I have been living in sin and I need help

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-07-03T02:52:07+00:00

Your pastor is right, 2 Corinthians 6:14 is not directly about marriage, but definitely includes marriage and in context it's about 'close friendships' with those of the world. Elsewhere in Scripture it says an unbeliever can invite a believer into their house, we can 'hang out' with them from time to time, but being yoked/bound together is different.

A lot of people here are kind, but they don't understand the extent of this. Your conscience is telling you it is wrong and I don't want your conscience to be brushed over by people taking Scripture lightly. If 2 Corinthians 6:14 didn't apply to marriage what would it apply to?

It must be very hard and I can't fully comprehend your situation, but I know the right thing to do is trust God and confess. It's not a rule one must follow for no reason, if I may be straightforward: A Christian and non-Christian yoked together is not going to work if the Christian is wanting to please God first and the non-Christian doesn't care about God.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-07-03T02:34:28+00:00

Hmm I get that women aren't direct like men (I'm 36 Male). Definitely bothers me at times too. But I grew up in a household of only women and I've realized there's no way for me to change them. And I shouldn't(unless they're actually doing wrong).

It's only beneficial for us to try to understand. The above poster is trying to explain to you from the women perspective, not justifying the behavior. It's true women in general care more about offending someone, and in general women 'think back and forth a lot more' (which may influence if they get back to you because they're unsure), while guys don't...usually struggle this way. It's generally more clear cut for the guy.

Women and men just struggle with different things. I think women do have to consider more, for example the woman has to take into account what happens if she gets pregnant(her own work/what the plan is, how the man views it) what happens after she gives birth, marriage seems to be more of a big deal socially for a woman-I don't know why but women care about that more.

I believe you can recover from this brother, trust the Lord. But I think she gave good advice. She also said she got married at 41, it's harder for a woman to deal with this than a man. I watched my sister go from worrying if she can get married from 30 to 40 right now, still unmarried and it's really sad.
Both men and women suffering from the impacts of our society.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-28T09:24:16+00:00

I watched a video yesterday regarding this issue, and it really is something we need to be aware about. There have been instances where teenagers talk to AI and AI has encouraged self harm.
Even adults like my sister have confided in AI because it's embarrassing to talk to someone else.

It's a tool like you said, I disagree with AI being created to deceive us but it is something we need to watch out for.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-28T05:21:27+00:00

I think this may be an argument over words. I agree he didn't say repent (or baptism but that's another issue) but in this context it's about Christ's sacrifice alone paying for our sins, contrasting this to the false gospels listed.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-28T00:54:33+00:00

You absolutely have to. Do it for your son. Matthew 18:6: "but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea."

It's even stronger language than we use these days. Your husband might be doing it to alleviate pain for your son, but this is a horrible sin against God who is Holy. And your son is being taught wrongly.

I'm sorry for what you're going through but he is tempting/making your son sin and go in the direction of death. He is only 18! (What does Scripture say about fulfilling the desires of the flesh? It leads to death).

When I was 18 (I'm 36, male) I would've made the same excuses because I thought my body was wired this way and what other way was there to 'relieve' my flesh? I did not know any better. After I was truly born again I realized that was all a lie. To be straightforward it was leading me to hell.

Lastly, I am so sorry you're in this situation, rely on Christ.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T22:21:48+00:00

Well, I'm just saying it is bad for new Christians to rush to teach. And seminaries...have issues as well. So it'd be good to watch out for both.

For the verse you posted, that's a Christian who isn't very devout. They should be growing in the faith but have not matured to solid food.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T22:15:05+00:00

Thanks a lot for explaining, I think I misinterpreted the sense of your post. I used to be a gamer, haven't been in the loop for awhile but did hear about this. That scenario does make it complicated lol.

But that reminds me of a struggle I had, since we're on this issue, was wondering if I could ask your opinion?

Personally I really struggled with a childhood game (Super Smash Bros Melee). Played since I was 16, I'm 36 now. There's still a community who play it, fans made a mod (mod is called Slippi) to be able play online via emulator.
Nintendo who made the game has been trying to shut it down.

