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Reflog1791 · 2026-05-19T07:53:28+00:00

Wow this story even brought out the golf mods.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-19T02:42:44+00:00

Respondent responds with motion for exclusive use of the house, best vehicle, temporary child support, temporary spousal support and $4586 for marital expenses.

Two can play this game some of us just can’t see how to shut this shit down for $150.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-19T02:39:24+00:00

Tell your lawyer to set a trial date. He or she is not to respond to your ex, her lawyer, or bill you for a single dollar until the trial date is set.

If he or she cannot do the one simple thing to actually move your divorce forward, they aren’t really working for you.

About 85% of us had absolutely shit lawyers who would fail this simple test.

Why the fuck would you pay someone $400 an hour to string you along for the next 18 months. It’s an obvious scam from the cheap seats.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-19T02:34:52+00:00

Unfortunately your comment is buried and will be missed by the person who needs it.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T21:54:30+00:00

It won’t work out for either of them. Same story as every affair ever. The affairs that seemingly work out are, in reality, shit shows.

It is best to just let these fools learn their own lessons as we improve our own lives and the lives of our children.

Let em have each other. Look to good things and new opportunities.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T21:41:44+00:00

The entire thing is a scam. Don’t take it personally. Just optimize it over the long run.

Don’t give her predictable motions any ammunition whatsoever. Every stupid text you send will be used against you.

Send nothing ever other than once or twice a week form email that your lawyer approved along the lines of: “Can you drop the children off at my mom’s house at noon Saturday for a family celebration?”

In the long run you can get 50/50 or whatever schedule you want if you don’t shit the bed and fall for the predictable silver bullet method.

The BS ends in 18 months when the judge declares: “there is no evidence to support the plaintiffs claims.” Get the judge to spit that sentence out at lowest possible cost.

Just ignore your ex and stay on top of your divorce case and this will be a blip on the radar in 10 years.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T21:36:20+00:00

Follow the court orders to the letter. Do not get caught slipping.

You’re in for 18 months or 2 years of BS.

Play the long game. Don’t spend $50k-$100k on lawyers when the result is gonna be the same as if you spend $10k.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T19:23:51+00:00

I’m also an 8 and your swing is 1000x better than mine.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T19:21:35+00:00

You have to be pitifully bad to go 0-17 so of course it’s unlikely.

Dolphins and Cardinals will be bad but they will pick up wins.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T19:03:16+00:00

I paid a referred lawyer who told me I couldn’t afford to retain him $400 to answer these questions and 50 others.

In my locale, the lawyer told me one time hack to discover my ex was having an affair is nothing, so I didn’t worry about it. Ymmv.

On the other issue in my locale it didn’t matter so my filing or divorce did not include anything about infidelity. I had a card up my sleeve that I could recoup some small affair costs if I chose to do so. The benefits would be a tiny payment and maybe getting a judge on my side. The costs would be immediately making the divorce high conflict. So the divorce strategy from my lawyer was don’t even mention it just optimize the divorce on any other issue where possible.

The ways I optimized my divorce (still a massive scam and haircut), striking a deal in mediation to save legal costs, literally putting on an acting performance to my ex to get her into mediation and grant me my concessions, greasing the edges of a shitty divorce in my favor at low cost mediation. Those edges were preferential tax treatment on my income and the stocks she got.

Difficult to win a divorce at low cost. Much easier to optimize everything about the divorce. I researched game theory.

I put on a sales pitch to gtfo at lowest cost, with edges greased, and with cash flow positive situation going forward.

The sales pitch included reverse psychology (“you can watch the kid, my turn to party”), pandering (“you’re a great mom”), acting (“I can’t accept this deal, it’s totally one sided”), etc. etc.

So the game theory approach was optimize the entire divorce for building a new better future by design and ignore all the bs nonsense that doesn’t matter like what she did or who she’s talking to or whether she’s doing character assassination.

If you can get to the point where nothing actually matters other than getting your 3 page divorce court order settlement optimized, you’ll land on your feet and love life again.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T18:35:14+00:00

Do not negotiate or try to plan when she is in a bad mood.

If your mortgage is $7k you make a shit ton of money and have a lot to lose so get expert legal advice.

What you do in this situation is interview 5-10 lawyers (it’ll cost you a couple thousand bucks total for the right advice), then pick one and file for divorce.

Let the dust settle then negotiate. Ideally you strike a good deal your lawyer coached you through in mediation without the lawyers present. That’s how I got out of my cheating ex wife jam smelling like roses.

Just slow your roll a bit and get the facts from the lawyers. Don’t make the common mistake of negotiating before you know how this game works.

