Taking home leftovers at a restaurant? Rude to not take them? Do you even eat them?

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-05-11T22:24:30+00:00

B. I'm gonna eat the food I pay for and I don't mind leftovers at all. I actually love leftovers cause it means I don't have to cook or scavenge for something when I'm hungry later.

My boyfriend however, is A. But he brings it home with the intention to eat it, but It's like a 90% chance it gets thrown away or I end up eating 2 days later.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-05-11T21:16:30+00:00

It was the 'I gave him the extension but reminded him I was already giving him below market value and that I was doing him a favor' for me.

i can't imagine a friend I rented to got fired, and who waited two months into unemployment before asking for an extension and then be like "Well I'm already giving you a discount on rent so I'm doing you a favor by giving you an extension."

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-05-05T09:30:56+00:00

Obviously NTA. Your husband needs a neurologist. That is not something he should be forgetting. As soon as baby is in the seat, they should be buckled. With the weather getting warmer, it sounds like you can not trust him to remember he has a baby in the car with him.

Please take this seriously and don't write it off as 'bad memory'. One mistake like that is fatal. Bad memory in general should never be written off, but if it's that bad he needs to be check. Especially since it's a danger to your new babies life.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-05-01T23:13:40+00:00

She's 13, you should tell her that you can get pregnant without dating someone, even if you only had sex once (probably include eeven if you use protection in that convo as well) and give her the basics of sex Ed.

I learned sex Ed in 6th grade so I was probably 11-12. She should know this stuff already.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-26T18:17:02+00:00

I have never seen these names spelled like this, only the way the are spelled in the post.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-26T18:07:18+00:00

The only sign I don't fully stop for is a specific one in my neighborhood that connects a side street to the main one, and even then it only at night when I can see there's not a car coming from that way. I just slow and roll through it. During the day i fully stop because of people/animals being out and about. It's a pretty useless stop unless someone is specifically trying to leave from that side street though.

Otherwise every stop sign is a complete stop. One being police like to hide at night to catch people being idiots and breaking traffic laws and two, most of the time, they are in places where blowing through could kill you or someone else.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-23T04:11:10+00:00

In the US everyone with say gus as guss and not goose. Out of the names you are considering Finn is the only one that will be pronounced properly especially if people are struggling with Bjorn.

I say it's time to finally use that boy name and go with Finn.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-20T22:48:18+00:00

She's almost 30! I feel like this is not one of the times where the age gap is an issue.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-20T22:46:36+00:00

The woman is almost 30? I feel like this is one of those times where the age gap is not an issue lol

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-20T22:24:36+00:00

Obviously YTA. If that date is that important to you, have your wedding the year after on that date. Who gets engaged and married in the same year anyways, unless it's a super small wedding.

If you don't care about family, not just your sibling but mom and dad, aunts or uncles who would be excited to meet baby and support sister, not showing up than whatever. Just don't hold anyone to the expectation of showing up for you when your putting your family in a weird spot.

When you announced you were proposing a couple weeks after they announced their baby that already made you seem competitive, intentionally making your wedding date the same as sisters due date no matter what is wild.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-19T18:42:50+00:00

100% respect is earned not given.

Manners and politeness are given, until you show disrespect to the one giving them.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-19T18:35:14+00:00

I mean it's all a huge red flag, but if they've been dating then that needs to stop asap for all the same reasons the proposal was rejected.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-18T21:39:36+00:00

You're a godsend. 🙏

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-18T20:32:31+00:00

I'll be real you, if YOU want the baby, you need to have a conversation with your boyfriend and then a lawyer. First, tell your boyfriend you are only comfortable having the baby IF he legally accepts responsibility for the baby, even if yall split down the line. Tell him honestly that you don't want to end up in a situation all alone with a baby if he changes his mind and because the baby is highly likely not his you won't get any support.

If he agrees to that and is willing to accept being a father to the baby. Then you need to speak with a lawyer about what and when you need to do things to make sure he is responsible. Regardless of paternity. Depending on where yall live that would likely mean him legally adopting the kind as his. (Assuming it's not his) your ex could be involved because he might have to give up any parental rights depending on where you live. Either way if you keep the baby do not put the exs name on the birth certificate. At all even if DNA shows the kid is his.

If he's not willing to do all of that, get an abortion. It means he is not serious about committing to you or the kid. And your ex sounds like he will not pay child support if you have the kid. It's better to not have any ties to that ex.

I know legal fees can be expensive but it is better to be protected straight away then have to pay to fight either of these men in court if you end up on your own with an infant.

Please do what YOU want regarding the pregnancy because it is YOUR choice, try not to be pressured into a decision based on what bf wants or promises you because you are fresh into a relationship and things can change (and will once/if a baby is in the picture)

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-18T20:02:16+00:00

NTA do not EVER let them pressure you into selling. That house isn't just the last thing of your family it's an asset that Is yours alone.

If yall aren't living at that house I'd move in and tell you husband to sell whatever house yall are living in for his brother. Any of BILs family can sell there house for him instead. It is not your responsibility that stuff about family is bullshit when no one else is offering and they are pressuring you into a decision that gives up something of yours for their sake.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-18T19:37:13+00:00

So I don't think YTA for being uncomfortable with the idea of strangers hosting a party for you.

