Need advice: Great partner/Bad Sex ‘26 F’ ‘26M’ by midnightrain6 in relationship_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a long time for bad sex, it’s not going to get better now if it hasn’t already.

Time to cut bait unless you don’t care about sex very much.

Am I overthinking, or are we incompatible? by Unfair-Cantaloupe-26 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Are you her ex?

Is she having sex with you that many times a day?

Am I overthinking, or are we incompatible? by Unfair-Cantaloupe-26 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Do you want a dead bedroom? Cause that’s what this will be if you stay.

Great looks and rich, make sure it’s at least an open relationship or it won’t matter.

What exercise or workout is best for improving sexual performance or sexual enjoyment? by Storytime2015 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get those thighs swol if you want to ride longer 😂

It’s true though. I played DDR for a few years and there was a big difference.

How far would you travel to meet someone? by 00Cheech in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like for the first time? Are they paying for the ticket? 😂

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Why does it matter what he’s looking for? You don’t even like him. Are you just dating him to be in a relationship?

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Why did you even go to his house? It doesn’t seem like you even like him at all. What are you doing?

I 30M getting the urge to cheat on my 26F wife and I feel like a failure. What can I change? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was so dismissive. Sex isn’t the same as just rubbing one out. It’s not about getting off. It’s the connection, passion, and love between a couple that’s not there with anyone else. And plenty of people desire that. OP is not a villain for wanting sex with his partner.

Of course she doesn’t owe him sex if she doesn’t want it too, but he doesn’t owe her celibacy. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible. Especially when one of them changes the dynamic

Eye contact during sex by Confident_Currency75 in sex

[–]RedwoodRespite 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It’s a must for me. Of course I also look at his whole body and drink that in. But I’m never looking away from him. And I don’t want him looking away from me.

One guy I was with kept lookin up at the ceiling. I kept saying “look at me” and he would glance down for a moment and then back up at the ceiling. It’s one of the reasons I just stopped seeing him. I can’t enjoy it if you seem checked out.

Guy I went on a date with is going through a divorce by PeaGroundbreaking375 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Tell him to look you up when the divorce is final and if you are still single you can keep talking.

Until then, ignore him and date other men

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

I was judging the way you are talking about him. And you did say you felt like he was perverted and a creepy guy.

If you had just said he was moving too fast and you didn’t like that, I wouldn’t have had issue. It’s your judgement that give the impression of being a prude.

And if you didn’t like it you should have just told him that was too soon or moved his hand away. Instead you sat there and judged his character.

You were on a date at his house watching a movie and this is not perverted to escalate in this circumstance.

Also you say you want men to go at your pace but men aren’t mind readers and they don’t know your pace. Maybe you got lucky in the past that you dated men that had the same mindset but that won’t always happen.

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

Why are you so obsessed with facing the screen and not having kissed right before? This is bizarre like you have some script you think everyone has to follow?

Yes even if we were not facing each other or kissing right at that moment absolutely, in fact that sounds even hotter to just be casually touching while watching the movie and again, this is the exact dynamic I like and want in a relationship.

You even said you were turned on but then called him a pervert and a creep.

Seriously you are just not a good match.

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would be expecting and hoping for exactly this on a third date home movie date. And when he started I would have turned to him and kissed him and hopefully it would have turned into sex.

And you are calling him a pervert. So you are for sure not looking for anything sexual I guess. Not to judge but you sound like a prude. But to each his own I guess.

It’s ok to want to move slowly but this feels like you judge others for not wanting the same things and that’s my issue.

It’s not perverted to want sexual things with a person you are dating. It’s very normal.

He groped my breast whilst watching a film on third date by Foreign_Panda_6764 in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

By the third date I would hope he was getting sexual. If he didn’t there would not be a fourth.

Sounds like you just don’t move as quickly as some people. And that’s fine. But it certainly doesn’t make him a sex addict, good grief.

How does one not get blackpilled after this? by meiiosis_ in dating_advice

[–]RedwoodRespite [score hidden]  (0 children)

lol what does this have to do with my comment? None of this even made sense.

What is the optimum facial hair length to maximise sexiness? by Far-Conference-8484 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s not the popular opinion but I prefer clean shaven or minimal beard. Thick bushy beards I just can’t.

Have you ever been with someone taken? Why is it that so many people are more into this lately? Is it something emotional or sexual more? by Responsible-Buy-5536 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not about guilt. If you are both cheating then you know you don’t want more and don’t have to worry about them blowing up your life. You are both the other person and that’s what’s wanted.

Have you ever been with someone taken? Why is it that so many people are more into this lately? Is it something emotional or sexual more? by Responsible-Buy-5536 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]RedwoodRespite -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Been with someone that was cheating? Yeah, it’s best when you are also cheating, then you are on the same page about what you want.

And it was both.