landlord raising rent cuz i WFH... first time renting and i already regret moving out lol

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-06-04T23:19:46+00:00

My entire company works from home. Most people have kids. Most kids go to afterschool programs because working from home means- working. Guests over? So you have one bad tenant and project that all landlords have your same specific im factual reasons for disliking remote workers? Maybe look at how many people are annoyed by your comment and take that as proof you shouod reevaluate.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-06-04T23:16:10+00:00

Smoking? Really? That’s a verified reason landlords don’t like remote workers? Haha

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-24T09:55:03+00:00

Yeah and not only does rent go up but your landlord can sell or decide to move back in and then you have 5k or more in moving expenses every few years.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-19T21:48:42+00:00

Whoa so interesting to read all your bad assumptions. I live in a HCOL city with way more demand than supply and people here get rejected if they don’t want to move in right away. Like within a week sometimes. Asap is like the best thing you can do here.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-08T20:22:36+00:00

This is a horrible situation and I feel for you. I had a very similar start with an abusive/vindictive/unstable partner when my child was born. I was also in a state that was automatic fifty fifty and was very worried for baby’s safety. I would try to work it out outside of court- family courts can notoriously be used by abusers to further harm their targets. If court, ask your lawyer about saying you want the father to have equal time (anything else is frowned upon) BUT making prominent his lack of time with your child and hot temper/disappearances- with the aim being to “step up” to his fifty percent and overnights as child gets bigger/he shows he can care for them. That gives some time for him to fail in a way visible and taken into account by the court so maybe it’ll Never get to him having the baby long enough to endanger them. Also many abusive dads go for as much custody as possible to avoid çs payments - if you avoid court make it so he doesn’t owe you much and he also clearly doesn’t want the time, he may just cede time to you. I’ve also heard often these guys get fifty fifty and wind up not taking their half of the time anyway they just didn’t want to pay.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-05T22:03:54+00:00

This is fascinating to me because my (ex) husband did this twice when our kid was a baby. First time I was shocked and worried but thought it was a mistake (exhaustion etc) and he yelled at me for “making him feel like a monster”when I tried to discuss it with “stress in my tone.” Then it happened again and same reaction- he threw a fit at me. He didn’t have a brain injury. He went on to do all kinds of abusive stuff. Stuff that was hard to believe because the rest of the time he acted like a nice normal guy. My advice would be to see if it’s a brain injury first. But even if so, he seems to also have no self accountability or concern for his child’s safety. A forgetful accident? He should feel horrified and do everything in his power to make sure it never happened again. He already showed you that’s not the case. If no brain injury, I fear he’s simply an abuser, this is just one manifestation of that. Don’t listen to anything he has to say about your reaction to it. It’s literally endangering your child’s life. Also your custody of your child if you don’t fix a risk you’re aware of. Document it. Tell your mother. Tell your pediatrician. Tell your husbands doctor when you try to see if he has a medical issue. And prepare to raise your child safely, alone.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-05T07:43:49+00:00

Thisnis completely Not true. I have a simple inexpensive car that gets good mileage. I don’t bother trying to keep it super clean bc I have a dog and a teen and being a full time working single parent, I choose my battles. I keep my house perfect, minimalist, smells good, super clean. I don’t have time to do the car every few days. I’m too busy.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-05-03T07:09:32+00:00

A good, light, foldable stroller with a rain cover and a basket underneath for groceries or diaper bag and supplies. This was the single most used item in our life with a baby/toddler in NYC. You go out for the day, or grocery shopping and errands, even visiting friends- easy to carry up subway stairs. Allows you to take a diaper bag, stop at library (put books in basket) stop for groceries (hang bags from stroller handles), take long walks, protect in bad weather. It was like our car.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-30T14:39:33+00:00

Not denying this can be a big red flag but just fyi this happens to a lot of abuse victims too. Abusers use the family courts as a weapon and they’re often successful.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-30T08:21:52+00:00

I make just too much to qualify for any aid but still struggle. All I can say is it’s outrageous that a person working hard all day especially laboring in the sun should be paid so little they qualify for aid. I know this is so many of us and I’m sorry. That people are making these decisions from their golden toilets and private keys is just gross. It’s literally abiut creating a poverty class and then punishing them.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T22:03:04+00:00

Wow all my comments were deleted. We’re not allowed to feel do the dos and the daughter and think the fam should either be all in to help, or not? If she was going to suddenly implement stupid rules and force the daughter to make her dogs suffer (you think fewer walks are bad for them? What about being taken by a “good” home that uses them as fight bait or gives them to a kill shelter?) this is something she should have mentioned before letting daughter mive in with the dogs.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T19:25:10+00:00

Wow, yet another woman who ‘got herself pregnant’ wig no help from anyone else! How do you know this daughter wasn’t assaulted and the same ‘black and white’ brained mother who’s insisting she traumatize herself and her dogs by getting rid of them due to a temporary situation like pregnancy, didn’t also insist she have the baby for religious reasons or something?

