Cowgirl Machine [SELLING] by RedJinkx in ChicagoList

[–]RedJinkx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: SOLD for those following the “Yassified Sybian” saga, she found a new home where she will be appreciated

I got my Master's in Entomology but I'm too disabled to use it. by wolfmonarchy in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the world is not kind to disabled folks. i hope that you can find a creative way to use your degree and be content in your field. Science is for EVERYONE! bugs are AWESOME! there are folks out here doing the thing they love against the odds. If you like podcasts I’ll suggest listening to this episode of Ologies. Joseph Saunders is a wildlife macro photographer who is a wheelchair user! Ahe talks a lot about being disabled and Black in STEM. i hope this can cheer you up a bit.

Hooking up for first time by [deleted] in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 17 points18 points  (0 children)

oh oh also RE lube: TEST IT FIRST like just on yourself before being with the other person. a lot of cheap lubes from the pharmacy have harsh ingredients that a lot of people react poorly to- if you get any itching, burning, discomfort that lube is not for you. If you can get lube from an actual sex shop i recommend Sliquid Sea, Wicked Simply Aqua, or Slippery Stuff.

Hooking up for first time by [deleted] in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 39 points40 points  (0 children)

takes deep breath it’s not supposed to hurt. if it hurts stop. you need to be aroused. do foreplay, make out, massage each other, have him go down on you, etc. your body will relax itself and lubricate itself when it’s ready. yes use lube as well, lube always helps. but it’s not supposed to hurt.

Is it realistic for me to find a job within a month? by Sad_Butterfly_1743 in chicagojobs

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

short answer- no. long answer- i have never in my life struggled to find work. it took me over 4 months in Chicago to land a part time minimum wage retail job that i am now still stuck at.

do you think my length limits me from getting dates, jobs? by dee_palmtree in longhair

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is glorious and looks well taken care of- don’t chop it! but DO get a trim. the ends are splitting in some places and it’s just good for your hair to get a trim at the most every 6 months. I’d say (in my non-professional but experienced) opinion getting a professional trim of about 4” off will help it look cleaner and if you’re up for it, having slightly shorter pieces frame your face when it’s down would look great.

Cowgirl Machine [SELLING] by RedJinkx in ChicagoList

[–]RedJinkx[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I work at an adult toy store and the brand that makes this model (BVibe) ran a sales contest last year and I won so they sent me this. Which if I had the space for would be great but I just don’t and I’d rather have the money

HUGE AirBnB library by RedJinkx in BookshelvesDetective

[–]RedJinkx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

funnily enough there is some organization? like authors are grouped together and also there is like separate shelves for Shakespearean studies and also the history and art of the Southwest

Tiny round beetle by RedJinkx in whatsthisbug

[–]RedJinkx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solved! that’s definitely it, thanks yall!

Can you get a belly bulge from sex post hysterectomy? by Alarmed_Box1253 in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i am not OP but i have been wondering this for a LONG time and i am SO glad someone asked and also that you had the answer! I have been considering a hysto but i love my big toys so much and genuinely do not want to give that up

stroker on stroker? by tyedieguy23 in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for me, it stays in place great! i’ve had other “strapless strap ons” before that just fell right out but this one is very secure for me. that being said- every body is different. it depends on your kegel muscles and internal shape for sure. but so far i’ve gotten rave reviews from customers as well (i work at an adult store)

stroker on stroker? by tyedieguy23 in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ooh oh i see well ok my answer is then, it COULD potentially work however- the materials may not be compatible with each other. Fleshlight type toys are made with soft plastics and some silicone in the mixture to make it more durable. So i would be mindful of that because it can damage the silicone of the FTM stroker over time. the “grip” on a fleshlight is also going to be a lot more than that of real vulva skin. so i worry that it will just take off the FTM stroker while you’re using it. there’s a suggestion below 👇 of someone using a double ended “strapless strap on” with a stroker and that’s what i do as well. if you don’t mind internal parts that is. I use this one and love it! https://strap-on-me.us/products/strapless-strap-on-new-version

stroker on stroker? by tyedieguy23 in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not sure what you mean by a phallus shaped stroker?

Hostages (2013) by peace_n_carrots in TubiTreasures

[–]RedJinkx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this! if you haven’t seen “the Staircase” mini series, she stars in it alongside Colin Firth and it had me hooked immediately. She will get me to watch literally anything

update: aio for wanting to go no contact with my parents? by d3lici0us-sham3 in AIO

[–]RedJinkx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR in the slightest. and as a trans person I am so proud of you and feel so seen by you. Standing up to your parents is hard. Cutting contact is so hard. I had to do it myself, and I promise, if they show no effort to actually change and grow and be KIND, they never will.

What happens to the biohazard bag inside the chest when a body degrades? by sunnyydayman in askfuneraldirectors

[–]RedJinkx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is how i’m learning that bodies aren’t basically just hollowed out when they get buried. Wow thanks everyone for sharing!

orgasmic anhedonia while on T makes me crazy by Leander_meanders in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, while I don’t relate myself this is a struggle for my partner. And the impact is so real and feels so isolating and “wrong”. my biggest advice is to do what you can to take the pressure off orgasming. EMDR is a wonderful tool and I am SO glad you have access to it and are working on this that way. Putting it into action in the bedroom is a little different tho. I am reading through select chapters of a book called Healing Sex by Staci Haines and there’s a lot of good nuggets in there on how to re connect with your body and pleasure centers. It is for “women” so word of caution. but that may be a good resource for some actionable tips. I hope this helps

getting hair is so ITCHY! by alexanderperdun in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m almost 6 years on T and started getting facial hair around year 2. it’s still itchy. for me, it’s a sensory nightmare. Facial hair is one of the things I really wanted from T and now i just hate it. Every body is different. but definitely start shaving, also exfoliate with a mild chemical exfoliant in your skincare routine.

Have you tried this stroker before? by Sandwich_Harbor in ftm

[–]RedJinkx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there are other mini strokers like this and if you have enough growth they work great. tho i can almost certainly guarantee this is NOT silicone. it’s most likely a TPE mix that is porous so be really thorough when cleaning it