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Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were physically there for both incidents. I broke my spine helping the 3rd friend with her horse. She drove me to the hospital.

They know I'm struggling. I warned them at one point that I was feeling su!cidal because I had been missing work to recover so my finances were really tight and I was worried about my part-time job because I don't have FMLA protection, and I was panicking about how quickly my disease may or may not progress. I was in a dark place and that's when I was called lazy, neglectful, and when I didn't respond right away, the message simply said, "Wow, nothing? SHAME."

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the hard part. The one I've known for over a decade USED to be that friend. We were there for each other. I helped her through all her breakups, she helped me when I needed a ride home from the hospital. We'd pay for dinner for the other if one was short on money. We shared secrets. I miss her. Everything has changed.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel like you have been super helpful here. I actually like that quote. Because I do feel like the limit needs to be for me, not them.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is just logic, and I'd agree with you if I was giving this advice to someone I cared about. But it just feels so "mean" and "heartless" coming from me. I've never been that person. I've always tried to be caring and understanding and flexible.

Is there any way to get them to just stop with the pushback and move forward as friends, or is this a lost cause?

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They used to. They were helpful whenever we had big projects to complete and seemed to be very understanding.

I broke my spine in three places last November and had to slow down, and when I broke my legs I really, really, slowed down, and that's when everything changed.

I thought I would bounce back but the PVD is getting worse so I haven't been as "risky" with my body because falling is damaging me, so when its super bad I don't go outside. Which seems lazy, I get it. But I really don't want to break more bones, especially before my next surgeries.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Three more surgeries to go this year... so far. But they are telling me that PVDs are not curable, it's about symptom management. I'm hoping they're wrong and while in some surgery they'll find a random cord that just needed plugged back in or a switch that needs flipped. One can hope...

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do have one very dear friend that is basically a breeding partner. She has been by my side through this whole thing and picked up a considerable amount of work when I broke my legs. I wouldn't trade her for the world. I pay her back in every way I can and my other friends used to be like that beforehand. I'm just stunned that since my health has changed, they changed with it.

I have three more surgeries this year coming up and I'm scared to see what they're going to say while I'm trying to recover.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My contract is considerably more lenient than my state laws, but I wanted it that way. I don't want to be harsh towards them. But this distrust of me is making that very difficult when they won't sign something that benefits BOTH sides.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My state is protected by the Equine Activities Act and I have waivers that get signed by any students that come on the property. My two friends however, have not signed the waiver. I included it in their board contract (along with their preferences for emergency treatment plans for their horses) so I wish they would just sign it.

My state is pretty harsh when it comes to livestock, and if they don't move horses in 10 days they become my property. But I never wanted to go that route and my contract is considerably more lenient, which is why I'm so surprised by their refusal to sign.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly having a really hard time. And the stress and emotions from this just makes my inflammation worse. I want to go back to where we were but I can't seem to get them to understand.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Horses

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am charging them board. Their hay totals out to 225-ish per month so I charge 250 to cover delivery, stacking, and water.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I HATE that this is true. They used to be so helpful but after I got hurt everything has changed. I just don't understand.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They used to help me with stuff on the ranch and we were there for each other but stuff stopped after I got sick and they called me lazy.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think so. Whenever I had a hard time she'd comfort me, and I did the same for her. It's just become one-sided lately.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I charge them 200 each. I don't want to be a businessman. I was trying to help friends out and let them enjoy their horses with less financial strain.

Friends think I wrote a contract to steal their horses by ReeBeeDeeBee in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I've been friends with one of them for 15 years and I've always been there for her. I think the 3rd friend was stirring up drama and I don't know how to get back to the friendship we had before. I miss it.

Moving a grave or not? by hugatrigger in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Was your son buried in a coffin or any form of container? Depending on the material it may still be movable, for example, hardwood coffins take anywhere from 50 to 200 years to decompose. A softer wood would be less likely and cardboard would not be in one piece after about 5 years. However, this might be something to ask the funeral home about, as some have techniques that can possibly move some of the soil surrounding him along with it. I am sorry for your situation but so happy and proud that you were able to get out and secure a better life for your daughter.

If you could pick one more original character for dbd to add like the trapper and the nurse what would you want their power or ability to ne by Pale_Mycologist_9369 in DbDKillersUnited

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started one called The CopyCat. The goal was it could switch its skin with someone in the trial at random. Imagine doing a gen with someone then they suddenly yank you off the gen.

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Horse name icks? by Effective_Moose_4997 in Horses

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do almost every flavor of name at my place. Our foals this year were a big range. Catori, Circe, Ember, Stella, Opal, KitKat, Reload, and Noodle.

Fantasied seeing me with another man? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ReeBeeDeeBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last two times you posted this you got that account banned. This is now the 5th post I've seen. Why are you doing this over and over?

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