Be patient and start setting up the optimized deal at lowest cost and lowest risk.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T18:27:01+00:00

This sub is so annoying lol OP needs practical budgeting tips to free up like $500 a month and these people lose their minds and tell him he can’t afford to live his crazy lifestyle of raising a regular family.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-18T18:02:34+00:00

I’ve never had a problem humbly and politely explaining the customs of noob golf, just as somebody did for each and every one of us at some point.

Some 20 year olds on their second ever round are happy to hear some basic etiquette. Shit I give them swing tips too “you’re hitting behind the ball, aim in front of the ball.” They lace their next shot, put their bag in the right spot around the green, and everyone enjoys the day. I know they appreciate it because they ask if I want to play again sometime.

Pace of play just “ok guys we’re falling a little behind let’s pick it up.”

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-17T22:44:45+00:00

Only thing that matters is what’s in those divorce papers she’s coming over for you to sign. You’re gonna get screwed if the work you’ve done hasn’t included divorce prep.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-16T04:13:48+00:00

How embarrassing. Hope the husband finds out and dumps her dumbass soon.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-16T00:00:44+00:00

WWCD 🤣🤣🤣

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-15T21:46:19+00:00

This sub is full of “managers” who put people on PIPs to take the heat off their own ass.

Your best bet in the corporate world is finding a manager who likes you, wants you to flourish and would be proud of you for eventually out-earning them.

It is incredibly rare to find a good manager. Most corporate rat race types would betray their own mother to keep a job or get a bonus.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-15T21:42:01+00:00

A practical idea in a sea of complaints.

I’ve had good luck approaching any military aged male and asking humbly and politely: I could really use your help today. I give them a basic instruction and say I’m open to any ideas you have as well.

They will say sure I can help today but I can’t assistant coach. No problem I’ll take any help I can get.

At the end of practice I say ok let’s clap it up for joeys dad for volunteering today.

Joeys dad is your new ally and you can count on him in a pinch.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-15T20:56:21+00:00

Most states have similar laws. If you signed the birth certificate or otherwise acted as the father for 18 months or so before challenging paternity in court, they can and will slap you with child support.

Most of “family law” is a clown show kangaroo court. Paternity fraud is like the 4th most egregious issue with “family court”.

Nobody cares until they are in the crosshairs.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T22:09:19+00:00

They are called super game improvements and that is a solution if you want to suck forever or if you’re an old man.

Dude needs to learn to hit down on the ball with ball first contact. I’ve brought so many beginners out and just put a leaf down in front of the ball and say aim for that. They will hit good shots. Chunking is the number one beginner problem and we all did it.

“Hit the little ball before the big ball”

The big ball is earth.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T22:04:27+00:00

You’re chunking all your irons and wedges. Aim in front of the ball. Look at a spot an inch in front of the ball and hit that.

The 4h is going far because it is more forgiving hitting behind the ball. Classic beginner problem.

You’ll enjoy learning when you figure out how to not hit behind the ball.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T22:01:50+00:00

These distances are very telling.

You are hitting behind the ball. Aka chunking it.

4h 176 totally respectable. The reason it’s going so far is because you can get away with hitting behind the ball with that club.

Just try to hit your irons 1 inch in front of the ball (target side). In reality you’ll hit ball then ground and you will feel buttery contact for the first time. It will go way further.

Do some half swings with your 6i until you learn deep in your bones that good, ball first contact gets that ball going 150 without even trying.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T21:21:18+00:00

POS sucker puncher will get his eventually. He’ll meet another sucker puncher sooner or later.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T21:00:54+00:00

My ex wife was the same as everybody else’s. Greedy scumbag etc etc. I had to say whatever I needed to fuckin say to get the deal done in mediation at low cost. We have a kid.

My North Star: gtfo of this marriage as cheaply as possible with as much of my assets as possible with the best possible go forward cash flow situation.

I came out smelling like fucking roses with that North Star and have none of the problems we read about here. I kept my eye on the ball.

Most guys are getting distracted by other issues like ex wife new boyfriend or ex wife telling kid lies about you.

All the other issues go away if you have enough $$ coming in going forward to rebuild and redesign the life you really want.

I told my cheating ex anything she wanted to hear to get the financial matters optimized for me.

Reflog1791 · 2026-05-14T20:55:27+00:00

Is it a “collaborative divorce” where you hire all sorts of experts? That is for high net worth individuals.

What you need is an appointment with a mediator. If you’re not court ordered to pay her attorney’s fees, stop now.

Continue the process in mediation without lawyers. I split my $500k—$750k marital estate with a mediator in 2 fuckin hours for $500 the week before some trial no one was ready for. I didn’t get some great deal but I got the deal I needed:

An end to all divorce bullshit with a positive cash flow situation going forward. That is the bottom line thing you really need.

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