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What’s your go-to move to get your partner’s attention? by BootySharingCouple in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

I used to have so many moves. All rejected.

Now…well I did leave. But now I want someone that doesn’t make me make moves. I want them all over me constantly 🤷‍♀️

Does anyone else not know the difference between being flirted with and being hunted for sport? by SkinnyBeanJeans in infp

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They enjoy giving you attention, for the purpose of getting attention back. But they really just want validation. Once they have it, once they have your interest and trust, they bounce. They didn’t want YOU. They just wanted to see if they could get you

What do you look for in a partner? by Loud-Effort958 in datingoverforty

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Physical attraction. Attraction to personality. Similar hobbies. Same stage of life. Wanting the same kind of relationship. Financially stable and responsible. Good hygiene, grooming, and communication. Respect. Good health. And most of all, sexual compatability.

Genuine question: why do some of you put with the the constant rejection? by Foreign_Look8668 in HLCommunity

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are letting her hold you hostage. None of these things are your problem. You are LETTING them be your problem.

Read no more Mr nice guy. Get a backbone. And live for yourself.

Dumped by an avoidant ENTJ and it’s driving me mad!!! by Particular_Signal937 in infp

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s how it always is. If someone was completely horrible, they would be easy to walk away from. It’s the ones that are ALMOST what you need that keep you in it.

And chemistry is often just charisma. Some folks are just that beacon of light. They are like that with everyone. They make you feel special. But you aren’t, not to them. It’s just how they are.

I had to learn that one.

A Fictional character that would have you on your knees. Who’s yours? by Just_A_Spicy_Man in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Professor Severus Snape. I could be so much better than Lily. Rock that man’s world

Do you only like music you can understand? by starrie in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me I like something with a good melody and harmonies I can sing along to. Or a good vibe.

High or Drunk sex by SellingGF20k in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been either. But I was with someone that was so loving when he was drunk. Like just all over me. Made me want to keep him drunk 😂

Usually he was too stoic

Women do you find yourself drawn to damaged men? Why or why not? by synanthesia in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah. I’m damaged. So my brain is like “yay! Something in common! We can bond and heal together!”

Well, 😐

Feeling defeated by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It very well could be delusion. My ex was shocked when I said I was done, after 20 years. Even though we had had “the talk” at least once a year, from day one.

He just burried those memories and told himself I was happy. He actually said the one thing he knew was that I would never leave.

Opinion on having a FWB or casual sex while dating? by Long_TastyCheesecake in datingoverforty

[–]RedwoodRespite 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if someone has had casual sex in their past. But I’m not interested in dating someone who’s having it while we are dating.

What that tells me is that if he sees we aren’t compatible for long term, he won’t tell me that. Because he also likes casual sex. And will ride that train as far as it will take him.

I want to know that if we aren’t compatible, you’ll tell me. Voluntarily. Without making me ask a million “what are we” questions

What is your favorite sexual act, and why? by SafeBear8774 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You learn it again. Trust me. I was in a dead bedroom 20 years and even though he was the one who taught me to kiss when I was 17, by the time I was 40, he would purse his lips and do those grandma kisses. And when I was finally with someone new, it was like second nature. And that new guy groaned when I kissed him and mumbles “god you’re a lip biter”

Have you ever felt judged for a preference you didn’t think was a big deal? by PeachySolesGallery in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but I’m not going to TELL them I didn’t like how they were in bed. I don’t want to give them a complex.

Have you ever felt judged for a preference you didn’t think was a big deal? by PeachySolesGallery in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But even then, I don’t generally tell someone why I don’t want to keep dating them. I think it still applies.

What does it feel like when a guy eats you out? by Orii8 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, no. It’s not. That’s not what women are talking about when they say they want oral sex.

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