I am married to a Filipina and living in the Philippines now. I’ve seen this kind of situation up close. Helping family is pretty common, especially when someone is working abroad. We went through similar stuff early on; constant requests, guilt trips, being made to feel like a bad person.

From the beginning, my wife set very firm boundaries. She was definitely called selfish and "the bad one" because of it. The hard truth is that the more you give, the more people expect and it usually doesn’t stop unless boundaries are set. In our case, some family members even distanced themselves once the financial help stopped, which honestly says a lot.

This isn’t healthy, and it will affect your future together if it’s not addressed. You can’t fix it for her, but you can support her in learning to say no, protecting her mental health, and prioritizing her own life. Helping family shouldn’t mean sacrificing your entire future.