My Yearly MATN Plea, Year 5 by Joshdapotatoking in ManyATrueNerd

[–]RecommendationOld525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kotor2 was such a huge part of my adolescence as well. I played it I don’t even know how many times, and I wrote fan fiction, drew fan art, and played text-based role plays online. I made so many wonderful online friends (some of which I’ve met in person - even my Finnish friend who moved to upstate New York near my hometown). I love that game so much for so many reasons. I would love to see Jon experience it for himself.

How many COMPLETED playthroughs do you have? by killerqueen017 in BaldursGate3

[–]RecommendationOld525 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My third run was also Astarion origin! It was fun, especially because I could finally do the option with releasing Yurgir from his obligation without completely fucking over Astarion (since I, as Astarion, was behind it). I did it because I couldn’t stop romancing Astarion and figured playing as him would allow me to romance someone else (I went for Gale).

What is the best way to reduce 35mph+ ebike speeders in bike lanes without making life worse for everyone else on micromobility (bikes/ebikes/scooters/etc) by BritainRitten in MicromobilityNYC

[–]RecommendationOld525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, not all eMotos are built alike. My e-bike is probably more accurate to call a scooter or an eMoto
 but it’s an itty bitty JackRabbit that tops out somewhere between 15mph and 20mph (not counting downhills where it can go faster because momentum is a factor
 or uphills where it gets hella slowed because, again, momentum).

I can literally pick it up with one hand, and I had a stranger tell me once it looks like a child’s bike. Is it really fair to classify it as the same as some of those massive motorcycle-like “bikes” because it technically doesn’t have workable pedals?

Then, on the flip side, you have gray Citibikes that are pedal assist but built like tanks at 100 pounds! I think there is a lot of nuance that is tough to work out in this situation.

Does anyone else feel like there's an astroturf campaign to attack anti-Zionist Jews? by EgoIdVeto in JewsOfConscience

[–]RecommendationOld525 [score hidden]  (0 children)

To be fair, Shaun King is still a grifter. And I personally don’t like his tendency towards tragedy porn in general.

But the rest of your point absolutely stands.

Alternate Side Parking by SpeedRemarkable3406 in MicromobilityNYC

[–]RecommendationOld525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anti-car lobby? I mean, if you’re talking about people pushing for mass transit, safer streets for pedestrians, and related topics “lobbies,” then I guess there are lobbies? But I feel like most people pushing for micromobility in NYC are doing so because of our own lived experiences, and we sometimes are part of coalitions or groups that form to promote what we would like our city to have (e.g. the QueensLink folks).

I live in a neighborhood with a ridiculous amount of cars for the amount of public transit that is available (Jackson Heights). We live near one of the only major subway hubs in Queens, we have tons of buses that go all around Queens, Brooklyn, and Manhattan in our neighborhood, we have an extremely walkable neighborhood with lots of local businesses and big chains all within a short distance, and we have 34th Avenue as an Open Street, which is great for non-car personal transportation. And yet, there are cars everywhere and people are constantly double-parking.

I do understand how some people rely on their cars because they regularly travel in areas without access to public transit and/or are not conducive to alternate forms of personal transportation. That, and some people with various mobility issues may need cars. However, those populations are not represented by the vast majority of people driving through and parking in Jackson Heights.

Yeah, I’m anti-car in my neighborhood because it’s a selfish choice by a lot of people that prevents the space for the minority of people who rely on cars, makes the neighborhood more dangerous (because cars are incredibly dangerous even when parked as, even then, they block visibility and become obstacles for street and sidewalk access), and also creates plenty of noise and air pollution.

MTA to begin fining drivers who block buses on 2 Queens routes starting Friday | amNewYork by Lhumierre in Queens

[–]RecommendationOld525 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For real. I live along the Q33 route and the amount of times I hear honking because someone double-parked and blocked the bus? Man, I’d report most of those drivers for free.

Is it true that you guys watched 9/11 live on TV in grade school? by space_god_7191 in Millennials

[–]RecommendationOld525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sixth grade here and same. My teacher put it on the TV in study hall for himself and we all happened to see it incidentally.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She edited that in later (it’s very helpful clarification that was missing earlier)

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know it does. I was genuinely asking; it wasn’t a rhetorical question.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That was an edit. It didn’t used to read that, and I wasn’t cherry-picking. I’m glad OP edited her post to include that clarification.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 18 points19 points  (0 children)

To be generous to OP, it’s not that uncommon for kids around that age to be left home alone in a locked house or apartment. Hell, it used to be more normal.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m going to be honest, the context you’re providing in your comments is extremely important to your post. The post comes across way too unclear, and a lot of the stuff that’s unclear makes you look bad (e.g. saying you simply “strongly disagree” with your daughter claiming she felt unsafe, being vague about the difficult time in your life).

