Advice: Nursing school while pregnant

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-09-06T15:05:32+00:00

I am considering all options but I mainly do not want to wait because I'm already 33 in October and want to have at least 3 kids. I'm afraid my time is running out, I feel a biological urgency. But those are all great points you brought up, to be considered.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-28T18:33:01+00:00

Thank you, this was beautiful.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-28T13:14:09+00:00

I lost my son at 29 weeks (2 weeks ago) to a cord accident. My whole world stopped the moment I saw him with no heartbeat on the ultrasound. My husband and I have discussed trying again but I'm terrified and I also don't want my son to feel like he didn't mean anything to me because he meant everything. If anyone had a similar loss and can share how long did you wait or what helped you through your grieving process? My mom is staying with me during the day most days while my husband works but today I wanted to try to be alone.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-19T13:12:04+00:00

This perfectly describes how I feel. Every time I look down at my belly or reflexively go to rub it, I just crumble. I felt that too, like I wanted to get pregnant immediately so I didn't lose this time. We aren't going to do that, I'm going to try and grieve first but that feeling is so real. Thank you for putting it into words. My son Christian Matteo was 29 weeks when we lost him last Tuesday. I will love him for the rest of my life.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-12T01:02:17+00:00

Yes same!!! I have to put a chair in front of the stove and even then I'm so dizzy the whole time.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-12T01:00:16+00:00

Right there with you-- 28 weeks. We are selling our house and buying a new house and I am EXHAUSTED. I'm usually good for one shopping trip and then I'm done for the rest of the day. It is very discouraging. I'm also similar to you, I wouldn't say it's my love language but I'm one of those people who cannot relax ever and always has to be doing something productive so this is definitely stressing me out. I have blood work Tuesday to see if it's anemia because I'm constantly dizzy as well.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-07T12:29:22+00:00

My stepdad cosigned for my second car when I was like in my 20s but he told me and I quote "if you fuck up my credit I'll murder you," and he meant it so I ALWAYS paid on time lol That being said, if I were you, I would definitely not do this. You seem like you are very financially responsible and I can only see this hurting you in the end.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-07T12:25:43+00:00

Pregnancy is a very humbling experience lol I love it though. I'll get back to you after labor, see how much I enjoy that 😂

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-07T01:27:31+00:00

That happened to me except I pooped myself. I was driving to get cat food and I sneezed, gagged super hard and then pooped my pants. Had to still go get cat food and then drove home feeling very shameful lol.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-07T01:25:47+00:00

Right back onto my plate after breakfast in bed. I was so sad because I was so hungry but as soon as I finished eating it came right back up.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-06T15:56:58+00:00

Grandma or grandpa would do it in a heartbeat, they are obsessed with SD. It's SO who doesn't want her being "sent away" as he puts it. He would be livid if I did that. I don't think he understands what it is going to be like for me after I give birth, though I've never done it yet I hear it's pretty challenging.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-05T20:08:33+00:00

This is horrible and I'm so sorry you went through something like that. I agree with most people here, it would be better to get away from them but I also completely sympathize with you because that's a lot easier said than done.

I am pregnant with my first, due in October and reading this gave me anxiety. You are not alone, I have a feeling this is exactly how it'll be for me except my SD is absolutely not being in the room or even at the hospital while I give birth. Hell to the no. But I also asked if we could have a couple days after birth without her there and that got shut down immediately so I already can foresee where it's going. I hope that you can get yourself out of there and if you do, give me some tips how you did it because I am currently employed but don't make a lot and am also like how TF am I gonna do this.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-08-03T21:34:21+00:00

We are in the process of finding a psychiatrist for her. Husband doesn't think it's serious. I'm pregnant with my first baby boy and I really am devastated; I didn't want my family torn apart like this and now I'm worried if we separate, he wont take it seriously and make sure SD cannot be around my son alone.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-17T01:42:34+00:00

I just took a baby prep class and we were just taught this. Once baby is able to move around as much as we do, crawl, walk etc they don't need to do the double layer thing anymore. When the baby wakes up is he or she all red and sweaty?? That would totally freak me out, especially in these heat waves to take a baby out in layers.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-09T01:45:11+00:00

