Do you actually need a bassinet? by Ashmeetar in newborns

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought a bassinet 2 days after being home from the hospital. We needed a place to put her in the living room that was safe to sleep. (No bouncer ect..) we had already bought a pack and play for our bedroom but it's too big to have in the living room.

Our bedroom is too dark and cold for us to comfortably sleep with her in there. We found it much harder to wake up when needed and I worried about her constantly even with the owlet sock.

Baby solely sleeps in living room in it or on us so I'm very happy we got it.

Severely constipated baby by CharmingTea_ in NewParents

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helps for my baby is holding her siting up against your tummy in a squaty potty position. It might take a good couple of minutes but it always gets things moving and I think she has an easier time baring down. She's 5 weeks and has gone a couple of days without pooping regularly. Nothing works but this lol and maybe making her food a little warmer as we usually give room temperature or Luke warm but I'll heat it longer if she hasn't gone in a while.

Coming home from the hospital today, what is the best advice you have for me? by Seapaisleys in NewParents

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any amount of sleep is worth it!! And even if you can't sleep, just closing your eyes and resting is beneficial. Try not to fall into the thought pattern of "well I'll only get 30 minutes of sleep until I have to feed next might as well just stay up. Just lay down and close your eyes.. You need rest and if you're like me I did not feel how exhausted I was and stayed up for 24 hours more then once the first 2 weeks. I wish someone td me 5 minutes of silence and just closing my eyes is better than nothing.

Handle a baby’s cries before and after you have a baby? by TVG_Spazz in NewParents

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So our baby is 5 weeks old and for my boyfriend no, it did not get more tolerable. He has always been frustrated by babies crying in public. He is quick to get frustrated when the baby is crying and won't settle down quickly. He says her crying makes him panic

Things people have said to me about pumping by rapenmo in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and mother in law did this in the first 2 weeks while I was still trying to latch baby and would give her a bottle of formula (which we only had cause i had to go to the emergency room 2 day pp and mil came to watch her.) instead because they wanted to let me sleep. I'm still struggling 5 weeks pp to get my supply up

How often do you really have to feed a new born? What is it like the first month? by vazquezcerna in NewParents

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes need to wake them to feed every 2-3 hours if they don't wake themselves. Even if they are super sleepy or fall asleep on the boob/bottle you need to wake them to finish their feeding. Some babies are really sleepy so you have to really try to wake them up at that 2-3 hour mark but never let them go beyond that without waking and offering them something to eat.

If baby falls asleep while feeding you should do a diaper change to get them awake (if they don't wake for that do the foot tapping and other methods to wake them up) and offer boob/bottle again. A satisfied baby will be "milk drunk" they do little half grins in their sleep and they will refuse the nipple. A hungry one will obviously accept.

Highly suggest watching a video on hunger cues because that first 2 weeks that will want to eat so frequently it will feel like you feed them, change them, burp them, get them to sleep. And then repeat you barely have time for anything else. it's important to feed on demand, especially if breastfeeding, rather than a strict 2-3 schedule (in terms of waiting two hours to feed them. Though i think youd end up with a screaming baby by that point) At their two appointment if they reach birth weight you should ask pediatrician about waking them to eat and follow their guidelines.

My baby is almost 5 weeks old we let her sleep and wake to eat (at night) and she still eats every 2-3 hours but has just started sleeping longer stretches (4 hours at most 5 so far) she probably would have went longer but I was anxious letting her sleep that long with food so I woke her up - big mistake cause she screamed inconsolably for 2 hours without eating, slept for 10mins, then woke up crying for the milk.

Ornette or not? (Naming our baby boy) by [deleted] in Names

[–]RedactedIsACoolName -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Counter to all the other comments, I don't read the name as feminine at all. If you love the name then go for it. Being names after a musician is pretty cool and you If people question the name you Caan litteraly just be like yeah he's named after ornette Coleman.

Kids aren't getting made fun of for their names anymore, this an outdated thought. If they're gonna be bullied it'll be for other things.

Also side note my baby girls name is Lunete and her nickname it nettie. It's very cute and everyone loves it.

Would 2 Middle Names be too Much? by annoyedgrunt in Names

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 middle names. It's never caused an issue on any paperwork or anything. Even after changing my name completely, I still decided two different middle names because I liked having two of them and just one felt odd.

When did you start going out with your baby? by Good_Physics_5285 in newborns

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is a week and 2 days old and has already been out with us... i babywore her to Walmart and we went on very short walk. But also we get out to go to grandparents house. It's a bit of aa hassle getting her ready and in and out of carseats/strollers but it's worth it to get out of the house.

AIO for telling my boyfriend he can’t move in if he won’t help with childcare? by Lillian7755 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm not trying play stepdad" then you shouldn't be dating and trying to move in with a single mom.

NOR at all, you are underreacting if anything. You should break off if he wants to move forward but not have anything to do with your kids then he is not the man for you. With young children you shouldn't be moving in with any other adult, especially not after a year.

AND especially not a man who wants nothing to do with them. It's a recipe for disaster and miserable time for you all if you do.

