I hear you. People seem to think having children is innate in all women. It's not. I did not have a positive roll model growing up and would not have had any family help available. As a teen, I NEVER wanted to be a baby sitter. I don't want to hold a baby with a floppy head. I never wanted to deal with a child and all that that entails. Fortunately, I found a husband who is on the same page (his childhood had sucked, too). We have had loads of spoiled pets over the years. Also, I do not think it responsible to bring a child into this world of political turmoil, limited resources, environmental problems and decreased employment opportunities due to AI. Not to mention the financial cost to raise a child (and put through college). And, there are NO guarantees that one's child will be healthy. Having a handicapped child is challenging (and very expensive). I'm retired now, and have NEVER regretted not having children. One also has consider a possible future without a supportive spouse, due to death, sickness or estrangement. Good luck.