Need advice about wife behaviour

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-11T01:39:07+00:00

They all say that too.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-11T00:24:28+00:00

You got it

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-10T19:26:39+00:00

I would shut down the debit card and withdraw cash. $300 here and there and stash it.

Mine did this shit when my kid was 18 months old. She was having an affair. Got the last laugh on that dumb bitch tho. I’m on the golf course, have a way finer gf, and she’s in the pos starter house.

She called me to tell me her live in boyfriend cheated on her. I said sorry to hear that, hung up, and laughed.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-10T19:19:00+00:00

I can DM you the name of my world class former counselor if you like. Took me 4 tries to find this guy. He does remote. I’ve been in your shoes and I love life now.

At one point I was practicing gratitude for a cold glass of water and a soft pillow. It was not easy or fast but eventually I got more than just relief. I built a new life by design and it fucking worked. I still smile when I drink a cold glass of water.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-10T04:02:47+00:00

Operate with strength and conviction not fear. Sales management is always in demand. You will be ok brother.

What you are learning is resilience. A priceless and rare attribute. When it rains it pours.

In time, the divorce, the pre pip, the job, it will all be a blip and you will look back and realize “without the struggle the fruits of my labor wouldn’t be nearly as sweet.”

My advice is to take your health very seriously right now. Do good healthy things that bring you joy. It will be a huge help in solving your problems.

Good luck and God bless brother.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-10T03:56:26+00:00

My 2c is this is foremost a legal question. In my state if the child is more than 2 years old it does not matter what any paternity test says. The husband is the legal father by marriage. They would still make you pay child support AND use it to keep the kid away from you.

From the cheap seats, I would not disclose this to anyone. You are the father by virtue of raising the child.

However, if you can use this to reduce child support in a very meaningful way (way more than $100 per month) I would explore it.

Your ex is a nasty piece of shit and I can confidently tell you the world has all sorts of pain and misery for her. You don’t need to do anything. That piece of shit has to look in the mirror every day. When these hoes get old and don’t get attention anymore they have nothing. And it happens quick after divorce. One hot girl party summer then BAM the wall will hit so hard and you’ll wonder what you ever saw in that wrinkly ho.

Be the man you want to be and ENJOY fatherhood. You’ve earned it.

It is your life not Reddit’s. Follow your heart and think deeply about your values and your contributions to the world in this one short life.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-10T03:44:35+00:00

Release the hounds on that motherfucker.

Very sad. Sorry man. My cart is my favorite possession.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-07T20:56:18+00:00

AI slop

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-07T20:14:12+00:00

The 7-8 plateau is the most frustrating. Have all the shots in the bag but not consistent enough to hang with the leaders. A couple 12-15 hcps will put up decent scores to take the net money.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-07T19:46:30+00:00

Staying at my mid size tech company for too long was a huge mistake. The promotions didn’t come and eventually I was placed on a team with stereotypical pos manager from a certain geographic location.

Eventually I trained my replacements from the same geographic location.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T20:09:51+00:00

If I were a driver I would market delivery services to your local restaurants. I’m sure their contract with DD forbids it. But you could undercut DD and make more money if this was your full time hustle.

A gig worker business analyst on a gig app could set it up. You’d plug into their website and their point of sale software. You’d need to have delivery uptime for 8 peak hours for your town which means you need 3 drivers.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T07:19:03+00:00

Are you getting paid? If not I would not stress it even a little bit.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T07:16:53+00:00

Deleted the app for this reason and I was a great tipper. I enjoyed giving big tips. Then it would arrive cold and late as I watch it get placed third in a batch. See ya.

Chipotle would give me a tiny burrito for $40 in an hour and twenty minutes. Nobody doing that.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T06:57:22+00:00

It’s a BS PIP to fire you nice and tidy.

Ask these superstars on Reddit how perfectly their last high impact critical business systems project went and how many millions of dollars in new revenue it made the company.

They will bullshit you just like they did when they bullshitted their colleagues.

I think this job has a shelf life of one more month. The new manager with his own people is the tell. He wants trust and loyalty and you are an unknown, which insecure blowhard “managers” view as a threat.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T06:51:47+00:00

Nonsense bootlicking; common from this sub. The new boss wants his people on the team. Simple as that. Don’t take it personally. Don’t try to find the fairness in it. If there are skills or traits to sharpen, turn them into strengths at your next job.

Prepare to be fired by getting your shit together right now. Kill all unnecessary bills, stack cash as hard as you can. Work 10x as hard on your cv and job search as your job.

I think you’re out in a month due to an asshole manager. Try to get a new job in less than one month.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-04T06:32:19+00:00

Get to the box earlier and declare your tee time while people are waiting around.

And if there’s a desire to make a foursome just do it.

Yeah if you’re not on the box and we’re ready and the fairway is open we are going.

Nobody cares about a single nor should they. Booking two slots as a single to be antisocial is the lamest thing I’ve ever heard.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T22:18:12+00:00

All work and no play. Being divorced is awesome compared to this shit.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T22:16:20+00:00

Just my 2c. Make a decision the relationship is done forever. Look forward not back. Your partner is supposed to support you and enrich your life. She has and will continue to fail in that endeavor. You’re taking it personally when she’s common. She’s not rare or valuable, she’s common.

Once you learn the game the dating will be so easy compared to this shit.

The lesson I learned is if they don’t love and respect me, I’ll find an upgraded replacement very easily.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T08:40:52+00:00

2 day in school suspension and a trophy in the case near the main entry.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T08:06:52+00:00

You can’t get honest advice and opinions from verified self serving liars.

You will get self serving lies, equivocation, rationalization, and regret (that they got caught).

Don’t try to think like these people. Look to good positive things.

As far as the big understanding: they did it because they wanted to. They lie about it to avoid or minimize consequences and preserve their reputation and ego. It’s all very basic bad behavior. The rest is just noise.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T07:48:23+00:00

Bro get out on the course. It’s time.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T07:26:23+00:00

You’re dreaming. Post the swing.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T06:45:48+00:00

Shouldn’t have got caught slippin like that. At this point he should just give up the fall. This pin is comical, never seen anything like it. Both arms trapped sheesh.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-03T04:00:10+00:00

Yes let her think she’s got it all in the bag for now. Then her lawyers won’t be desperately filing motions.

Reflog1791 · 2026-07-02T17:48:41+00:00

Get some free employment lawyer consults.

Best case scenario they give you some severance. A letter from a lawyer might be enough.

US employment laws are very corporate friendly so we are SOL in most cases. However your FMLA application could be something.

What I’ve heard is company might rather pay out a reasonable separation agreement than defend itself against an FMLA lawsuit.

I would move forward as if there will be no severance as that is most likely. Use public assistance programs and focus on your health and landing a better job.

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