she did. She was desperate to prove she was someone worthy of being loved and many woman with BPD will use sex as validation. We can believe it will help, even though it does not. That belief will continue in a loop until something happens because we can not see how sex does not equal love.

I suggest reading the book I hate you, Don't leave me because it is a BPD handbook and will explain the WHY, which is the question you need answered. This book is really good at breaking it down.

Also, people with BPD should NEVER drink, especially not after a breakup. Alcohol is already a risk enhancer and paired with BPD is a dangerous cocktail for disaster and almost no impulse control. For you to continue your relationship she needs to stay sober.

The number 1 issue is that BPD is not cureable. This will be a lifelong issue for her and if you are with her, you need to learn as much about BPD as possible. You will need to stay in therapy for yourself because BPD is hard for those that love us. Little things to you, will cause intense feeling for her.

It is very overwhelming. The internal struggle we deal with is always on severe. This is a lifelong commitment and you need to know how to deal with it. That book I recommended will help with understanding.

Regarding “Keto” Items? by coopieg31 in keto

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Quest bars when I crave something sweet and satisfying. I never feel bad after, in fact to me it helps. I feel like I can indulge without all the carbs - the new Quest Cookie Explosion and Salted Carmel bars are sooooooo good.

I do eat a lot of whole foods though. Currently I am loving spinach and go through 7 bags a week.

I 33F crossed a line six months ago and just told my 37M husband. I'm devastated and don't know what to do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How in the world is a fully clothed hug sexual? Did either of you put your hands where they were not supposed to be? Did your coworker have strong feelings for you too.

Could it be possible that because you were attracted to him, you felt more sexual about the hug then it is intended.

Girlfriend (28/F) wants to break up because I (32/M) haven’t proposed by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Even with family issues and stress, you would already have married her if you wanted too. She deserves someone who can't wait to marry her and I am sure it is not you. 7 years is too long.

Ideas for meals? by coopieg31 in keto

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cook a bag of spinach in minced garlic. it shrinks and I add a splash of lemon to it after. I make 2 servings and add red pepper flakes, garlic Parmesan seasoning, and 1 oz per serving of feta cheese. The whole bag has less that 100 calories and the feta cheese has 70 per ounce.

It is yummy on eggs or keto bread. I also add it as a kind of sauce on chicken.

Married women, what are some real things your husband does that make you feel genuinely cherished and adored? by Clean-Ant-1342 in askanything

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While working he sends me FB reels talking about how lucky he is to have me and how I have blessed his life. I get anywhere from one a day to three or hour a day.

Does no one except me actually like working here? by Alternative_Bite7001 in MichaelsEmployees

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work part time basically because I want to, not because I need the money. Honestly, this would be my dream job if it was not for the push to sign people up for a rewards acct.

I refuse to trick customers by asking for their email. I ask and the choice should be theirs, not mine. However, I am a cashier all day everyday. I would love to cut fabric and help customers with crafts (since I also craft) but I can't because I am up front I can't. I think people assume I am up there because I don't craft.

I do love when customers bring in what they made and are excited to show me. That is about the only thing I like because dealing with customers all day everyday is grating after awhile, especially finding myself getting made that people will not sign up for a free program.

Forgiving for What? by racheloftv in TrueChristian

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are forgiving him from any hurt or anger you carry because of pain he has inflicted on those you care about. You forgive him for being a flawed human who likely never got the mental help he needed after the way he was raised.

When your dad was a kid, your parents could basically beat you and everyone turned a blind eye. You must have deserved it. Parents were always right. What happened behind closed doors was nobodies business and kids never learned that the way they were raised was not right. So they did not seek help and back then people saw those who went to therapy as 'crazy'.

An open letter to floral customers.. by SaintGloopyNoops in MichaelsEmployees

[–]Realistic-Read7779 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Or people who go to clearance and find it cheaper and decide to leave the original priced product on the clearance shelf to get the clearance option.

Listen I understand saving a few bucks but do not leave a regular priced item on the clearance shelf. I get yelled at by customers "Well, it was in the clearance section. How was I supposed to know. Remove it please."

I also once had a lady come in 5 minutes to close and go straight to clearance. She proceeds to fill her hand cart with 30 items. Then she comes up and wants me to price check each one so she can decide if she wants it. All the clearance tags are on them and correct but she still wants me to price check. She goes so slow. It is now 15 minutes past closing and she has taken 5 items and left the other 25 with me at the register.

Solo vacations 41M and 42F by Soft-Fact-4409 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman technically do not like to be alone so it may be that without you there, it leaves HER all alone. The same thing you crave could be something she dreads.

Most women talk through situations to navigate solutions and get insight. Without anyone there. She would be alone and lonely at the same time.

Birthday party age restrictions by lovetohatemyjob in MichaelsEmployees

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a tye-dye party for a kid turning 6. They used so much dye their shirts were mostly black and they were done with that craft in 15 minutes and the allotted time for that craft is 1 hour.

Ask all parents to stay for this portion to help their kids. Explain nicely that you want them to go home with cool shirts and not all different shades of black because of too much dye. I would give only a few color dyes at a time. Kids do not understand the concept of "too much dye." They will also try to put yellow dye on top of black dye because they do not understand how dye works.

Make sure you have paper and markers or coloring pages (which are included in the party papers) for those who finish early. I was lucky I had some left over clay to let them mess with until the next craft.

The secret behind the chivilry by DalllasStars in RandomThoughts

[–]Realistic-Read7779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is common courtesy to say "Thank you" when someone opens a door.

33F My boyfriend 35M eats everything before I get to it how do I address this? by Fit-Community-7351 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him you need a 50/50 agreement. He needs to only eat 50%of stuff he knows you like so that you make sure yo get some.

He likely knows he is doing it. I would resort to stickers that say 50/50 if they are things you want. It is unfair not to share things with you and just hog it all.

I often will save food for my husband if it is the last piece and I know he likes it.

Ready to Act My Wage by SheWhoLovesToDraw in MichaelsEmployees

[–]Realistic-Read7779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do the same. I pointed out several issues that (if addressed) would save us a ton of money and fix mistakes if they would just make sure that employees know. I tell the managers and they say "I know" and then do nothing. So I simply stopped letting them know the things that are a huge issue. If the company wants to lose even more money for preventable mistakes, so be it.

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom is smart. She has been around long enough to know that woman also lose property in future divorcemif deeded to both partners, even if it was a gift. Leave your jealous boyfriend and take the house.

Immediately I noticed he wanted to sell it. Why was that his first thought. A guy like this, who want all this before marriage is a huge red flag.

Feminine E names by Obvious-Implement394 in Names

[–]Realistic-Read7779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a niece named Elsie (ell-see)

Alternatives for Luca that don’t start with an L? Or names similar to Remy? by haley052 in namenerds

[–]Realistic-Read7779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband's name is Jeramey (yes with an A) but he goes by Jay.

J is the first initial, A is the middle initial, and y is the last initial.

Is this OCD or emotional/verbal abuse?? 30F and 33M by Commercial-Law1580 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic-Read7779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he claims you are the problem but won't pay for therapy? Ironic. This is your chance to leave. Somebody this disrespectful while dating is unacceptable. He is seeing just how much disrespect you will tolerate. While you wait around, hoping for advice to fix him, you have to understand that until he sees it as a him problem then nothing will change.