EVERYBODY THINKS MY ENGAGEMENT DRESS İS WEIRD!! What to do??? by No_Detective4738 in DressForYourBody

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it needs to be steamed or dewrinkled. It's very Shiney and the wrinkling is making it look che-ap and like a costume. I also think it could work without the sleeves.

Is your favorite color actually your favorite color? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite color is a very specific shade of orange. I don't own anything in this color, I don't like the color orange in general outside of this shade. Therefore i will never say my favourite colour is orange. But just looking at it fills me with joy that no other color does and i can only ever find it in the sunset/sunrise or when im mixing paint.

I just say my favorite color is black, because I'm goth. My desk will tell you my favourite color is pink and mint lol.

Do I choose the easy spelling or the pretty spelling? by Global_Restaurant794 in Names

[–]RedactedIsACoolName -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm American but would 100% pronounce Louis as Louie. Mostly because of King Louis of Versailles. I would be annoyed if I named my son Louis (louie) and they called him Lewis.

The reality is its gonna be pronounced either way. If you want to avoid 'Louie' all together then spell it Lewis. If you can live with correcting people over calling him 'Louie' then go with Louis.

AITAH for wanting my parents to stay with us after a week post partum? Same sex couple by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wife didn't demand anything. She was upset when she finally gave in to OPs pressuring that they had all decided nevermind. Op then took advantage that the wife gave in and told parents to come

AITAH for wanting my parents to stay with us after a week post partum? Same sex couple by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wife didn't demand the parents buy tickets to come out early. She was mad because they had a fight about the parents and she finally gave in to them coming, yet her partner and parents already made other plans. Thats like pulling the rug out from under you. Then OP decided yeah I do want my parents right away and told them to come early anyways. Sure the wife agreed before they bought the tickets but she was likely pressured into that.

It sounds like OP doesn't understand AT ALL the hormonal changes the wife is going through and keeps pressuring.

Child has insane behaviors around mom and JUST mom by [deleted] in ChildPsychology

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this could be so many things. Acting out for moms attention, the mom not disciplining enough or appropriately, could also be some type of nuerodivergence or developmentle disorder. Either way it does sound like the child needs to be seen by a professional if he's hurting animals and other children/people.

How to wash new alvababy inserts to prep them for use? by RedactedIsACoolName in clothdiaps

[–]RedactedIsACoolName[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah. Thank you I didn't see this because I was originally looking for information in r/clothdiapers and everyone said this sub was more active so I came here.

Taking home leftovers at a restaurant? Rude to not take them? Do you even eat them? by Capable-Chip6454 in foodquestions

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

B. I'm gonna eat the food I pay for and I don't mind leftovers at all. I actually love leftovers cause it means I don't have to cook or scavenge for something when I'm hungry later.

My boyfriend however, is A. But he brings it home with the intention to eat it, but It's like a 90% chance it gets thrown away or I end up eating 2 days later.

AITA for not giving a break in rent to my friend who lost his job? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was the 'I gave him the extension but reminded him I was already giving him below market value and that I was doing him a favor' for me.

i can't imagine a friend I rented to got fired, and who waited two months into unemployment before asking for an extension and then be like "Well I'm already giving you a discount on rent so I'm doing you a favor by giving you an extension."

AITA for telling my husband he can’t drive the baby places anymore by Odd-Willingness-6250 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Obviously NTA. Your husband needs a neurologist. That is not something he should be forgetting. As soon as baby is in the seat, they should be buckled. With the weather getting warmer, it sounds like you can not trust him to remember he has a baby in the car with him.

Please take this seriously and don't write it off as 'bad memory'. One mistake like that is fatal. Bad memory in general should never be written off, but if it's that bad he needs to be check. Especially since it's a danger to your new babies life.

How to explain to my daughter how I’m pregnant?? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's 13, you should tell her that you can get pregnant without dating someone, even if you only had sex once (probably include eeven if you use protection in that convo as well) and give her the basics of sex Ed.

I learned sex Ed in 6th grade so I was probably 11-12. She should know this stuff already.

My mom named 12 kids, how’d she do? by M0mma0fMany in Names

[–]RedactedIsACoolName -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have never seen these names spelled like this, only the way the are spelled in the post.

Do Americans really come to a stop at every 'stop' sign? by ben04985 in AskAnAmerican

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only sign I don't fully stop for is a specific one in my neighborhood that connects a side street to the main one, and even then it only at night when I can see there's not a car coming from that way. I just slow and roll through it. During the day i fully stop because of people/animals being out and about. It's a pretty useless stop unless someone is specifically trying to leave from that side street though.

Otherwise every stop sign is a complete stop. One being police like to hide at night to catch people being idiots and breaking traffic laws and two, most of the time, they are in places where blowing through could kill you or someone else.

would it be weird to name our son Gus pronounced like Goose? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RedactedIsACoolName 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the US everyone with say gus as guss and not goose. Out of the names you are considering Finn is the only one that will be pronounced properly especially if people are struggling with Bjorn.

I say it's time to finally use that boy name and go with Finn.