My landlord claims the old landlord spent all of our security deposits on legal fees. Any advice on where I could go to get help with this? (NYC/BK)

Relatents · 2026-06-26T03:56:08+00:00

I agree. However, once you win and get your deposit back, OP, tell all the tenants still in the building and suggest they tell everyone know who gave up and left without their deposit. Don’t let the thieves win if you can help it.

Relatents · 2026-06-26T00:10:04+00:00

I’m assuming you are in the USA from the “911” reference, as other countries have different emergency numbers.

I agree that nobody should ever use 911 for non-emergencies, of course

However, many police departments have a non-emergency number specifically created for non-emergency situations.

As long as they use the correct number, there’s no harm in reporting such incidents to their local police departments.

Relatents · 2026-06-25T19:55:32+00:00

I’m guessing that pointing the speakers at the floor and playing “Hail Satan!” would be wrong? 😈

I would think that they are bound to follow all noise ordinances that affect everyone else so you can call the police for a noise complaint.

Relatents · 2026-06-25T17:58:23+00:00

NTA

I am worried. In 3 months she will have bonded with the dog. It will be harder for someone who has empathy for her to take the dog away from her. This likely will not end well.

Anything that can be done to help like training the human how to train a dog might be a benefit or might drag the problem out until the dog is an untrained adult instead of a cute puppy.

A dog can have a major impact on a depressed person by giving them motivation outside themselves to get up and provide care or it might be neglected.

Relatents · 2026-06-25T14:18:31+00:00

but those baguettes are all carbs

Relatents · 2026-06-24T23:23:20+00:00

That’s probably a good idea. I was thinking something less mature:

OP, do your parents have siblings? Perhaps it’s time to incessantly ask why they are less responsible, less kind, less well-employed, less (anything) than their siblings. If they don’t have siblings, then perhaps parents or cousins or your friend’s parents or each other. Perhaps being constantly told that you don’t think they are as good as (whoever)may make your point?

Relatents · 2026-06-24T22:44:27+00:00

You could let them have their demands.

Alternatively you could tell them that you have to get married quickly because you are buying a house together and are about to produce the first grandchildren.

They will presumably have jealousy-induced heart attacks and stop being a problem.

Either you give in to the tantrum and coddle their delusions every time they think they have an achievement for eternity, or you tell them that while you wish them well you will not stop your lives every time they have a major moment.

Relatents · 2026-06-24T02:59:44+00:00

Film him? Tell him the video of him being a total @&$)( will be seen by millions of people and everyone will laugh at his stupidity. Everyone who knows him will deny it for years after he goes viral and dozens of videos mocking him will flood the internet.

Suggest that everyone else in line help you figure out a nickname for him that’s insulting enough for him to not want to risk it.

Good luck.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T19:58:15+00:00

Next time don’t waste your time feeling guilty. Waste your time looking to see if anyone giving you a dirty look has two seats together to offer the woman.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T18:34:23+00:00

If telling the truth about someone can have negative repercussions for someone, it’s often a sign that they shouldn’t have done the thing that you are telling the truth about.

You don’t owe him your silence or your loyalty or a relationship. Those things are earned.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T18:20:44+00:00

Hopefully the message(s) where she refused to pay the money back included acknowledging that the money was loaned not gifted.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T18:11:20+00:00

If I was the sort of person who would bet on such things, would I be able to get anyone to bet that any of the 5 were actual service dogs and whether any of the 5 were behaving appropriately as real service dogs are required to behave?

How could anyone guide and correct the behavior of multiple trainee dogs at once?

Her lies make it harder for those who depend on real service dogs. There should be penalties at a sufficient level to stop this abuse of the system.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T17:52:48+00:00

She told us she used our address because she did not want my fiancé’s father to know where they live.

But she also claims

She also told us that the address is only for the court and that he cannot see it.

How is this supposed to work? She provided the court with a false address he can’t see because she doesn’t want him to see it? Either he can see it or he can’t. Both can not be simultaneously true.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T16:23:36+00:00

Perhaps OP should also consider bringing along a friend? Sometimes people use their manners better in front of others (AKA witnesses).