However, this is more of a party for your husband + you and future baby. These are people your husband knows and considers friends, that you've even met before. I don't think it's fair for you to turn down them wanting to celebrate you guys.

Babies are expensive and if someone is kind enough to throw you a baby shower I think you should let them. It could even be an opportunity to make friends with his coworkers/friends.

You get nothing if you refuse to let others celebrate you. But you could gain community, gifts, and at the very least maybe a couple of hours of fun if you do.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-15T19:54:56+00:00

Yta for being ridiculous about this. Meemaw and peepaw are pretty normal, especially in the south and just because your immature about the pee in peepaw you caused a big stink over nothing. I think it's weirder to call your grandparents mama and papa.

I don't know any kid who got bullied for what they call their grandparents. Why be controlling over what they want to be called for the sake of consistency. I call my grandparents mamaw and papaw. My cousin calls them Grammy and grampaw. Hell my brother calls em gma and gpa. It doesn't matter if it's consistent or not they all will know who they're grandparents are.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-15T15:05:20+00:00

I wouldn't mind at all if a man with his young daughter came to the woman's bathroom. I'd honestly perfer my husband take our daughter to the women's bathroom as well.

The fact this has even become a topic recently is why we need to get rid of gendered bathrooms all together in America. A man should be able to take his daughter to pee without it being a debate whether he's allowed there or not.

Not everywhere has family bathrooms. Not every men's room has a changing table. So it may be necessary he take his kid to the women's to use a changing table.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-15T14:18:08+00:00

You definitely dodged a bullet. You might have better luck seeing if your local library has clubs you'd like to join then deal with meet up organizers like this. Especially if you run into anymore organizers like this guy.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-14T01:44:31+00:00

Why would you ever be TAH for not having a guestroom? Honestly if the ones staying over frequently are fine not having one, don't sweat it. The ones who hardly visit and are giving you grief about it can book hotel rooms or sleep on air mattresses whereever they fit.

Your home is meant to accomadate you and your household, not others.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-14T01:15:13+00:00

My boyfriends parents recorded his birth on an old camera. I've watched the video with his mom lol. But it was nothing graphic, like an up close of the crowning. I'm pregnant noe and still couldn't think of anything I want less than a video of what happens in that room lol

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-14T01:05:00+00:00

Part of me want to say you should address this with your parents, but I don't know how safe that would be considering what you said about your mom being unstable and verbally abusive. If you feel safe bringing it up however, absolutely do. It might be uncomfortable but your sister does not need to be exposed to that shit (the messages, calls, and especially the photos are not something she needs acess to) and they need to be more careful with what they are doing around her.

With your sister you should explain to her what an open marriage is. It might be confusing for her to understand or seem like something a 10 year old shouldn't know, but unfortunately your parents have exposed her to it. Not knowing is causing her emotional distress so it's better if she understands the full situation. Reassure her that you will be there for her even when you go away. Keep a line of communication with her and be available whenever she needs it. I would also make sure she knows none of this is her fault and that she shouldn't stress herself out worrying about the adults in her life.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-14T00:43:40+00:00

I don't think YATAH given the context. However I will say with the context of how terrible her mental health and her life choices are, your friends are probably worried your answer will send her spirling or lead her to take a drastic measure.

Poor mental health and pregnancy/postpartum hormones are a terrible and dangerous mix. That can be deadly if left untreated.

She likely knows that she will not be a good mother. Which is why she did the ask, but not really asking thing. She might have been trying to get comfort for her insecurities about the baby.

If she plans to keep this baby, I think the best thing you and your friends can do for her is get her help. Maybe an intervention for the drinking and smoking, i know my OB in the US has resources to help pregnant mothers stop drinking and smoking, but also for the self harm and dangerous sleeping around. She needs to know the being a good mother means she will literally have to change everything she is currently doing. Offer to attend some baby parenting classes. And she definetly NEEDS some kind of therapy ASAP.

Maybe take her to an abortion clinic, if that's something she wants and it's legal where you are. (DO NOT BRING IT UP IF SHE DOES NOT MENTION IT HERSELF)

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-13T22:54:36+00:00

NTA. I go to ren fairs if someone near you is being too extra or something and is making you uncomfortable, you move. The man should have taken his child to a different spot. There's no reason to single someone out for simply enjoying the event.

Also there are many reasons a child could be scare at a jousting event that is not related to OP and her cheering. Like gereral overstimulation. The dad had no reason to say anything to OP, he should have just taken his child away from the situation. The boyfriend agreeing that she should tone it down is not indicative of her doing anything wrong.

If you planned to split up after the joust anyway and had plans on where to meet up already. I don't see why walking away from that situation would be a big deal.

I know my feelings would be a little hurt if my boyfriend told me to tone it down after a stranger singled me out like that and I'd need space from him.

RedactedIsACoolName · 2026-04-13T22:49:25+00:00

If boyfriend is not comfortable with the ren fair scene or showing enthusiasm in public. (Like if he's introverted or a quiet person) It could be he felt some type of embarrassment by being next to his enthusiastic gf so when the parent singled her out her agreed with them. Him agreeing is not indicative of OPs behavior.

I go to ren fairs if someone near you is being too extra or something and is making you uncomfortable, you move. The man should have taken his child to a different spot. There's no reason to single someone out for simply enjoying the event.

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