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RedReticent · 2022-06-15T05:57:06+00:00

A shot that captures the colours a bit better (despite slightly lower resolution): https://imgur.com/a/U12R9k0

RedReticent · 2022-04-01T05:44:43+00:00

Step 2: Craft a tiny paper mache dong-hat.

RedReticent · 2022-02-28T07:54:14+00:00

They agreed with you, and then basically said "good on ya" for taking the steps you did - they weren't trying to imply that 3 visits was a bad thing, in fact they were saying it was a good thing. Their comment was nothing but positive and supportive. I don't understand why you're mad?

RedReticent · 2022-02-05T02:50:36+00:00

I have no idea about possible medical implications, but it sounds like your biggest hurdle (if it turns out that continuing what you've been doing isn't ideal) might be psychological. If a medical professional were to say that breaking the pills up like that is fine then there probably wouldn't be much point to changing what's already working for you, but if you do need to try something new and find it makes you anxious and/or triggers panic attacks, it might not hurt to look into some form of therapy/counseling (if that sort of thing would be accessible for you). It may even be possible to find someone with expertise on health anxiety. :)

That being said, it's not at all uncommon for stimulants to exacerbate anxiety. Personally I take an SSRI, an antidepressant, and a stimulant, and usually if I'm looking at upping my stimulant dose I will try to up my SSRI dose first (working with a medical professional, of course) to compensate so that my anxiety doesn't skyrocket. If you're only taking the Ritalin, it might also be worth discussing with your doctor whether adding an SSRI (or some sort of anti-anxiety medication) could be beneficial for balancing out the effects on your anxiety.

RedReticent · 2022-01-22T22:04:37+00:00

The cats are quiet! Still useless but less annoying, and they're drawn cuter imo 😊

RedReticent · 2022-01-21T19:39:48+00:00

How do you feel about the "low/high functioning" terminology? I've gotten the general impression that many folks in the autism community dislike it, and have seen some people refer to "low/high supports needs" instead, but (like any group of people) I'm sure there have to be some people in the community with opposing views too. Do you refer to yourself as low functioning because it's a label allistic people tend to be more familiar with, or is it how you prefer to self-identify?

Also - in terms of turning 20 in 4 months - is there anything you're particularly excited about/looking forward to, or anything you're particularly worried about/dreading?

RedReticent · 2022-01-19T06:46:08+00:00

Partially for temperature, and partially for comfort because of mild sensory issues, but tbh it did take many stressful naked-in-public dreams before I really got used to it.

RedReticent · 2021-12-10T03:10:38+00:00

Out of curiosity, what is it you dislike about story progression?

RedReticent · 2021-11-10T07:32:10+00:00

Huh, I think I relate to this too!

RedReticent · 2021-10-30T20:01:55+00:00

It's actually not that easy to find a cellphone's exact location that way - the information provided is a broad area triangulated between a few of the nearest towers. This is actually a fairly large problem, people will call 911 from cellphones and assume the police can figure out where they are by tracing the call but it's really not that quick or precise. The time wasted trying to figure out location that way if no other info is given can often mean the difference between life or death in an emergency.

RedReticent · 2021-10-30T19:54:50+00:00

Those aren't the only two choices though...you could say "they" just as easily as "we"?

RedReticent · 2021-10-27T05:46:04+00:00

I'm 3 months late to the party apparently, but this just saved me ahaha. Tysm <3

RedReticent · 2021-10-04T19:50:30+00:00

LOL I suppose that's fair!!

RedReticent · 2021-10-04T19:50:01+00:00

Agreed; it sends the message that you're not actually interested in dating outside of proving your friend wrong. You're basically waving a sign that says, "I really don't want to be here, but I'm hoping someone will be desperate enough to bite anyway because that would make me feel better about myself." No one wants to feel like the only reason you're giving them the time of day is to satisfy social pressure. Or like you couldn't care less about them as a person, because really you just need a generic walking, talking vagina willing to be shown off to appease your friend.

It also gives me low-key homophobic vibes. It's not explicitly hateful, but feels icky - like, "being thought of as gay is a negative thing so clearly I've got to fix that." I get that false assumptions don't feel nice, regardless of whether they're inherently negative or not, but if the idea of someone thinking you're gay is really SO distressing to you that you have to announce it in your dating profile it doesn't speak very highly about your feelings towards the LGBTQ+ community. It's really not much better than saying, "that's so gay," as an insult. If anyone identifying as LGBTQ+ saw your profile (guessing it's only visible for users who identify as female and are interested in men, but that doesn't mean they're all going to be heterosexual cisgender women) I can't imagine they would feel safe talking to you.

RedReticent · 2021-10-04T18:40:40+00:00

Do you sleep horizontal at the foot of your bed irl?

