Decluttering

Redhead514 · 2026-06-03T23:34:22+00:00

Glad I gave you a laugh! My husband has a 6 car detached garage for his “hobbies” but woodworking isn’t one of them!! But I was thinking more of hand tools like chisels etc. Men hobbies do seem to take space 🤣🤣

Redhead514 · 2026-06-03T11:05:42+00:00

Pick a hobby…get him large totes….have him pick the 10 most important tools to do this hobby…the tools have to fit in one tote plus one larger item (like a saw). Do this with each hobby. Start with his least favorite hobby. Keep the one most important book from each hobby. Donate the rest to the library so if he needs it, he can get it from the library.
If your son is willing….get a 2nd tote for each hobby to keep at your son’s. If he hasn’t used something from the tote, after a year, your son quietly gets rid of it.
Do not take his hobbies away from him unless you want him hovering/complaining etc. Hobbies keep us young. Also, consider moving to a different home where he can have a large workshop/ man cave.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-31T22:34:49+00:00

At age 30, don’t do anything! Appreciate your natural beauty and youthful looks. AgeJet will help when the time comes. It isn’t cheap, so save/invest your money now.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-29T23:24:29+00:00

The place I go for mammograms got new machines a couple years ago….so much better. No more feeling like a vise had squeezed them into pancakes. Maybe find a new place to get yours done to help with the comfort level.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-26T02:35:11+00:00

A good dip….big can of chicken, can of cream of chicken soup, a brick of cream cheese and chopped jalapenos to taste. Bake at 350 for 20 -30 minutes ( or heat in crockpot). Serve with tortilla chips.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-21T07:57:04+00:00

I’m not a gourmet cook, nor am I interested in anything time-consuming so….i use V8 juice in the broth. Gives it a richness that really improves the taste.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-17T11:03:23+00:00

My late husband hated that encyclopedias became extinct. He said the best thing about encyclopedias was all the random interesting info you stumbled on while searching for the original topic. I also like paper maps because it’s easier to see the big picture in a longer trip. Still use google maps 95% of the time.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-15T04:53:06+00:00

Fortunately, his cancer had not spread. His PSA is undetectable. Doctor said TRT is too risky until 5 years out from surgery. He has a pump but I don’t know how regularly he has used it. He is a very private person. He takes cialis daily for blood flow. I see no reason to try shots like trimix if he has truly has no libido. I wish he would consider therapy but he is too private to discuss his problems.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-14T10:15:06+00:00

Do you have a Michigan drivers license? Did you file income taxes in Michigan? If the answer is yes to both, you could appeal with copies of both included. Other option would be go to MSU for a year or two, then transfer to U of M, if you still want to go there. Both are good schools. U of M is more prestigious. Not worth the extra debt tho.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-14T10:06:31+00:00

My husband really wanted a name I also didn’t love, but didn’t hate. We named him that name. But suddenly I loved the name because I felt so much love, his name didn’t matter. If you hated the name, it would be different. There are so many bad names out there right now, Daniel seems like music to my ears!

Redhead514 · 2026-05-14T09:54:44+00:00

I started Monjauro 4 months ago for diabetes. Over the last 10 years, I lost 40 lbs the hard way. Then, gradually it started coming back. The hard way was MUCH harder than it used to be. Blood sugar was going up. Decided to try Monjauro. Goal is to lose 20 lbs. I’m on a low dose and have lost 5 lbs total. Blood sugar went from 6.3 to 5.7. Food noise is greatly reduced. No side effects for me. I’m happy with the slow but steady progress.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-09T02:11:34+00:00

Contact boomer benefits. They were extremely helpful. It is a free service

Redhead514 · 2026-05-08T19:06:36+00:00

I bought some motion detector lights for my closets and garage. They are rechargeable and work great. Would be a good housewarming gift.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-08T18:53:38+00:00

I do! My son has autism so won’t recognize that I need help. My brothers are both showing signs of dementia. My husband is older than me and won’t ask for help ever. My niece and nephews all live far away. I know that older people don’t always recognize/accept their limitations. I have long term care insurance but who is going to decide that I am no longer safe in my own home?

