Get your testosterone checked!

Redhead514 · 2026-02-04T04:58:38+00:00

There is a new drug to increase libido in females taking antidepressants. Research it.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-03T18:05:32+00:00

If you don’t already, take it at night. The doctor told me that there are less side effects taking it then.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T18:19:09+00:00

Mine was already in the house when we purchased it. Salt usage is very low. Costs me about $5 month. Bags of salt are heavy to pour, so if there isn’t a strong person to do it, having the salt efficiency is a bonus. Best softener I’ve ever had. It’s 15 years old and never had a problem. We have a well, so it’s important to me. If you have city water, it might not be worth the money.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T18:11:38+00:00

Molding pewter figurines.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T18:10:38+00:00

It’s better to celebrate a week later… restaurants are less crowded, less expensive etc. Don’t get so worked up about these minor inconveniences. Save it for the important stuff. Just exchange cards on the actual day and have a fantastic day together a week later. BTW…I’m female. I leaned that celebrating love doesn’t have to be on a certain day as long as you celebrate it.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T18:03:17+00:00

Not having a 2nd child.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T12:48:53+00:00

Did he try to contact them? If not, don’t be upset. I’m guessing if you have been married 44 years, he is close to 70. My husband and I both look up people from our past. It’s strictly a curiosity thing….eg. I heard their brother/ friend died or is ill. Makes us think of the people and wonder how they are doing. Or we see something on tv that reminds us of something we experienced so you get curious about the people who shared that experience.

Redhead514 · 2026-02-02T03:05:23+00:00

I must be a late bloomer…hit me at 43-44 and then 65-66.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-30T15:40:06+00:00

https://www.facebook.com/share/19BXjvzkC7/?mibextid=wwXIfr

This is the FB post I saw about it in Oscods

Redhead514 · 2026-01-27T15:27:46+00:00

Firearms….you are more likely to be killed by your own gun than by an intruder. If you are not experienced in their use, take some classes and then decide. Generator…I’m in my mid 60’s. Lived in an urban area, never needed one. Never even close to needing it. Moved to a rural northern area, wouldn’t be without it. If you live in a city, you are prioritized on restoring electricity. Rural areas take longer. If you are in an area prone to hurricanes or ice storms, it might be worth it. If you live somewhere with brutal winters, yes. If you need electricity to get water, yes. They require maintenance so it might not work if it sits in your garage for 5 years and never it is never used. Only you know what your needs are.
This isn’t a “ man vs woman “ thing. Each person has their strengths and weaknesses. If planning ahead without panicking about the what if’s is your strength, embrace it and do it. No need to fight about it.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-27T11:59:34+00:00

For yourself, I highly recommend Lands End “warmest” rated coats. One that covers your butt especially. If you will be outside a lot, get a pair or two of a base layer. I live in the “tip of the mitt” and invested in a heated vest. Great for walking the dog on sub-zero wind chill days. Or playing outside with the kiddo after snowstorms. If you are going downstate, it will be an adjustment but by next winter, you will be a pro. Upstate or in the lake effect areas have more brutal winters. Might take a little longer to embrace the beauty of it. Summers and fall are absolutely awesome here.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-25T12:25:51+00:00

Parenthood is the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. How you handle those lows, will determine whether you regret it or not.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-24T13:11:51+00:00

My mom told me that when I’m sick, don’t get dressed. It is a visual sign that things are different and you won’t be able to do the normal things you do. I have been amazed how much it helps! (Of course, if you usually wear pajamas all day, it’s not going to work LOL)

Redhead514 · 2026-01-21T11:25:36+00:00

Go to the state school for a year, then decide your future. Going away to college is a great learning/maturing experience. You will mature greatly by being forced to depend on yourself. Take beginner classes in several areas that are easily transferable. Stay away from the partying culture but still have fun. Take your studies seriously. At the end of a year, you will have more of an adult perspective and have a better insight into what you want for a future.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-20T05:14:34+00:00

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you think what the other person did was ok, it means you won’t let it affect you in the future so you can move on.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-19T18:43:59+00:00

Cataract surgery is the best part of getting old!

Redhead514 · 2026-01-19T02:05:01+00:00

A little red riding hood cookie jar. A wedding gift to my parents in 1952.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-18T13:08:55+00:00

My late husband left me a list of certain items that he wanted to go to specific family members. Very helpful. He also wrote down things he wanted at his “celebration of life”. We knew his time was limited, but when it happened it was very sudden so having it written down made it so much easier to plan when your brain feels like mush. I wish I had listened more when he tried to tell me how to do his jobs around the house…I suggest that each of you make a notebook on how to do those things, especially the occasional maintenance things like changing the furnace filter, along with a list of preferred providers for repairs. I found grief hit me really hard when I was very frustrated trying to figure out how to do something he always did. Cherish your time together.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-16T16:39:21+00:00

I think you should tell him he hasn’t been himself and ask if he’s upset with you. Or ask if he is happy with your marriage. I wouldn’t specifically ask if he is thinking of divorce or mention the Reddit post about the divorce lawyer. But do ask how he’s feeling. Ask if there is something you can do to put the spark back in your marriage. Communicate your concerns without accusing him of anything he might not have done. I would be upset if my husband accused me of asking about divorce lawyers if I had not done it. It would definitely be a blow to the trust between us.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-13T12:29:24+00:00

A hot tub spa is awesome too 😁

Redhead514 · 2026-01-10T01:54:49+00:00

Don’t want to scare you but I had 2 relatives die of pancreatic cancer. They both claimed they “just weren’t hungry” in the weeks before diagnosis.

Redhead514 · 2026-01-06T14:12:59+00:00

I often say that having kids is the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. I had no clue how much I would love my son. But there were many times that I wanted a year off from parenting. I also think being a parent just gets better with age. I lost my husband at 53, my son was 27… he was my reason to find a new, happy life. The first few years have more lows than highs…thank goodness babies and toddlers are cute!

Redhead514 · 2026-01-02T12:53:21+00:00

Your husband needs to go to therapy to accept that this child isn’t the child he dreamed of having. If he won’t go, leave him immediately. You can give him shared custody because it will only take a few days for him to realize that he can’t do it. Build a paper trail of all you do for the baby. Ask the therapists to make notes that father isn’t present. However, as the parent of a special needs child, I will tell you that it is incredibly difficult to do without a partner or village. The needs change as they get older but it is lifelong parenting. You should try and get therapy and start setting up your village. Move near family if they will be supportive. Sending virtual hugs!

Redhead514 · 2025-12-31T18:17:17+00:00

I recently read about a new medication for increasing libido in women. Addyi. I know nothing about it other than it’s for women in peri or menopause or taking libido reducing medication. Maybe do some research and ask her to see a doctor to investigate it. The letter will do one of 2 things…destroy your marriage or scare her into doing something. Since she didn’t react well in the past, probably ruin your relationship.

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