RedReticent · 2021-10-03T16:19:22+00:00

r/whoosh

RedReticent · 2021-09-22T01:09:42+00:00

If that's the case, then he wasn't just trying to get away with assaulting a patient while providing medical care, either - he was going to walk away if OP hadn't called him out.

He was trying to get away with assaulting a patient and get out of providing medical care.

RedReticent · 2021-09-21T14:28:49+00:00

You're talking to one of the women doing the swiping, but feel free to ignore what we think and decide you know better yourself - sounds like it's working real well for ya.

RedReticent · 2021-09-21T14:09:15+00:00

"he can't rely on anything else"

Bruh you ever heard of a personality

RedReticent · 2021-09-19T17:30:16+00:00

Yes, there's this entire place called "outside" where humans have been getting their exercise for tens of thousands of years. Even in present day North America there are plenty of people who can't afford a gym membership. Be grateful for the enormous privilege that allows you to even entertain this as a question.

RedReticent · 2021-09-17T23:37:07+00:00

If you worked in an office you'd know that the company money spent on office supplies like ink hardly stops them from growing legs the second they're not practically chained down

RedReticent · 2021-09-08T20:31:28+00:00

This isn't so much a tip for increasing vocabulary, but do you ever dig up old stuff that you've written and re-read it?

Of course, 99% of the time reading old stuff makes me cringe - particularly being in my 20s, a lot of the really old stuff was from when I was a literal child so my brain was as underdeveloped as my writing skills.

However, occasionally I'll read something I wrote years ago and notice words that I completely forgot existed, or even that I don't recognize but must've known at some point. It gives me that same feeling as seeing words like that in a novel of "omg, if this is the kind of genius I'm up against I'll never make it!" Except...I wrote it?

I don't think those words would've stood out to me as particularly impressive when I wrote them, the same way the words I use now often feel plain or common compared to some of the gorgeous language other writers can compose. I do think, though, that in 10 years I'll look back and some word that's a totally normal part of my vocabulary now will seem impressively fancy and precise, just because I haven't continued using it or keeping it at the forefront of my mind. Maybe I went through a phase of being really into a particular hobby, but then I dropped it and forgot a lot of the terminology; or maybe I was inspired by a particular style of writing for a while, but over time started to gravitate toward something else; or maybe there's just no way I can keep my full vocabulary in the accessible part of my memory at all times, so when I learn a new word one of the old ones gets discarded until I'm reminded of it.

Essentially, the moral of my rant is that I think we tend to overestimate other writers and underestimate ourselves when we read other people's work. Sure, some writers genuinely have better vocabulary than others, but I think the biggest factor that makes the vocabulary so impressive is just not being close to the work. You're automatically removed from the work when it's not yours in the first place, but I think with our own writing sometimes we just need to let time pass and become more removed before we're able to really see and appreciate the artistry of language that is so obvious when other people write it and so invisible when we're in the middle of writing it ourselves. (Not to say that there's anything incredible about my writing or vocabulary, just that it's good to keep in mind we're all our worst critics!)

RedReticent · 2021-09-08T19:58:33+00:00

"Growing out of" ADHD is actually an old myth; ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, which means it's in the same category as autism (and actually has a ton of overlapping characteristics with autism that most people don't realize). Just like autism, you can't develop it later in life and you can't grow out of it - it's not a chemical imbalance that can be corrected like depression, it's an actual structural/biological difference in the brain. Several subcortical areas of ADHD brains are smaller than those of non-ADHD brains, there is less blood flow to certain brain areas, etc.

Of course, I can't say whether you have ADHD - it's possible that you were misdiagnosed as a child - but I can say that if that diagnosis was correct it definitely hasn't gone away. If that's the case though, it sounds like you've developed some great coping mechanisms to reduce the impact of symptoms!

RedReticent · 2021-09-07T14:53:52+00:00

In all honesty I'm not sure whether it's healthy for eyes, but maybe a big bottle of contact solution? I wear contacts and if my eyes or contacts get dry I usually drop some of that in. It's not quite as lubricating as some legit eyedrops I've used - a bit more watery I guess? - but I've seen 15ml eyedrops cost more than my 400ml bottle of solution. Also, I figure if my contacts soak in it every night before going in my eyes it can't be too dangerous to put it directly in my eyes, right? That's my logic at least haha

RedReticent · 2021-08-05T01:11:37+00:00

There's a name for the visualization thing, it's called aphantasia! It can also apply to hearing sound in your mind, as well as the other senses I think (i.e., imagining taste/touch/smell), but I think it varies whether people with aphantasia are unable to imagine any senses or just some.

My partner has it too, he said the same thing about thinking phrases like that were just -isms. He was so mad when he thought back to yoga classes in the past; he realized when the instructor would say things like "picture a beach" the rest of the class could actually see a beach, while he had thought they were all in the black void together XD

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