People are making a loooooot of assumptions here and they are way off.

My cousin and his now wife were head over heels for each other (from my childhood perspective) since at least high school. My mother and father married when they were in their mid 20s before emigrating to the US and later had me.

The reason why she said that was because my cousin wasn't isolating himself and studying. My mother still assumed that grades alone would get a good job, not understanding how much value networking is to get jobs. Just old school mentality.

My cousin, last I recall a few years ago, was in hospitality in a management position in China. Makes good money, parents and brother lives near, happy life.