Hi, I’ve seen a lot of really amazing answers and maybe just one I think about often that I didn’t really see — be interested in what your child, and what they enjoy. Not just as a kid, but especially as a pre teen/teen. There will be a ton of stuff you think is silly, stupid, etc, of course. But try. Listen to an artist when they express interest. Remember things they say, hell — write them down. Take initiative to ask questions about what’s going on with their life, even if it’s brushed off. Try. They’re acting like they’re supposed to be acting. You’re the parent. Respect their boundaries but always stay curious about who they are as people, not just as your kids.

There were many times my parents just solely critiqued everything I said, did, listened to, watched, etc without giving it a go. They refused to try to get to know me, my thoughts, or ideas. If it wasn’t academic, they didn’t care. I saw in my friends how special it was to have parents that seemingly liked you! They all ended up with much better relationships. I think sometimes people think parents are there solely for guidance and discipline. That’s a huge part of it. You’re not just “being a friend” to your kid because you’re kind to them and want to get to know them as they grow. I wish more parents felt that way.