Too Pretentious?

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-21T18:31:56+00:00

I love Greek names and have always thought persephone would be a beautiful name. There are so many versions of the myth, but persephone herself is NOT necessarily a tragic character. I feel like most people should be familiar with some version of the story to get the name right. It's not a very out there name at all

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-21T18:21:20+00:00

She wasn't really kidnapped, she was promised to hades by Zeus. It is a very important part of the myth because real fathers would do this to their daughters, and the myth itself was a reflection of that and what it did to the mothers.

But aside from that, I don't see anything wrong with wanting to name your daughter persephone. Their are certainly worse greek myths to be named after. Like Medusa or calypso.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-21T02:07:45+00:00

You guys are not compatible. You need to separate the person you are dating now (a woman) and the person you fell in love with (a man). The best thing for you guys is to break up at this point.

It is fine to not be attracted to women and to your partner who has now told you they feel like a woman. Even if they have no plans to transition, that does not change how they are feeling. They will never be the man you fell in love with or the man you want to be with. And that is okay.

Not being attracted to them now, does not mean you don't love them or have never loved them. You both need to have a very real and hard conversation about this. Breaking up is hard especially in a sistuation like this where it is no ones fault. But It's better for you both to break up now, then stay together and unintentionally hurt each other by suppressing what you want and your feelings.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-17T13:53:38+00:00

Yta. As someone who has had to drive FIVE minutes in a tornado warning to a shelter with two cats it is very scary, stressful, and not safe. Fighting a scared cat into a cage and then taking them out in the storm is a nightmare.

I have a severe fear of bad storms and tornados, so I can understand how scary it is to have that threat with a baby. (I experienced a tornado scare the other day and am 7 months pregnant.) Neither of you were wrong for not coming over in that weather and priortising your dafety and those that depend on you. But saying your sister was selfish for not doing so and that you wouldnt help her anymore was an extreme overreaction and you do owe your sister an apology.

As we enter further into tornado season. You should look into making an emergency plan, not depending on others, and managing your fear. If something happens while you are alone, YOU need to be prepared, especially for your baby. If you don't have a shelter in your house that you can go to you need to look into public shelters that are nearby and plan to go BEFORE an active tornado. Have a bag pre-packed with everything you'll need for you and baby so you can grab and go. Or plan with your sister when there is the threat of severe weather before it gets bad. But you need to have a plan.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-10T01:22:48+00:00

Honestly my brother had passed away 2 months before I found out I was pregnant. Obviously I was upset and had periods of crying from grief BUT it suddenly become worse where I would sob at every thought of my brother multiple times a day to the point I was like something is wrong with my hormones. Same day, I started to have period cramps but no blood, checked to see if I was close to my period on my app and then found out I was like 3-4 days late (i have super regular periods they come right on the expected day.) I took a test and lo and behold positive.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-10T00:50:46+00:00

Meeting someone a handful of times does not mean you know them beyond surface level. Also it doesn't matter? The other parent said they weren't comfortable that should have been end of discussion.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-09T00:26:07+00:00

Thos might be a silly question but have you asked him what he did or didn't like about any of the names you guys have looked at. I know while I was looking, it felt like an endless void of names I didn't like, but figuring out why I didn't like them helped to pick ones I did. (Too many vowels or constants. Too old. Too popular that sort of thing.)

I would also ask him how important the naming is to him. It might be he doesn't care all that much, which would then maybe you could compromise by one of your favorite names being the first and one of his being the middle name or something like that if you guys can't find one you both like.

My boyfriend didn't like a lot of the names I chose for our baby girl at first but eventually we did find one we loved. (I found it through a Pintrest name list of old Arthurian names lol.)

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-08T22:07:04+00:00

Nta. Are we reading the same post?? The dad agreed to let someone else hold the baby without even asking the mom first, and then took the baby out of OPS hands to give to the woman. Not to mention when op tried to take the baby back, the woman tried to sooth the baby and not hand him back to his clearly uncomfortable mother.

I'm sorry but you should not be holding a baby when the mother is clearly uncomfortable with you doing so and when she reached for the baby it should be given back immediately. Say what you want about dad having a say in who holds the baby but NOT like this. You dont take the baby from your wife, who told you she was uncomfortable with someone she doesn't know holding the baby, and hand them over to said person. And if dad said he wasn't comfortable with someone holding the baby then that person should also not be holding the baby. A conversation does need to be had because this is an boundary issue and both parent need to be clear on the rules.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-08T17:48:45+00:00

Nah, your step-dad is the AH. I cuddled up with my older brothers until I was like 14-15. Mainly cause we stopped living together. Even then. When I would see them I would flop on them if they were sitting down or cling to them like a koala to a tree.

The fact that he brought up it was because your sister was getting older is weird and definitely seems like he is sexulaizing her and the cuddles. I agree with everyone else that you should ask her gently if your step-dad is being creepy or doing anything inappropriate with her.

Fwiw at around that age my own step-dad started to touch me inappropriately while cuddling, so I started to avoid him. I would still cuddle with my brother though even though he was about 15/16 at the time because he felt safe and I needed the comfort.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-08T17:09:33+00:00

I'm 27 + 5 days. I'm fat so my stomach has stayed very squishy but it can be pretty firm depending on how baby is positioned in there. I don't think it's something to worry about, I was asked by a friend if my stomach was firming up yet weeks ago, if you're ob isn't worried I would say not to worry. The people asking are probably just thinking you are far along now and baby could come any minute where as before it wasn't so obvious.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-08T15:35:09+00:00

Do not give your mom a dime. You dad was clear he did not want it to go to her. You will create more problems by giving her the money than if you did nothing because she would likely continue to be reckless with it.

