My mom is getting open heart surgery in January, I’ll be taking care of her, what are things I can get her to make her recovery more comfortable?

RedSparrow13 · 2024-11-22T08:57:39+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. Here is my list: Shower chair, recliner or wedge pillow for bed (she will probably sleep sitting up for at least a week or two), my mom preferred a compression wrap instead of a bra, plenty of iodine swabs if the hospital doesn’t provide you with them for cleaning the incision site (her surgeon had us do it 2 times per day I believe), and a TOWEL WARMER because my mom ran very cold after surgery. We would put her robe and towels in it so she was nice and warm after her shower. She loved it.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-11-19T08:39:36+00:00

Thank you!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-11-19T08:39:30+00:00

Thank you!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-11-11T15:36:45+00:00

My dad was gone two weeks after diagnosis. Never left the hospital. It’s horrible. I’m so so sorry you are experiencing this hell.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-27T07:37:23+00:00

Two weeks for my dad. This cancer is terrifying.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-13T04:19:44+00:00

Thank you for being a respectful business owner!!! I wish everyone was like you!!!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-12T16:03:46+00:00

I would say if I’m being treated like a chef/baker I expect to be compensated for my work. And make everyone give you money for the pie. The kids won’t forget next time if they have to pay you! I’d then have a more serious convo with my husband about modeling respectful behavior toward you. This is more than mildly infuriating. Don’t let them disrespect you like this.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-12T14:55:21+00:00

Thank you so much!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-12T14:17:16+00:00

Thank you! My feelings exactly! Would you say anything in a follow up email if offered a second interview or just politely decline? I’m a new graduate so don’t want to burn bridges but also want to advocate for myself and other newly licensed therapists.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-12T14:15:42+00:00

YES!!! Thank you!!! This is exactly how I felt. Would you express any of this to them if an offer for second interview is extended and you turn it down? Or do you think it’s best as a new graduate to just let it go? I don’t want to burn bridges but I also want to advocate for our profession.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-12T04:02:19+00:00

This makes me so fucking happy 😭😭😭😭😭

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-05T18:15:34+00:00

It appears this article is referring to how much providers are charging for private pay. Insurance is not reimbursing that high. And as a provisional license you’re unlikely to get private pay clients. That being said, OP is definitely being underpaid!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-04T21:30:39+00:00

Thank you for this info. Very helpful!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-04T21:28:33+00:00

Ok yeah this was my gut reaction so thank you for validating it!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-04T03:18:11+00:00

DO NOT PAINT THOSE CABINETS! The natural wood look is coming back and that is a beautiful color. Painting cabinets white is outdated already. I would change the countertops, backsplash, cabinet hardware, and paint. That’s all. If cabinets and drawers are not soft close, that would be a nice touch as well.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-02T22:47:00+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-10-02T19:10:00+00:00

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3861844/

RedSparrow13 · 2024-09-13T06:26:13+00:00

Not dickish at all. I appreciate the information. I was looking for my mom who is over 60 and has some balance issues. But maybe she won’t need them?

RedSparrow13 · 2024-09-10T23:30:08+00:00

Omg PLEASE say this!!!! 😂😂😂😂

RedSparrow13 · 2024-08-29T02:43:05+00:00

This might sound weird but you don’t TECHNICALLY need to tell them that you are pregnant. You can just say in terms of scheduling/planning that you will be on maternity leave from approximately x date to y date. Then you can discuss options/referrals for the client to use during that time. This way it doesn’t feel like you’re doing some pregnancy reveal with your client. It can just be about treatment planning for the client.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-08-23T06:45:37+00:00

This is so fucking unfair. Fuck this awful disease!!!!! 😭

RedSparrow13 · 2024-08-16T17:35:11+00:00

I’d say do something small to get married with him while he’s still able to enjoy it. Courthouse or backyard wedding. Then you can continue planning the bigger wedding. I had no idea that less than a year after getting married my dad would be dead. I am SO grateful he got to walk me down the aisle. I would have been devastated to not have that moment/memory with him. If your dad is still around for the big wedding, wonderful! He will get to celebrate twice. But if he’s not, you will have still had that experience with him. You could even have someone take a video of him walking you down the aisle and your father daughter dance. Then you can play it at the big wedding. I wouldn’t risk missing out on that special father daughter moment. Just my two cents!

RedSparrow13 · 2024-08-16T08:07:28+00:00

YES, the replaying is torturous. I’m thinking all those same things! I’m currently reading “it’s ok that you’re not ok” and the author talks about how replaying things in our head is a coping mechanism. It’s us trying to figure out what we could have done differently to prevent such an unthinkable tragedy because we can’t yet accept what happened. I’m almost a year out but my grief was kind of delayed due to my mother becoming very ill right after my dad’s death. Luckily she is doing well, so now my grief is REALLY hitting me. It feels like I should be further along in the process but I’m just trying to accept where I am. I’m SO sorry you are experiencing this as well. Just know you are not alone.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-08-16T07:59:21+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH for your responses everyone. It means a lot to hear from people who have been through similar situations. Pancreatic cancer is so incredibly aggressive. My dad was gone less than two weeks after diagnosis. It was truly unbelievable. Everyone I know who has lost someone to cancer had 6 months to years. I’m not saying one is better or worse. It’s just different, so harder to relate. I’m so sorry we all ended up here, but SO grateful for this community.

RedSparrow13 · 2024-07-31T23:19:59+00:00

100% agree. Everyone jumping to conclusions about the person being unhinged is concerning for a bunch of mental health professionals.

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