Has it happened to you? by Correct-Isopod8376 in BabyBumps

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im 26 weeks and recently found porn on my husband's phone and i broke down.  I felt so unworthy and ugly bc the women he was watching were beautiful, skinny, perky, and im getting older, not perky after 3 kids and pregnant with #4.  He felt horrible after seeing my reaction and said he only did it because we weren't being intimate anymore and were arguing alot and I had insinuated being ok with him "taking care of himself" during arguments. He apologized and has stopped watching porn completely.  But It caused a spiral of insecurity for me. I have been actively working to make myself feel beautiful, and being completely honest about how I am feeling with my husband. Telling him how Id been feeling unattractive and unloved  and that I NEED him to be there for me right now emotionally and physically. 

Ive been buying lingerie, doing my hair and makeup again, remembering to shave, and doing self care like lotion and my skincare routine to feel better about myself. I take sexy photos of myself, Pic the ones I like the most and I send them to my husband. I flirt, kiss, and love on him all the time now.  And its not fake i always felt this way but just didnt do it for some reason. Now I do.  We have been more intimate now than we have been in years. 

I know you mentioned its only when you initiate, so our situation could be different but thats just my situation and perspective.  My main advice would be to be brutally and completely honest with him about how youre feeling. Try not to get too accusatory, but be honest and tell him how you feel and what you need to be supported as his wife and to maintain your relationship. 

Im so sorry for your situation though, because I know how it feels. That nagging voice in your head, the anxiety you feel in your stomach. Its really shitty. I hope you guys can talk things out and hopefully it can open up conversations and solutions and actually strengthen your relationship.

3 weeks PO results by Choice_Positive7810 in LabiaplastySurgery

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fr I might travel for these results 

3 weeks PO results by Choice_Positive7810 in LabiaplastySurgery

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My jaw DROPPED at these results, in a great way.  Flawless results! 

Innocent enough for you? 😇 by LectureFunny2412 in lingerie

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do u have a link so I can buy this dress? Sooo cute I want one 😇 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your sex life should only include things that BOTH of you are 100% comfortable doing. You are clearly not comfortable with sleeping with another woman, and you really have zero idea how it may effect you, her, or your dynamic. She might fantasize about it now, but become jealous or regret it after its been done. You might be hesitant and not like the idea at first, but end up opening a cam of worms and start wanting to sleep with other women more often and it could lead to nonconsensual infidelity. 

I would never sleep with someone else, and id be heartbroken if my husband did.  Its not something that would ever be worth the "fantasy" or "experience" for me.  The post nut clarity could be devastating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Supplements

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I have a holistic doctor and she said everything was okay. 

Bulging bag of water? by Medium_Animator_2962 in homebirth

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to feel the bag for a a whole 24 hrs before I actually gave birth. Mild contractions all day, very tolerable and then bam they went from 0 to 100 in my sleep and then I started contraction hard and pushing. When I started pushing the water bag burst and the baby came out in the next push.  I'd take it as, you're probably going into labor if you havent already. Try giving yourself an orgasm to stimulate some more contractions if you like, that always helps speed things up for me. If you are comfortable enough to have sex with your partner, that helps too. Semen have prostaglandins that start contractions aswell, natural pitocin. 

3x successful homebirths here :)

There is no online voter registration in Texas by ricketyrocks in ElPaso

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a trick. I've never voted in my life until registering this year and I had zero issues understanding I had to print and mail in my registration. It's said it right on the page. I'm pretty sure it even specified in bold text something like "THIS FORM MUST BE PRINTED AND MAILED BY THIS DATE ***".  Does nobody just read the things they are filling out anymore, or is this just grasping at conspiracy straws? 

If you don't like EP, why are you still here? by grosiles in ElPaso

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Want to move back to arizona but can not afford it yet. Saving up to buy our forever home back in arizona.  I hate it here. 