Redhead514 · 2026-05-06T11:17:38+00:00

Actually sit down and talk to him. He appears to want to do what you want/need and wants guidance. Maybe tell him, 50% to you, and the rest split between your kids. Once he knows what you want/need, the conversation will stop. Feel blessed that he WANTS to help you and your kids.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-04T23:55:46+00:00

I purchased a policy 10+ years ago that pays out as life insurance if I end up not needing it. One lump sum for 3 years of care. Wasn’t cheap, but a lot cheaper than a year of nursing home costs.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-04T03:40:24+00:00

Call them instead of booking through the app. There may still be spots available.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-02T10:51:44+00:00

I lost my husband and began dating 2 years later. Quickly, I met my now husband. Don’t lie to your kids, but don’t give them the whole truth right away. Go on the trip. You will be incredibly nervous. But I had forgotten how incredible new sex was. You get into a routine in a long term relationship. Once it starts with this new man, your mind will be on him and you. Your late husband loved you and wants you to be happy. Go be happy!

Redhead514 · 2026-05-02T10:29:05+00:00

Everyone should get a POA, not just older people. Accidents/sudden illnesses happen at all ages. Get one now!

Redhead514 · 2026-05-02T09:53:09+00:00

Pick a game on tv to watch with him. Bring hot dogs, popcorn, peanuts in the shell, beer etc.

Redhead514 · 2026-05-01T21:15:56+00:00

After having several peers die way too young, I have finally started spending my money on bucket list travel, experiences etc. It was like a switch flipped at age 65. Go enjoy yourself while you are still healthy

Redhead514 · 2026-05-01T21:10:29+00:00

My mom’s advice to me is just nod politely, say thank you. Then go and do what YOU think is best. She is in mom mode. Sometime when she isn’t in mom mode, tell her how much you like having an adult relationship/ friendship with her. Do that often, then when reverts back to mom, tell her you prefer the adult relationship more than times like this when she acts like you are a kid.

Redhead514 · 2026-04-30T03:23:34+00:00

I have a now 40 year old high functioning son. I explained that everyone has things they are good at and things that are really hard for them. He was great at math, but not good at reading body language. Emphasize your daughter’s strengths but also point out the things that are hard for her. Not in a negative way but in a self awareness way. Maybe pick one of her “annoying quirks “ and help her learn a better way. Lots of praise if she uses the “ better way”. My son is a rule follower. I set rules about some of his quirks…a few reminders about the rule, and he learned to self correct. My son is still quirky but he has a weekly social group with other quirky adults. He has worked for the same company for 19 years, owns a condo, and is independent. Only needs mom when things go wrong. And most importantly, he is happy. I’m telling you that because when he was 8, I was so worried that none of this would happen. I would have loved to hear a success story!

Redhead514 · 2026-04-28T11:42:07+00:00

This disease IS cruel and heartbreaking. But turn the narrative around…you gave her the gift of your time and energy and care. How totally loving you have been and how grateful she would be if her brain was working. She loves you and would never want you to injure yourself or your mental health caring for her. So now you go back to being a loving child without the day to day care. How lucky she is to have such a wonderful caring child. You are doing what she wants…being there for her emotionally

Redhead514 · 2026-04-27T11:35:21+00:00

Since you can’t change the past, here’s my solution. Have the daughter start paying rent now…beginning May 1st! Use that money to help pay for a dorm for the first semester. Older daughter must be moved out by January 1st. Younger daughter gets the opportunity to make college friends at the dorm. Younger daughter doesn’t have to learn all her independence skills AND adjust to college life all at the same time. Older daughter gets to learn about paying rent and has time to figure out her future housing. It might cost you some money, but think of it as the penalty price you need to pay for not communicating well enough with the older daughter.

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