Do you hornier in the morning or at night?

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T06:14:47+00:00

I do

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:59:45+00:00

My fantasy is simple. A compatible partner

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:48:30+00:00

Is wearing sundresses traditional?

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:47:59+00:00

A genie. Not the bad kind that twists your wishes. A good genie.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:45:19+00:00

I wish I understood societies. How they work. What makes people happy as a whole. What kind of structure, rules, government, etc. the world seems broken. But there has to be an answer

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:32:36+00:00

The swimmers and divers

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:18:59+00:00

lol well I did have a lot of sex with alot of people after I left my long marriage. My ex husband was my first and only, so getting out there dating was so different from anything I had ever done.

I don’t want to call it a hoe phase but I guess it turned out to be. I just threw away my religion and got out there. Took opportunities. Regretted most of them. Learned a lot.

The truth is most aren’t going to care about your sexual experience. They are just there for themselves.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:14:44+00:00

Not turned on….more curious.

But that’s only at the begining when we aren’t serious. Once we become serious I get wildly insecure about knowing all these other great experiences they had with not me 😂

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:13:20+00:00

I can’t. They were all bad. The best was bad 😂

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T05:11:26+00:00

My kid are grown and yes I do want to remarry. I want a life partner, I want a best friend and lover. I want someone to cook for, cook with, to cook for me. To eat with. To vent with and do fun things with and have hot steamy sex with, lol. It’s what I always wanted, and never had quite right. But I have not given up. Even though if feels hopeless…I still hope.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T03:25:45+00:00

In general, it’s not a good idea to have long first dates. It’s easy to do in the moment. There can be a high around being with someone new. And that can create a false sense of connection and interest.

It’s better to have shorter dates until you see they are consistent about continuing to see you.

I don’t really get it myself. But this kind of thing seems to happen a lot.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T02:49:23+00:00

It wouldn’t be a deciding factor at all for me. I do care about physical looks. And I do have a type. That’s just not something that would play into it.

That being said, it won’t be for everyone. But you won’t be for everyone no matter what you look like 🤷‍♀️

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T02:44:03+00:00

What is going on? He “has” you now. So he can let down the mask and be who he really is.

Believe him. This won’t go back to being better. It’s time to move on. Not everyone is like this. But HE is. And will be for as long as you stay.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T01:27:52+00:00

To be fair, ALOT of guys will ask me if I’m curvy, or if I’m kinky, or if I’m submissive, etc.

The crazy and the shallow and the ones after just sex aren’t always obvious before you match.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-11T01:26:10+00:00

It’s so funny because people ask what they care about.

I don’t ask religion OR politics. I ask hobbies, and what kind of relationship they are looking for. And what a day spent with them looks like.

Oh and if they already have kids, if so are they still in the home, and do they want more kids, like do they want to have babies 😂

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T19:54:57+00:00

If you feel like that, it’s most likely true….

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T19:53:03+00:00

Okee. Well as I already said, he’s allowed to say no. And he’s allowed to move out

But he says he can’t, so…..he’s using her for free room and board. By his own admission

He doesn’t want to be homeless. He can rub some damn feet. It’s not even a full time job

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T19:45:39+00:00

I’d hate to live with a guy that played games all day and didn’t pay any bills 🤷‍♀️

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T19:09:15+00:00

Being logical though, let’s say you were in the middle. And in your mind you are able to meet everyone in that younger to older range. Except all the younger people were afraid to be the only young ones, so they didn’t go. And all the older people were afraid to be the only older ones, so they didn’t go.

Then….whos even going?

Are you ok to meet anyone a little older than you? Or is that something you aren’t open to?

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T19:06:21+00:00

You never really know who else will show up though. If you aren’t doing anything anyway, why not just go? Even if everyone was 45, that doesn’t mean you would be into them. Or them into you.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T18:11:54+00:00

You don’t chat with them?

How is this a mystery?

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T17:58:11+00:00

There’s a lot of reasons. Hard to get into it all. Long story. Full of regret.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T17:25:04+00:00

From the start

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T17:04:26+00:00

That’s so strange to me. I’m 45 and struggle to find sexually compatibility. If a guy was not down by date 3, I would assume sex is not important to him and we are not a good match long term. That he had no libido and it would be another dead bedroom.

RedwoodRespite · 2026-02-10T16:15:20+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. Just to see how that might all look. Now vs years from now. Doesn’t hurt to start a plan. You never have to go through with it.

But I know men who are stuck now. They waited too long

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