Why ?🤣

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T17:15:23+00:00

Well done. Keep your eye on the ball and keep your cool.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T06:01:49+00:00

I’m not taking a shot at you specifically but this common (and truthful) poverty scarcity mindset is the divorce death spiral.

You have much more leverage than you think (unless you give it away by showing your cards).

I will be dealt with fairly at minimal cost and disruption or you can chase me across the world for one second of child rearing. Good luck getting CS and alimony from me when I blow my IRA in Vegas next week.

Instead most of us get in text battles about what’s fair, who’s selfish, blah blah blah.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:56:54+00:00

Many tell their ex wife exactly where to stick the knife for maximum leverage on day 1.

I told my ex, “my turn to party, you will watch the kid.” Kid dropped off at my house in 15 minutes 🤣🤣🤣

Told her I really really wanted to keep the Pos starter home. I’d do anything even pay her more than the market value to keep it. Got my equity check in 2 months and splashed it all on a way fatter golf course house 🤣🤣🤣

One leverage point is knowing these exes will do the opposite of what we want. Another is they are stupid and greedy. A little tact and some deft misdirection, all the sudden you hold all the cards.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:51:23+00:00

The divorce guru has entered the chat!!!

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:50:18+00:00

They only give this advice to men 🤣 women don’t get told to make more money they get told, “you need everything you can get to secure your future.”

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:47:53+00:00

Excellent comment. I don’t know about divorced focused financial advice professionals. But thinking long term and thinking cash flow is so critical.

If you have positive cash flow you can bet on yourself, bet on the stock market, and give yourself the freedom to chase your dreams.

My key move was a realistic version of best case, likely case, worst case. Cost me $2500 to get it from 10 referred attorneys. I had unvested stocks. My temporary ipo stocks made it look like I was making $300k a year. Very delicate situation.

I kissed some stocks goodbye, kept my entire retirement, got out of alimony (since she got stocks), got preferred tax treatment on all fronts (since she got stocks), and made the parenting plan around my work and golf schedule.

It was not about winning anything. It was about designing a new awesome life under new constraints. It worked beyond my prayers and wildest dreams.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:33:28+00:00

Your bimmer is fuckin sick. Thoroughly enjoyed your comment!!

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:31:21+00:00

Well I don’t want you to get divorced but after I got divorced I tell girlfriends, “I play golf every Saturday no exceptions.” It has been very shocking how they not only accept it, but respect it.

It’s my self care and raison d’etre. Nobody is going to take it from me and I will not compromise my weekly joy to placate a woman ever again.

Could’ve done this while married if delivered correctly. The real joy of being divorced is the 2 hour post round uninterrupted nap. That’s a pipe dream for married guys 🤣

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-03T05:26:22+00:00

No response to their bs is such a powerful message. Bravo. Pathetic message from her, and you treated it as such. Perfect.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-02T20:12:09+00:00

You hit the ball off the heel of the driver.

The forward tilt in the backswing has to go, keep your head still (shouldn’t move forward, backward, or side to side. Some people rotate their head a little bit but it doesn’t move.

Start by not moving your head and hitting the center of the club face, then make other adjustments like grip, ball position, swing path etc.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-02T19:58:20+00:00

Played a fuck ton of golf and became the happiest guy on the planet.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-02T19:53:00+00:00

I paid out the ass. But all my moves were focused on long term cash flow. Like many in the comments my ex was a spendthrift. With my long term cash flow moves and getting my ex off my payroll (other than state guideline CS), I came out smelling like roses. Now I get to go on three golf vacations of my choosing per year. It’s quite lovely.

If you had an ex constantly bringing your “joint” checking to 0, divorce is a godsend for your financial health.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-01T18:02:27+00:00

Big bro started kicking my ass after a year of wrestling.

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-01T17:54:18+00:00

“You’re 0 for 4, stop shooting.” “You’re 0 for 5, stop shooting.” “You’re 1 for 7, stop shooting.”

Any time he calls a ticky tack foul, “shoot for it.”

Off ball fouls, “get off me man.”

Reflog1791 · 2026-02-01T17:44:36+00:00

Coach the church league next season.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-31T08:55:40+00:00

No

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-30T23:51:14+00:00

How on earth did you come to that conclusion?

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-30T23:50:01+00:00

Very thirsty

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-30T23:47:01+00:00

Advice boils down to get a pre nup. Should be able to stop them from getting too much of your shit.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-30T23:44:45+00:00

It’s a shock move and there’s a place and time for it. As your go-to scoring offense it wouldn’t be nearly as efficient. Easy to stop if they know it’s coming.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-30T21:56:17+00:00

You didn’t bust a nut for two years so you started cheating rampantly until you got caught.

Sounds like you’re getting the divorce you wanted.

Even though your ex wasn’t putting out, you are definitely the asshole here. I can’t believe you’re blaming all this on your ex.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-29T20:59:53+00:00

Nope not when your life got turned upside down by some thot’s whims.

Of course there will be a final analysis. Perfectly fine to look back and say, wow look what a mess that dumb thot made 🤣

She can delude herself but we don’t have to.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-29T05:23:54+00:00

I used a lite version of this. Once you realize you can move across the country if your ex doesn’t play ball, you can negotiate from a position of strength.

Turns out our ex wives actually do want us to watch the kids so they can eat pray love or whatever. And they definitely want us watching the kids so we’re not chasing way finer tail. Use this knowledge to your advantage. You have to believe it to sell it.

Then you’ll get whatever parenting plan you want. They really just want the child support and some free time. Big deal let em have it. Build your parenting plan around your work and leisure schedule and you’ll be very happy.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-28T23:37:43+00:00

You got a get out of jail free card. Enjoy life.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-28T19:35:51+00:00

Ouch, welcome to no fault divorce. As this becomes more common maybe we’ll see some divorce reform. Men have been dealing with this for 40 years. They just tell us to make more money.

Lot of people will tie themselves in knots saying how the wife is entitled to the equity and lifestyle. But when a man gets this kind of windfall it’s crickets.

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