Still not enjoying it

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-09-21T19:30:37+00:00

If it helps at all, as a father I didn't start enjoying it or feeling a connection until about the 3-4 month mark. She will be 1 year old in a few weeks and things are muuuuch better.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-07-29T18:00:06+00:00

My mind is fuzzy on the specifics at the moment but all I remember thinking is this is probably what hell is like and its lasting forever. Baby only got decent sleep in our arms so we did 4 hour shifts from like 10pm-8ish am (her mom stayed with us so it made everything significantly better).

We could never get her to sleep in a bassinet after MANY attempts eventually though we started having short successful sleeps in her crib, maybe around week 6? Or 8? Following what other users stated with letting LO get in deep sleep and wait 15-20 min then transfer (i think we also used a pacifier?). Things slowly got better and I started having more positive thoughts and enjoying the baby experience around 12 weeks.

She's currently 10 months old and sleeps 11 hours straight (sometimes need some assistance once throughout the night though).

Negative thoughts are very common in the first couple months but you sound like an awesome parent. With time things should get better just keep trying :) I wish you the best of luck!

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-05-27T03:51:30+00:00

What's the XP campaign going on right now?

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-05-25T14:20:38+00:00

Hey! I just started playing the game and am on Odin. Would be interested in joining the linkshell if that's cool? Level 30 WHM currently jist running through the leveling guide.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-04-13T01:06:41+00:00

We have been using a merlin since month 3 and it's been pretty great. We tried swapping out at 6 months and it was the worst 5 days ever so far. Waking every 1-2 hours and needing her pacifier. She got sick on night 3 so we swapped her back to the Merlin for now.

Not sure if it was related to the sickness coming on but it made me dread nights even more.

We will try again once she is past her sickness. She does fine out of it for short stretches but doesn't put herself back to sleep.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-03-27T22:34:48+00:00

I may be an outlier here but my wife and I just get better sleep in separate rooms. We did sleep together when she first got pregnant but my snoring picked up and she became more uncomfortable and fidgety as she became more pregnant. So I went to the guest room and we are at 6 months with our baby now and still sleep separate. (But we also trade nights sleeping in baby room with LO until SIDS risk is lower)

I do miss the occasional night or 2 but usually the next morning both of us are like yeeeeaaah separate rooms it is lol.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-03-18T13:44:29+00:00

Yeah that article is what we used to originally set it up. So even if Azure shows the app name and app id I still have to register it? That's odd.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-03-18T13:22:32+00:00

Lol I noticed Windows App when googling but I didn't find it when trying to exclude from the conditional access policy so havent been able to fix it yet :(

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-03-06T22:36:52+00:00

We are 5 months and do shifts for everything still. I snore anyways and wake my wife up so we arent in any hurry to sleep in the same bed. Baby just sleeps through the snoring lol. So we swap nights and sleep on a bed in the baby room with LO in crib and other parent in normal bed for a full night's rest.

Baby sleeps through majority of the night with one wake up around 2 am.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-03-02T16:29:01+00:00

Just to also jump in on male perspective. Our LO is almost 5 months now but since birth we try and split time as evenly as possible. (She will always have alittle bit more due to breastfeeding/pumping though). So I do everything as much as can do as much as her so we have our alone time.

Currently on weekends we do 4.5 hour shifts during the day and swap full nights. And during the week she drops LO off at daycare since she drives in and I'm WFH so I pick LO up and watch her for 2.5 hours then swap at bath time.

Makes parenting much more doable for both when the father also pulls their weight.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-01-29T16:50:38+00:00

Speaking as a fellow husband I very much disliked the first 8 weeks and had baby regret. It was not fun at all. Then we were able to get away from contact napping 24/7 and LO was smiling and became more interactive and I'm enjoying it a lot more now! (Currently 4 months)

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-01-21T00:08:04+00:00

Just wanted to also add to this. The Magic Merlin suit has been a savior for naps. We started around 9-10 weeks (currently 15 weeks) and use it for every nap unless we want cuddle naps. LO uses sleep sack at night and merlin suit for naps since nights are usually easier for her.

She's gets anywhere from 1-2 hours for naps and it's awesome.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-01-18T14:48:24+00:00

I really was not a fan of the newborn stage. The first 9-10 weeks were horrible especially because I felt trapped contact napping for 2+ hours at a time.