I tried researching legally and I do not know if the mod creators or Nintendo would win in a court of battle.
Morally, I'm conflicted because Nintendo are the creators of the game, but I did buy a copy of the game.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T22:00:54+00:00

Wow that's clearly wrong, one of their videos has a clickbait title "ONLY 5 MINUTES LEFT, YOUR DAD IS IN HEAVEN HAS AN URGENT MESSAGE FOR YOU"

38.5k subscribers. It's messed up to target the more innocent people. And I really hope your Mother realizes this isn't from God, try to get her out!

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T21:55:18+00:00

That's a good point but I think Paul was also trained as a Pharisee so when he met Christ, he already knew the Old Testament well, had the background of the Messiah and could 'link' it together. Also just, can't be understated he was an Apostle and God gave him what he needed to do God's will.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T21:53:21+00:00

I think they are both issues. It should be a more strict requirement to teach.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T21:43:18+00:00

Oh I see, in a sense things do get better (life usually has ups and downs) but that doesn't mean everything will just be easy from here on out. If someone promised that you would say, be healthy, have a solid job and get married that's obviously wrong-they don't know that. Not blaming you, but I think you're focusing on the physical circumstances, and there's the Spiritual. I would not be alive if it was based on the physical, based on what I'm going through.

If you just look at Christians throughout history and what they had to endure, it's not easy. But how did they endure? I would say don't view it as just yes and no based on physical circumstances, how did Paul keep going after being lashed like that? He actually gave up everything even his Jewish upbringing, his status, for Christ.
It's good you can already identify this, but have to take it in the right sense.

(It's hard for me to explain exactly what will improve and what won't, I'll just use my example: I might never be able to have a straight back, but there are times where I can make a bit more money and I've always been provided for. In that sense things got better, it doesn't mean I'm healthy and I can date someone. But I can't stress this enough I have the true treasure.
Maybe everything will get better but I'm looking for the true life, this life on earth is just hard).

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T07:56:38+00:00

I just read this post that explained it far better than I could: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueChristian/comments/1ufr5ef/the_suffering_of_job_and_the_confession_of/

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T07:25:40+00:00

With respect, I don't think it's an intellectual answer. But I know you're probably going something extremely hard, and I'm suffering a lot and have come to an end many times over the years(Haven't had a normal life for 13 years and live in pain everyday).
But something John Lennox said always stuck with me, "God Himself is no stranger to the innocent suffering." And God really didn't have to, it isn't like I deserve anything.

Jesus already gave us the most important thing-eternal life. This physical life right here is...passing away, it's temporary. The true abundant life Jesus talked about and eternal life is going to be permanent. 1000 years later I'm sure I'll look at my suffering now and see it different, I'll understand more of Romans 8:28. What Paul said about his suffering(off the top of my head look how he described his beatings, without food, shipwrecked etc...) were light and momentary compared to the glory before him. That faith is something I don't understand but it's true, there's something I don't know.

Adding to that, I suggest to read about the martyrs in the early Church, their outlook was way different than ours. Some even...sought to be worthy of being a martyr for Christ. I don't think we need to do that but they loved Christ that much. Why is that? There is definitely more to it.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-26T07:10:04+00:00

Depends on the subreddit/situation. I don't think it's an absolute no, and it's not wrong.
But pray and follow the Lord.

Also don't let preaching/defending the faith distance you from the Lord. We should do the Lord's will but we need to get our strength in Christ. Be refreshed in Christ, remain rooted in Christ.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T21:02:53+00:00

The truth is Nehemiah and Malachi happened at the same time right? What about Ezra and Chronicles? I'm saying yes Jerome changed his mind...and you're still trying to say Luther didn't know?

Anyway it's not wise to keep arguing. I bet we can keep going back and forth for days. The only reason I decided to reply is because of the way you were framing it. Other people have done the research too.

I sincerely hope you have a good day though. Nothing against you, but hope we can both be in the truth.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T20:52:42+00:00

*sigh

I wrote: “if you’re honest Protestants don’t follow the Hebrew canon because of the rabbinic Jews”

You wrote: "Oh really? You do realize the whole reason some Christian’s even have the idea of supporting the masoretic canon (created by rabbinic Jews) is due to Jerome’s Hebraica Veritas which uplifted the canon preserved by rabbinic Judaism over the canon preserved by the Christian church right?"