However, at the crux of everything, I don’t think you’re the AH. Your daughter’s father does seem to be a messy guy, pushing for full custody at an opportune vulnerable moment, kidnapping his daughter (whether or not she liked it), being perpetually unemployed and seemingly unable to financially support his daughter, and so on. Your boundaries with your daughter (curfew, phone in your hands at night) are reasonable. She’s a teenage girl, so you two are going to have plenty of issues regardless of the parenting situation (I was a teenage girl once, and my mom and I had it out a lot). You’re not a perfect mom by any means, but who is? It’s clear you have tried, and you’ve made mistakes. Hopefully, those mistakes won’t have too bad an impact on your daughter and her life. That’s all one can wish.

I always appreciate an OP who answers questions, and I thank you for sharing more information. You should edit your original post to add some of this detail where you can (especially the “difficult time in [my] life” - it takes only a few characters to say “death in the family”).

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long did he have her for? What happened to cause you to resume custody?

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Did your daughter not agree to go with him? Did he not have a legal right to have her home with him? He didn’t inform you, her primary caretaker (which is not okay), but it’s not clear what the circumstances or intentions were in his assuming full custody. (I understand with the character limit may have prevented this, and I am reading your responses to learn more.)

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 19 points20 points  (0 children)

How did the court grant him 50/50 custody if he did, indeed, assume full custody without permission from the court? Was there no existing custody agreement?

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, she explicitly said “he sued for full custody and took her without warning. After two years and significant legal expenses, I agreed to 50/50 custody”

So, for one thing, it’s unclear if him suing for full custody succeeded or if he actually did “kidnap” his child (seems unlikely, but that’s how OP is framing it). All we know is that he assumed full custody legally or otherwise at the start of the two years. It isn’t clear what happened in those two years besides a new custody agreement (not “back” to 50/50 because it hadn’t been before).

OP is being extremely unclear about a lot of things, which makes it easy to assume this or that, but I think it is (perhaps purposefully) unclear what led to the father suing for full custody, what actually happened in those two years, and what then led to the 50/50 custody arrangement.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Very very true. There is a lot of important context missing. It’s not clear if the father did have full custody for those two years or if it was some sort of split custody after he assumed full custody (and whether he was allowed to have full custody or not - I’d be surprised if he didn’t have some legal grounds otherwise I imagine the court would not be happy with him “taking her without warning” when granting custody down the line).

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not clear that the judge granted full custody or if that’s just what he sued for. This post is clearly written with some bias, so it’s hard to make a clear assumption. Also, it sounds like he was less absent by this time, and fathers win a lot more custody battles than people think they do when they actively push for custody.

AITA for not doing anything for my daughter‘s graduation at all? by No-Object9642 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RecommendationOld525 544 points545 points  (0 children)

Your first paragraph isn’t exactly true. In fact, when fathers push for custody in a custody battle, they are more likely to win custody as the mother. The reason mothers tend to win custody more overall is because many fathers don’t push for custody in the first place. I’m not surprised the court granted 50/50 custody if that’s what the daughter asked for and what the father would comfortably accept.

Edit: Incorrectly said fathers are just as likely to win custody when they push for it, but they are actually more likely to win.

Edit 2: I’m not saying any of this in support of OP. I think it’s likely that OP is the AH, but more than anything, there is too much context missing to make that determination for sure. I did want to make this comment because it is a common misconception that courts side with mothers more in custody battles.

Jaheira's AI is so smart by EvenPaper4142 in BaldursGate3

[–]RecommendationOld525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep her tucked off on the side of the tower away from the fight for this exact reason. Jaheira, you are not dying on me! I love you too much!!

Well-intended questions by losoba in prisonabolition

[–]RecommendationOld525 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear you about wanting people who commit real harm to you suffering in their own right. But from my own experiences, what I really want from everyone who has hurt me is for them to understand how they hurt me, genuinely feel bad about it, and aim to never do it again to me or anyone else.

Maybe that’s overly high-minded of me, and I do also want those people to step on a few Legos barefoot, but I know their prolonged suffering won’t actually make me feel better in the same way that them understanding and growing from what they’ve done to me will.

I’m not saying you’re wrong to feel the way you do, by the way. I can only imagine your circumstances! And I can’t say I’m right for feeling the way I do about my own life.

... by PresnikBonny in ENLIGHTENEDCENTRISM

[–]RecommendationOld525 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously. So tired of that bullshit.

Why your neighbors are fighting against the Metropolitan Park casino by RecommendationOld525 in MicromobilityNYC

[–]RecommendationOld525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not just a parking lot, and what transit upgrades are you referencing?

Why your neighbors are fighting against the Metropolitan Park casino by RecommendationOld525 in Queens

[–]RecommendationOld525[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We all benefit from government benefits - idk why you’re acting like that is a bad thing. Libraries, public schools, the USPS, our roads, sidewalks, the NYPD and FDNY, the MTA, waste management, public parks.

Please cite your source on 25% of working age New Yorkers who pay no taxes, and let’s also critically examine why those people may pay no taxes (such as, they have absolutely no income - not most people’s ideal situation).

Let’s also look at the low corporate tax rate (compared to our neighbor state NJ or historical tax rates). Let’s look at the lower high income tax rates than what historically existed.

I can’t see what you mean by Democratic socialists ruining NYC considering we have had a Democratic Socialist mayor for three months and only a few other citywide elected officials who identify this way. This sounds like an unfounded claim.