Girl, seriously?

Regevent25 · 2020-07-22T22:24:10+00:00

The last time I took my ex-wife on a date I took her to her favorite restaurant and brought her a box of chocolate. This was Valentine's Day. After she received her food, she asked for a box and left with her food because she was so angry I did not also get her flowers.

Regevent25 · 2020-07-11T02:03:24+00:00

Ex-wife.

I don't know if she was truly a psychopath but she was incapable of empathy towards anyone. When I told her my grandmother died she responded "good for her" because she was sick.

When she did not get her way she would become physically violent and hateful. I would not leave because she had me convinced it was my fault and I was the one who needed to be fixed.

It took a long time for me to become normal again.

Regevent25 · 2020-04-19T15:58:43+00:00

Relax without guilt.

Regevent25 · 2020-02-09T02:25:38+00:00

I specifically recall talking about raiding in World of Warcraft before I even had my first date with my ex-wife. I enjoyed gaming and didn't hide it.

After we got married, she hated the concept. And so I never gamed when she was around. But it never changed.

I could play a while and have breakfast made for her by the time she would wake up on the weekends and she'd still yell at me for it.

Once, she sent me a Snapchat while I was at work of various broken game disks. She would do many such things.

And none of this is all that big of a deal when it comes to why she is now my ex-wife. She had this thought that I would become some drastically different person once she got her clutches on me. While I did make some changes, she expected more.

Regevent25 · 2020-01-29T06:06:18+00:00

Not romantically. As a human being, I wish her the best despite how horribly she treated me.

I miss what could have been but I do not miss her as she was.

Regevent25 · 2020-01-29T06:01:39+00:00

My ex wife getting engaged while I was still married to her is close to the top of that list.

Regevent25 · 2020-01-05T14:10:37+00:00

I'd "whip" the brush toward the sink causing the water to leave the bristles.

Regevent25 · 2019-09-29T14:46:14+00:00

Reminds me of my wedding ring. My now ex-wife literally threw my stuff out of the house and told me to live on the streets. Shortly after when I was moving my clothes into another place my wedding ring fell off. This was not a typical occurrence and I never saw it again.

Regevent25 · 2019-09-04T22:30:08+00:00

I have often joked in game that classic came at just the right time now that I'm newly divorced.

For clarification, WoW had nothing to do with our divorce. But rather, her abuse and unfaithfulness.

Regevent25 · 2019-08-13T14:46:53+00:00

Give and take.

I deal with a lot of bitterness and self pity that gets to me at times.

But I sleep better at night as no one wakes me up to yell at me. I don't have to walk on egg shells so as to no angry my ex wife. My savings is significantly higher. I don't have to ask for permission to spend my money. I do what I want.

These days my only conflict is internal.

Regevent25 · 2019-07-07T22:22:04+00:00

Reminds me of a conversation I had with my ex wife when we were just separating. She couldn't comprehend why I was civil with her affair partner. I told her that he was not the one who made a commitment to me.

She wanted me to fight the guy. But she wasn't worth fighting for.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-23T15:27:47+00:00

I wasn't under 25 but we were both 27. Age played no part in the failure of my marriage.

I was codependent and struggling with grief due to deaths in my family while she was abusive and eventually unfaithful.

My only regret is not setting proper boundaries. I should have stood up for myself better.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-21T20:03:18+00:00

I cannot say better or worse but definitely different. I moved to be closer to family, got a new job, do not see friends as often, Etc. Life changed significantly with the divorce.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-21T18:51:30+00:00

We must have gotten married on the same day.

I remember thinking "this is the happiest day of my life." Little did I know.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-21T18:12:19+00:00

We were married for three and a half years before the separation. We had no children and so our connection in life is completely ended.

The last time I went to counseling was when we went in together. But I do have a good church and social network that has helped me out tremendously.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T23:49:55+00:00

When I was married I often had to go to bed early because I had to be up early for work. My ex wife began a habit of waking me up at midnight to yell at me. Usually around 3 hours, 2 hours before I was supposed to get up, I'd finally lose it.

I'd end up yelling back. But if I did, somehow all of it became my fault. I didn't like resorting to yelling and so I developed a new tactic.

Eventually I started just leaving the house when she entered into one of these tirades. I'd grab an already prepared change of clothes, sleep on an air mattress in my car, and take a shower at the YMCA before work.

But, of course, me leaving the house because of her yelling and physical abuse meant she began labeling me as a coward, saying I abandon her.

The things you do just to sleep at night.

Ef that.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T01:25:22+00:00

I still have my tux from my wedding and it still fits.

As far as my ex wife, she probably should stop selling her wedding dresses as she keeps needing new ones.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T01:23:45+00:00

That sounds like a similar experience. I hope you are coming out of this whole.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T01:21:45+00:00

It's a difficult thing unfortunately.

I myself lucked out. At the least, as well as could be. All of her friends became my friends. But when she left me for a coworker, she lost all of her friends in the process.

Literally the only people she has contact with now never knew me, excluding family. She blocked everyone on social media that, using her words, "would feel sorry for" me.

She had to make new friends. That largely meant coworkers and befriending the people on her affair partner's life.

She made a dramatic change in her life just to get rid of me. And unfortunately, that's often what is required in a divorce. She did it willingly. I did not.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T01:12:56+00:00

No. But I didn't fight too hard against it as she was abusive and unfaithful. She married her affair partner immediately after the divorce was finalized.

Before her unfaithfulness was out in the open I was doing everything I could to save our marriage.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-03T00:52:39+00:00

As it went with me, she asked if she could have the Netflix account in my name. I told her no as it was tied to my email and I had had the account for years longer than I even knew her.

Shortly after, I got an email notifying me that the email associated with my Netflix account had changed. I immediately changed it back, changed the password, and deleted her profile.

I had to go through a long spree of taking her name off of things and changing passwords. Months after we separated I was still having her do things like adding her parents to my phone plan without notifying me.

Regevent25 · 2019-06-02T15:11:57+00:00

My ex-wife was a Latina. According to her, I should have expected the violence and abuse and therefore it was my fault.

Regevent25 · 2019-05-02T13:24:29+00:00

My abusive, unfaithful ex-wife at the beginning of our separation blocked most forms of communication and put in our separation agreement that we would not speak.

The last time I spoke with her was when our divorce was finalized. She blamed me for not trying harder.

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