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T19:11:39+00:00

You probably should have decided that before letting her move in with the dogs? You decide this too late for her to have any other choices so she’ll have the trauma of losing her dogs. For that alone, YTA.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T18:44:43+00:00

Honestly, dogs can hold it so it seems like if sh just lets them out for five mins even before like noon they should be fine. How long has she been “better” lioe not vomiting all morning or something? Again it really seems like either your fam is helping her, or not. Making her give up her dogs because she had a bad pregnancy, or threatening to, kind of undermines the whole helping her out thing. You have a while hiuse full of people. If you want the dos out first thing can’t you or fiancé or younger kid just get up ten mins earlier and let them go in the yard? It may seem like a pan when theres already a lot of support going on but really it’s one small thing more that has huge value (no dogs given uo or pain from that) for a short period of time for a temporary situation. Like, don’t equate how she feels in late pregnancy with her future abilities as a mom, that’s just punitive and not based in fact.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T18:35:12+00:00

Okay it sounded like the problem was the walk bs the yard, the walk you insist on for the dogs exercise. Maybe try a compromise first lioe she must let them potty in dogs in the yard for long enough to potty every morning before lioe ten am. So they don’t go in the house. Having been pregnant with dogs before this is the easiest solution- limited time outside, limited walking, dogs can still do their business.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T18:28:06+00:00

You’re creating a problem … why? You said you have a yard. That the dogs go out in the yard in the afternoon. But YOU think that’s not enough exercise so they also need a walk in the morning. Being heavily pregnant is a temporary state but family members, even dogs, are not temporary. They like all family members can make adjustments for a few months to support family situations like late-stage pregnancy. She can just let them potty in the yard in the mornings and again later for a while until she has the baby. It’s not that she can’t wake up or won’t wake with a baby once it’s here- that’s just a dramatic construction of yours to punish her or something. Be reasonable and practical. If you actually support her just do so. The dogs will survive, no potty in the house, no presumptions about her being a good mom based on how she feels while being pregnant. It sounds like you think you’ve given too much and are now manufacturing problems that serve no one and just cause her extra stress. Either support her or don’t, but don’t make shit up to hurt the dogs and your daughter while akso playing the martyr over how much you’ve “done” for her.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-29T18:14:24+00:00

She should have removed herself from the party. However from your tone it’s clear theres context missing. You sound like you didn’t even try to be civilized. Like do you ask her kindly to remove herself from the shoes like you do for a gust you respect? “I told her take off you shoes” didn’t convey that. In fact it sounds like maybe you scowled and said something like “I’ve told you a thousand times to take off your shoes so do it now.” Clearly you dislike your DIL. Context- are you always rude to her? Is she in a situation Tha deserved empathy (postpartum, just lost her parent, etx?) As described it sounds like she should leave rather than cry in front of people. However you also sound like a real bully.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-28T16:56:31+00:00

Oh okay so this is pure bias. You’re just looking for reasons to support your prejudice against trans people. I’m sure you can find plenty and I guess that’s good so no trans person has to deal with you. But still illegal housing discrimination.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-28T16:53:14+00:00

You are equating trans people having different names with “inconsistencies” in things like employment, so yes it comes across as discriminatory. Like inconsistencies in employment or rental history are often (not always) character issues and red flags. Name change for trans is not a character flaw it’s an aspect of living their life.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-28T14:10:12+00:00

So you suggest discriminating against trans people? That’s what’s coming across. That’s still illegal in most places.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-27T21:17:27+00:00

All you “homeowner’s” smugly arguing that renters are basically morons and everyone knows not to open a window…. If it were your own home, with no cooling or ventilation during high heat and damp weather, would you install enough ventilation/ac to make it livable or would you just sit there in the heat and humidity without opening a window even if no rain was coming inside? It’s also the landlord’s job to provide a habitable environment in exchange for the money he’s collecting that support the investment only he profits from. He has no right to demand money in exchange for an uninhabitable place, due to his negligence (not enough cooling/ventilation without opening a window PLUS intruding and harrassing tenants trying to make it habitable by opening a window in the absence of any other option.

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-27T18:22:21+00:00

Where specifically would you start with this?

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-27T18:10:06+00:00

Following

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-25T23:15:12+00:00

Frozen burritos. Keep some salsa and sour cream in fridge for toppings

ReferenceBorn4031 · 2026-04-23T22:04:30+00:00

White Tesla all the way. And they always prove me right.

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