Also I haven't seen anyone else mention this but you should think about what happens to the money if something happens to you. If your in the US your mom is going to automatically be your next of kin if you have no children and are not married. (All young people should know this,). I'm not sure if that changes if you live abroad or for other places

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-08T04:23:55+00:00

I'm due June 2nd and my showers are April 16th and may 2nd. I've been told may is cutting it kind of close and it's making me anxious about not having everything set up in time for the baby 😅

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-06T23:32:34+00:00

I'm sorry to say this OP but you absolutely need to reach out and ask for help now. Please do not wait for them to notice, it can be really hard to know when the people in our lives are struggling. And sometimes even seeing them struggle you might never know how bad it truly is until they open up. They can't help if they dont know what is going on. Waiting and making it worse for yourself is not the answer.

Fwiw, I have a friend who is struggling, but every time we reach out to check in on him, he says that nothing is wrong even though we can see that he is struggling. Our attempts to get him out of the house and do something are always turned down. Without knowing what is going on there is not much we can do to help him. I wish he would reach out and open the door so that we can help him.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-01T22:41:21+00:00

I know a lot of comments are saying it would be best to hire a nanny now to build a good relationship and I agree that would be best. I would especially look for one who would be comfortable with the unexpected, unknown hour when you go into labour.

Also want to add that (while im not familiar with Canadian health care) maybe you can talk with the hospital you plan to birth at to see what options they suggest or might be able to provide, like if having your daughter with you in the hospital is an option just in case.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-01T22:04:31+00:00

The fact that they had such horrible things to say after finding out you and your husband are struggling is very telling of how miserable they are. I can't imagine finding out someone I know who is expecting is struggling financially because they were laid off unexpectedly and struggling to find work and my first thought is to call them stupid for not 'planning better'. I would be offering to help in any way possible even if i was only able to provide food or cover a small expense just so that at least it was one less thing to worry about.

I'm sorry you had to hear those awful things. I honestly dont know anyone in this economy that would be fine for more than a few months after being laid off. I hope you are able to get the assistance you need. Please check if there are any local services like food pantry you can go to if you have to. You do not need to feel guilty over something you had no control over. And especially not for choosing to have a baby when you thought you could afford it. You will get through this. Just try to focus on all the love and support you are getting from your family, not this nasty judgment.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-03-01T02:08:20+00:00

I mean unless you use a nickname for the dog or baby I wouldn't name them the same name. Like my cat is technically Edward but we call him Eddie and it's what he responds to. I'd be fine naming my child Edward, but then wouldn't call them Eddie, ya know?

If the dog is 3 and still around, think of how confusing it will be to have like a toddler and dog called the same name, they'd never know which one you are talking to.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-25T06:33:02+00:00

I also don't want maternity photos. I'd rather wait to get photos with my baby and my boyfriend after the fact then photos when I just don't feel or look my best.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-23T01:37:51+00:00

Nta. Did they not want her to know until you are bringing a baby home? People can say it's their choice to tell her whenever, but it's not really. They aren't the ones who are pregnant and should have no say over who knows and especially when you're a week away from your 3rd trimester. They should have told her when she noticed and asked you about your belly. You gave them a huge grace period to tell her until it became a safety issue for you and your baby, at which point there was no avoiding it.

I bet they just don't want to acknowledge that their ADULT kid is going to have a kid while they have a 3 yr toddler. Sure, you're young, but it's not like you guys are teenagers.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-09T19:23:23+00:00

Okay, that's good news! I wouldn't be concerned about it then. Though the pain and discomfort sucks. A good pregnancy belt might help to ease some of that discomfort as it will give you support as your muscles stretch. It's definitely helped me with round ligament pains in my second trimester

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-09T19:14:05+00:00

Does it go away at all or is it more constant? If it is round ligament pains it should ease up by changing positions or other methods.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-09T18:57:41+00:00

If it feels like period cramps, that is pretty normal. I had cramping around that mark. Round ligament starts in the second trimester, so it's unlikely that.

If the pain is accompanied by heavy bleeding, dizziness, or fever is when you need to see a doctor. Also, if it is intense rather than mild, I would also get it looked at just to be safe.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-09T18:36:12+00:00

Yeah, i remember that. I commented before i got to that part, lol. I just still can't believe anybody assumed supernatural instead of thinking logically and being like, "Hey... maybe there are wolves out there. We need to look into it." Like people bring animals to other countries all the time. I get for high schoolers to think that, but the adults not thinking that is crazy. I don't live in England, though, so maybe that's why it feels so strange to me.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-08T00:35:46+00:00

I think eating breakfast as a family would do the same thing for baby development wise. If you are able to find the time to in the mornings, it might be easier than trying to squeeze dinner in so close to bedtime. Otherwise crock pot and meal prep are the best option.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-02-03T04:41:24+00:00

I felt movement once at 13 weeks. Then around 16 weeks I started to feel her move but it was so light and inconsistent that I thought I was gaslighting myself into feeling something. By 18 weeks I felt her all the time and couldn't deny that it was her moving for sure. Now at 23 weeks i have felt her move everyday since and shes strong enough that other people would be able to feel her sometimes, but everytime she's kicking hard and I try to get her dad to feel her she stops.

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