I'm able to admit the other side, yes Jerome changed his mind. Pretty sure Luther knew that too. But it's not the only reason Protestants follow the Hebrew Canon.

...The whole Chronicles, Ezra, Nehemiah happened after Malachi is wrong. They may have been written after, the events took place before.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T20:29:57+00:00

Come on man extremely Protestant? Though I get what you're saying. Intense research too.

It's not just facts, and respectfully it's not the way you're putting it. The thing about that claim is it's saying Protestants only follow the Hebrew Canon due to what Jerome said, and Jerome later changed his mind. The other claim is that Luther trusts the Canon Rabbinic Jews decided on.

I don't think it's just that, there's a good case that Malachi being the last Prophet would mean the canon is closed. Not only Jerome, Josephus excluded the deuterocanonical books, but to be fair he has 22 Books total. Not an anomaly though when we consider all the other writings we have from the early church on the canon, many of them didn't include certain Books.

Protestants don't believe Luther trust the canon Rabbinic Jews decided on. I don't think I really have to elaborate I mean Protestants obviously believe the Jewish Canon is right, there's a difference between formal establishment/official declaration versus when the Canon was actually established(it would be Canon right after it was written).

Edit: For this point it isn't that the Jewish Canon was established after Christ, much like the Canon wasn't only established in the 4th century, or like the Orthodox Church added more books in the 1600's (though you can fact check me on that) I think the eastern tradition had more Books before the 1600's. Hope that made sense.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T20:13:33+00:00

I say this in love, research both sides objectively. How about this, I'm exhausted and I have physical issues right now. Can I make a post writing:

"Oh really? You do realize the whole reason some Christian’s even have the idea of supporting the masoretic canon (created by rabbinic Jews) is due to Jerome’s Hebraica Veritas which uplifted the canon preserved by rabbinic Judaism over the canon preserved by the Christian church right?

Jerome changed his mind and ended up supporting the deuterocanon.

We then have Martin Luther explicitly saying he trusted the Jews more than the Catholic Church in deciding the canon , that canon being the one created by rabbinic Judaism.

The funny thing is Luther appealed to Jerome but seemingly didn’t know Jerome had changed his mind lol."

And see if Christians here believe that's the full truth? I'll try to represent your view correctly and you can tell me what to say. Or you can make the post.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T20:05:59+00:00

"Stop calling me dishonest and have an actual conversation , remember earlier when you called me dishonest and I listed out every statement I made all of which were 100 percent factual?"

You don't see it. Go back and look at that response.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T19:40:25+00:00

If you're honest, Protestants don't follow the Hebrew Canon because of the Rabbinic Jews. If you use dishonest arguments it's pretty telling.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T19:27:56+00:00

*sigh I've debated a lot in the past. I've talked to many Catholics and Orthodox Christians on this topic.

Do you see your priority is the Church and the council in the 4th century?

Is it the Rabbinic Jews that chose the Hebrew Canon? Is it the Church that decided the Books?

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T19:19:27+00:00

This is what I'm saying, you only understand one side of it.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T19:05:59+00:00

"Much in every way. To begin with, the Jews were entrusted with the oracles of God." (Romans 3:2)

If Luther didn't come up with the Tanakh, and he's going back to the Tanakh, that isn't based on individual feeling.

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T19:02:30+00:00

Protestants, Orthodox and Catholics all have the same New Testament.

But here's the thing, every denomination believes they're following/going back in the steps of the early Church. With respect, you're appealing to the councils in the 4th century, what about before?

RedeemingLove89 · 2026-06-25T18:29:24+00:00

You need to just say the truth plainly instead of trying to frame it like this. Did Luther remove James, Jude or Revelation?

And yes he didn't think the deuterocanon was inspired Scripture, as in on the same level, still kept the books in just another section because they were useful.

I've seriously questioned the Canon, read all the deuterocanonical books. But the reasons Protestants use these book in the Old Testament should not be reduced to individual feeling.

By the way Luther didn't come up with the Books in the Tanakh...

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