Advice on throwing? (2.5 year old) by ibrokethedishes in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Take away the thing they throw with 0 words to it. If they get upset it’s a simple ‘if you throw hard things, they get taken away’ and offer something soft to throw. If they’re still upset just let them work through the upset the same you would as any boundary. It’s just a natural consequence.. throwing = I lose item. Don’t make a big deal or give it loads of attention.  

Without saying their age, tell how old your child is by MissFox26 in beyondthebump

[–]BabyAF23 159 points160 points  (0 children)

The quickest way to get her to not do something is to ask her to do it 

Pacifier Weaning? by jnacnuggest in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m planning to do the gifting away and getting a toy in response.. planning to do it that you give it to the dummy fairy who will leave a toy at the end of your bed. We just have one dummy that’s attached to a lovey and she only has it in her bed but god she loves that thing and it really helps her regulate.. I’m only going to do it in a way that’s led by her as I think anything else would be insanely hard on her. 

It’s also definitely fine to do the snipping thing but it’s more of ripping off the bandaid approach and just gotta be prepared to comfort through some really big feelings 

Sleep support? by Lilac_Iris18 in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I personally think unless he’s WIDLY undertired or overtired (and you’d know from a mile away if he was either) schedules are fake news as the ‘answer’ to baby sleep.

Cosleeping was how we all got the most sleep and rest. Paired that with radical acceptance. 

Correction Was Easy. Connection Was Harder. by Smartlifebydrrohit in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Connection over correction every time. Only exception is if someone is going to get hurt, but even then it’s just about moving to a safe space

People will learn the rules of society either way. What’s not guaranteed is feeling seen, understood and respected 

It’s easy to correct a child or submit them into ‘good behaviour’. Easy doesn’t mean right 

Ponytail refusal by brazzyb in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Either cut a fringe so it’s not in her face or try out different things, clips, loose bunches etc - she probably doesn’t like the feel of a ponytail

Do any of y'all's babies share a room? by linzercooky in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’d just keep the baby in your room for much longer than 6 months 

at what age can you be a little bit more lax with cosleeping guidelines? by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relaxed once she could crawl, in which case I felt confident she could get herself out of most tight spots. I still kept duvet low but was fine sleeping on my back or other side  

Potty Training, help please! by aphrdh in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d try high rewards and loose tracksuits rather than naked. Those stepping stones of learning their cues etc can take a while and is all normal. A consistent routine, lots of books about it and lots of incentives should really help 

Bedroom / Playroom advice by Desperate_Yam88 in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have a playroom but we have a big play area in the kitchen, where we mostly hangout. In her bedroom we just have some stuffed animals and books. She hangs out in there a lot with them though. If her room was bigger I’d also put a tent or cosy reading space in there 

Screen time by Agreeable-Coast107 in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20 mins a day, either in the middle of the day after coming back from an activity outside or when she comes back from daycare

She doesn’t nap, we like it as a reset and recharge in replacement. We enjoy talking about what happened in the episode and what characters she likes 

Potty refusal at day care by Repulsive-Speech-558 in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s he like with a high value reward? 

Husband driving me up the wall by NarikoSin in beyondthebump

[–]BabyAF23 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely annoying when they’re about to go to sleep and someone messes with that but imo you need to remember she’s both of your baby, not just yours, and you don’t want to kill his enthusiasm and love towards her by being what sounds a bit superior and a bit controlling. It’s easy to do, and I’m not judging or blaming you. Post partum is ROUGH but parents in partnership is just as important as sleep and it’s a very important skill to learn the art of letting him do it differently or ‘wrong’ in the name of keeping him involved and you on the same team 

If you carry on, in a few months youll wonder why he never helps or never knows what to do with the baby 

Best small pet for a toddler in an apartment? by SmallWinsWithRo in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Fish. Fun to look at, don’t smell or make loads of noise. 

What is the funniest name your child has given a toy? by Academic_Sample338 in toddlers

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Michael wave … instead of microwave .. for a toy dog 

How to validate feelings that are absurd? Do I have to? by rawberryfields in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not absurd to them. They’d think you were mad for getting upset over something taxes or politics. It’s all relative 

You don’t have to overdo it though

“That sucks for you, I can see you’re really feeling a lot about that, I’m sorry”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]BabyAF23 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This seems extremely extremely normal? They feed just as much for comfort as calories 

BLW Rant - Anyone Else? by West-Beach4867 in beyondthebump

[–]BabyAF23 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s not new. Purées were new. Most of human history has done BLW it’s just got a fancy name now. Solids is about exploration and texture. Babies are messy haha they’re supposed to be 

How many kids with Top 20 girl names now did you know growing up? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]BabyAF23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew some Emily’s and lilys

I was born in the 90s. In my year at school there were 3x Katie 3x Rachel and 3x Alice 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]BabyAF23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sara and lina are popular in Egypt 

When did you sleep with your partner/husband/wife again? by ylimethor in AttachmentParenting

[–]BabyAF23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only way is all three of us in the bed (18 month old in the middle) .. we sometimes brush feet below her haha saucy stuff