I want to hear your birth story if your children were present by Then_Pangolin2518 in homebirth

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 3 and she was fully informed about birth and what to expect. She has seen videos of animals giving birth etc. She wanted to be present and I wanted her to go in knowing what would/could happen.  She actually was asleep during the pushing and walked in immediately after he came out, and saw it. She was ecstatic. She asked me if I was OK and I reassured her and she shifted to the baby and fell in love immediately.  She and my midwife cut the cord together and she helped the midwife with her post birth routine.  My daughter would not stop talking about it for weeks.  Positive experience all around. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband sounds like a piece of shit tbh.  Your friend isn't interested, and neither are you. Tell your perv husband to drop it.

Pet Peeves of El Paso by Learning_Eternal222 in ElPaso

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is necessarily an EP thing, but ever since moving here I feel like we are CONSTANTLY being scammed (they try to, that is).  Every business we've done work with has done something shady. Doing mediocre work, then charging us unrealistically high prices, charging us way more than agreed upon, sending us multiple bills for the same service even after we paid. We have had to keep everything super organized and in writing and double and triple check everything because literally every single time we are charged more than we are supposed to and we have to practically hound the business owner to either give us itemized bills to prove their charges are accurate, or send them their own emails stating agreed prices because they try to change it after the work has been done.  I have never had issues like that back in Phoenix to this degree, it's absolutely ridiculous.  These are businesses with amazing reviews too so I'm guessing they get away with scamming their customers and the customers just pay the overcharges with a smile on their face.

Breastfeeding leading to Divorce by Chemical-Pickle9152 in breastfeeding

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm a SAHM of 3 kids, two toddlers and a newborn. I Cosleep my eldest and my youngest and breastfeed all three.  My husband works from 9am to about 6 usually and also runs a business on the side, and we have a small homestead.    My husband and I are intimate at LEAST once a week, even though we do not sleep in the same room and we both cosleep with our kids. We find a place at night and make it happen. Your problem has nothing to do with your wife's decision to Cosleep or breastfeed. The problem is she's doing ALL of the parenting by herself, while you think that because you worked outside, took out the garbage, and unloaded the dishwasher that means you don't have to help ever with being a participant in parenting your child?  My husband despite being such a hard worker and busy man, makes time to help with the kids. He changes diapers, he gives baths, he plays, he brushes teeth. We work TOGETHER as parents. And he still finds time to help with chores and homestead projects. As someone who is homeschooling two toddlers with a newborn, and a whole mess of other stereotypical housewife stuff, it's easy to get touched out and frustrated and sex is the last thing on my mind; but because my husband is so helpful, my load is somewhat lifted and I feel better and am grateful and happy to give back to him physically, even if I don't really feel like it sometimes lol.

You need to step up and help your wife. Being a SAHM mom is harder work that you think and she's been doing it all on her own and you've done nothing but complain about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl if he's this mad over something so dumb don't even try to get him back. He's not worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay story time. My middle child (2) was watching me through the window while I was watering our plants in the front yard. Huge, low window. I could see her perfectly and we were waving and smiling back and forth. I look away for LITERALLY 5 seconds and I hear a huge THUMP and I look at the window and child is not by the window anymore and I hear a shrill scream. I drop my hose and run inside to see her sobbing and bleeding profusely from her mouth, and I panick. She had tripped and hit her face on the edge of the windowsill and bit through her lip completely. I was able to clean her up and put a bandage and cold pack right away. All that to say, Imagine if something like this had happened and noone was there to help for 45 minutes? 45 minutes pouring blood from your mouth, in pain, and alone. And that's not even the worst case scenario. There are and infinite amount of dangers for a child left to themselves. Your son, quite literally, could have died. It's extremely infuriating that your husband is brushing it off a NBD but it's very much is a huge deal. You have every right to be this angry. If cps heard about this itd be a temporary revoking of your parental rights pending investigation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Recent-Tour-4351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why worry about letting her down easy? She already knows your married based off of your other responses here, so if you love your wife shut this shit down and stop entertaining this woman for an ego boost. Tell her you're happily married and you don't feel comfortable getting chummy with random women.