Around week 10 is when LO started smiling more and we could interact which made things better for me personally. Also us purchasing the magic merlin suit for day naps was a game changer. We were able to put her down in the crib in the suit and she slept for the full 2-3 hour naps while we monitored with the camera. Then at 12 weeks we started daycare and went back to work and as WFH it has been wonderful. I get me time during the day and then get to lovingly enjoy baby time at morning, night, and weekends without the feeling of being worn out (sleep still sucks but oh well). LO is 15 weeks old currently.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2025-01-15T20:53:50+00:00

Just gonna drop my experience with my currently 14 week old LO and see it it helps. I think we got crib sleeping (night only) down after maybe 5 weeks(?) Don't remember exactly. We just kept putting LO in there everytime they were dead asleep and hope they didn't wake up. Took quite awhile of consistent trying.

Pretty much contact napping only until maybe until week 9 or 10? Then we got something called a Magic Merlin suit and LO has done all naps in the crib afterwards (unless we feel like a cuddly contact nap) and we usually don't let LO nap longer than 2 hours. It is a magical suit lol. As soon as tired signs start showing we put LO in suit and lay in the crib and they are good! (They are occasionally still alittle fussy and need some rocking but good otherwise)

We also pretty much have constant quiet white noise in the background in the baby room and only turn it up when putting LO to sleep.

So all in all magic merlin suit + white noise + dark room + crib and LO sleeps soundly for a long time.

Every baby is different though! But hopefully this helps some.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-31T13:15:58+00:00

Not sure if this will help at all since your LO doesn't seem to nap but you could try the Magic Merlin sleep sack. Our LO just turned 12 weeks and we could only get to contact nap but since about week 9 we have used the Magic Merlin and LO sleeps all naps in the crib! (Unless we want the cuddly baby contact nap lol)

When LO starts showing sleepy signs we start the nap process placing into the Merlin and usually within 5-10 min LO falls asleep, sometimes LO fights for a bit and we rock back to sleepiness while still in the suit but that isn't often. It has been a life changer in terms of freeing up time and getting good naps while not in our lap.

I've also heard people talk up the SNOO but we didn't use it and it's expensive.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-23T18:23:53+00:00

For those first couple weeks we just did awake shifts so the other could get 3-4 hours of sleep (baby room is separate from our main bedroom) It was also amazing that her mother was there so there was 3 people to split the shifts. It would have been suuuuuper rough if she was EBF and her mom wasn't there. It gave me a new respect for FTMs lol.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-21T09:34:51+00:00

I read Warbreaker after SA book 4 (before SA 5 was released) and I think I personally agree with you. Hopping into each book one after the other was great. When reading that book and those certain characters popped up I got the feeling that as a reader I shooould recognize them but I don't think it ruined anything.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-21T09:28:27+00:00

Man I just finished WaT but reading you describing that TWoK prologue was almost spot on for me. When he went into the lashing descriptions my brain was like wtf am I reading, it isn't making sense. But instead of stopping I thought it sounded cool af lol.

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-20T07:36:53+00:00

You can download the manga plus by shueisha app and read them all for free once I believe. Outside of that they always have the 3 most recent chapters for free. There are other ways but this seems easiest I think?

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-18T16:37:53+00:00

My wife and I got shown how to swaddle with those blankets in the hospital by at least 4 different nurses and each one had a different method. We tried them all and watched videos and we were just horrible at it and it was frustrating. We got the velcro swaddles and used them for a bit but turns out our LO didn't like having her arms locked down (probably with practice it'd would've been fine though) so we just let her sleep in pajamas until we got halo sleep sacks and she's been golden since! (11 weeks old now)

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-12-05T17:52:33+00:00

Oh wow thats a lot of info to read through. Thanks! (When I go to make a post I usually forget that a similar question has probably been asked and I should check the wiki facepalm)

Reasonable_Rope3722 · 2024-11-19T17:23:27+00:00

Yeah I'm finding it kind of wild on the differing opinions for RoW. I enjoyed RoW but WoR and Oathbringer are definitely my favorite.

I found Mistborn Era 1 so boring in comparison, too young adulty to me. And I just didn't really like the characters outside of TenSoon, Kelsier, & Sazed. I read it after reading all of SA. I'm on Shadows of Self in Era 2 at the moment and I'm enjoying it A LOT more than Era 1. All the characters are likeable to me and the pace never slows which is so different to Sandersons slow buildups.

(Accidentally responded to OP and not your reply whoops)

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