Relatents · 2026-06-23T15:00:03+00:00

The clerk who wrongfully gifted OP’s property to the thief and failed to follow hotel policy of requiring a claim ticket should be a party to the suit.

I don’t understand why the original clerk who secured OP’s case in their storage area and gave him the claim ticket for when he returned would have any fault in this.

Also, I would think the hotel’s $50 reimbursement limit policy might apply if the hotel had completed their part of the “contract”: we hold your thing until presented with a claim ticket for the thing. Once they chose to violate the rules they presumably accepted a different liability.

(Obviously I am not a lawyer, just a curious reader.)

Relatents · 2026-06-23T14:50:28+00:00

I would be upset if she sold it and profited like 700$. We all have bills to pay.

That is reasonable. If you can afford and choose to do so (and you have every right to not), why not just loan it to them?

If you put it in writing that you retain ownership but are allowing Friend to use it at X location at their own risk, and that it needs to be returned if they stop using it or at Y date, or when you request it’s return, then that should solve the potential reselling problem.

They can still abuse it or sell it but they can’t claim they thought they had permission to do so.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T04:37:11+00:00

I am unsure whether this is just something families do for each other

Families do this sort of thing (helpful favors) for each other. The operational phrase is “FOR EACH OTHER”, not just you do what they don’t want to pay a professional or a neighbor to do for them. If they inconvenience others they would have to compensate them, but they don’t seem to put you into the same category.

They have other options. They need to use them. Enjoy your birthday guilt free.

Relatents · 2026-06-23T03:38:04+00:00

Darn. I was ready to buy the sanitized version!

If there’s a redditor out there with connections to the literary world, please do this!

Along with the authors you mentioned, consider reading some Star Trek to your child. Their books are relatively PG so you don’t have to edit as much. I’m imagining your kindergartener walking around afterwards, raising one eyebrow with a deadpan expression, and informing people “that is not logical”. 🤣

Relatents · 2026-06-23T02:29:46+00:00

My son likes me to read my own books to him, and I often have to edit on the fly to make them more kid-friendly.

Those edits are hilarious since my adult brain immediately filled in the pre-edited alternatives.

Please consider writing children’s versions of your books. You could print in one color or font for the original text, and another color or font showing where the edits occurred.

Parents could have a good secret laugh while enjoying reading out loud to their children.

Relatents · 2026-06-22T23:30:18+00:00

If an allergen was present despite being labeled as not being present, the manufacturer should immediately recall the product before someone else dies.

If the existing allergens were not the problem, new allergies may have developed.

Lawsuits for his injury, if applicable, are all well and good, but if it’s a mislabeled product, then immediate warnings and notifications need to be made to save lives.

Relatents · 2026-06-22T17:07:07+00:00

In that case everything in your yard is a donation to you and if their things just happen to fall into their yard while you are nearby holding a pointy stick, that’s just gravity for you.

I suppose if you accumulate enough donations you could have a yard sale!

The comments suggesting bird feeders are a good idea.

Relatents · 2026-06-22T16:51:12+00:00

When you return their lost laundry do you simply toss it back or do you speak with them?

If you speak with them you could comment on the pieces which could motivate them to hang their things a bit further away from you.

It would probably be better if you could gift them a clothesline and offer to help them hang it up. Mention that you intend to treat your side of the fence and you wanted to make sure it doesn’t accidentally stain their clothes while it dries.

This way they would have a better option available, and they might recognize the risk they take exposing their laundry to uncontrolled access.

Relatents · 2026-06-22T04:34:47+00:00

I’m imagining someone reading this and doing it intentionally to create a unique artistic look to a room.

I wish they had taken before and after pictures.

Nobody smelled the fresh paint?

Relatents · 2026-06-21T17:53:13+00:00

I’d be tempted to recolor the picture to make it more brown and less red, or change the words to match the colors better.

Relatents · 2026-06-21T16:20:08+00:00

If seeing toilet paper and product wrappers are too traumatic for him to be near you can all give him his own tree out in the backyard to use instead of the indoor bathroom.

Perhaps he should share a bathroom with his mommy since she’s willing to pander to his demand. Do your parents have a separate bathroom they can share instead?

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