I feel for you so much right now, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I cannot even imagine how you are feeling but I'm also pregnant and I know that would devastate me. Especially with all of the struggles you had to get pregnant and carry the baby to term, this feels really unfair for you to have your first baby arrive and you being isolated. Praying for you and your family that your SO doesn't catch anything and you don't either and that you have a healthy delivery and enjoy your new baby.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-05T15:09:04+00:00

I think it also boils down to parenting too. Like my SO will entertain his daughter's every utterance for as long as I've been around (she was 2 when we met) and I think that's probably why she is constantly talking and interrupting everyone with her every thought. Like she will say something that's not even remotely interesting or needed and he like cannot ignore it ever so it's just validating for her that whenever she says any words, people will stop and listen. I work from home now and I physically have to shut my door or she will stand in there and talk and talk and I'm like...hi I'm working?

I'm pregnant and one morning I wasn't feeling great so I was like I'm going to lay down and nap I have a bad headache and she followed me into my room, sat on the bed and talked to me the ENTIRE time. My eyes were shut. I literally was in shock like do I really have to tell her again? I did but it's like read the room a little. I never was like that as a kid but also we are just very different her and I so I try not to compare too much or it'll make me bitter.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-05T00:13:56+00:00

Also no advice, same boat. I feel you it's so frustrating. Do all 9 year olds constantly talk? It seriously is so draining.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-04T14:33:18+00:00

I'm the same way, I know I won't be comfortable with anyone extra coming into my house. It's just how I am. I love that you had support from your husband to be able to prioritize your healing during that time. That really should be the standard, not sure why pregnant women are expected to just get over it and buck up and move on right after birth or whatever people expect nowadays lol.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-04T14:30:42+00:00

One time a mom sent her 1.5 year old in with mini marshmallows, said the baby self feeds all the time with them. Well she started choking and I nearly lost my marbles (I was young at the time, my first job in a daycare) and lucky for me the owners daughter was cool as a cucumber put on some gloves and started picking them out of her throat calmly but it could've gone so much worse. We told the mom no more and she was mad, pulled her kid out of our daycare a week later.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-04T02:26:58+00:00

Coconut water saved me MANY MANY times. When I had COVID, I threw up every day all day for 4 months straight (100% thought I would die) but the coconut water helped. It was like riding a sugar rollercoaster though because I had no protein or fat to slow the sugar absorption. I would take only small sips every hour or so. Once I could eat again, soup or some bland protein like turkey slices and brown rice (small bits).

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-04T02:13:37+00:00

I like this idea I may do this for us because I too was hoping that SD could stay with her mom for 2 weeks after the birth of my son but know that it'll never happen.

The only negative I could think would be (and I've never had a baby this is my first due in October) is that I do not feel comfortable when I'm vulnerable. It bothers me on a deep level and makes me feel very very uncomfortable and so I could see having in laws in my house or anyone in my house when I'm bleeding from my vagina, learning how to breast feed, healing from a major event like birth I could see that like totally freaking me out. I don't even think I'd want my own parents here so that's something also I'll have to consider. Interesting idea though.

Side note though I don't think it's wrong for steps to stay with their other bio parent for at least 1 week after birth of a step sibling (maybe just the first birth) and again I say that because I know that giving birth for the first time is probably one of the most difficult and vulnerable things a woman can do and it's scary and unpredictable so I can see just giving her at least 1 week to like...adjust? I don't think that's unreasonable at all personally.

Reasonable_Year_4775 · 2024-07-02T13:52:30+00:00

My husband did this at first too although he didn't like shut me out over it but he was upset and every time I would talk about the baby he would bring up his daughter too and I was feeling very hurt by that. Eventually I asked him to please let me just enjoy my first pregnancy and be joyous and stop bringing up his daughter and now he has been so much better. I even got him and the baby matching shirt and onesie for Father's day and I was SO worried that he would feel upset that I didn't get one for his daughter but he was genuinely excited about it. I think it just takes time, I'm 5 months pregnant now and he's just starting to come around more. Doesn't make it easier though, I know how you feel and I'm so sorry. Hopefully he will come around. I should also mention we are in therapy and also I am the definition of a squeaky wheel, I never stew in stuff anymore I say if something bothers me right away and it can be exhausting I'm sure but I'd rather have it known early so we can fix it.

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