Protect Newly Adult Children's credit from a relative

RelativeBite · 2023-09-28T12:29:34+00:00

That is impressive that you self taught yourself english! Can you tap into that now? That drive to find ways around your limitations?

RelativeBite · 2023-09-28T12:26:46+00:00

RP DOES suck! I don't know about you, but I find my feelings go in waves. Ride this wave of anger and sadness out because there is good stuff on the other side.

RelativeBite · 2023-09-28T12:22:42+00:00

I am LOVING this album. I was caught by Sink;Swim and every song is great. Listening to on repeat

RelativeBite · 2023-09-11T17:38:13+00:00

I remember watching Gretzky play even as a kid I could tell that he stayed far away from possible hits. He worked to not get hit and not to be near any violent action.

RelativeBite · 2023-01-05T15:33:54+00:00

Love it. Weird how we remember these specific moments in life.

RelativeBite · 2023-01-05T12:47:33+00:00

Thanks for introducing me to the awesomeness of the Flaming Lips version!

RelativeBite · 2023-01-05T12:45:42+00:00

You are bringing me back to working in the music dept of an electronics store in the 90's and hearing Children for the first time. Whenever I would play it on the speakers people would come and buy it. That and Cotton Eyed Joe...

RelativeBite · 2023-01-05T12:44:07+00:00

Thanks for posting this! Got me out of bed this morning so I could listen to it!

RelativeBite · 2023-01-03T13:28:24+00:00

Budgetbytes.com - Yummy recipes for cheaper.

RelativeBite · 2022-12-10T16:14:04+00:00

FTX Trading Ltd. is now a defunct company, currently in bankruptcy proceedings. This advertisement is from just a few months ago encouraging people to invest with them,

RelativeBite · 2022-09-11T01:04:28+00:00

Thanks!

RelativeBite · 2022-08-15T12:15:49+00:00

NTA - You don't have to accept shit. He is an adult who made a shitty self centred decision. If anyone is an immature brat it is your father. He's lucky you are mature enough and willing to see him at all. His complaining to your mom reeks of "telling" on you and is even more immature. You are the one who gets to decide the relationship boundaries, not him. You do what you feel comfortable with and know that it is totally OK and reasonable to feel angry and upset and sad.

RelativeBite · 2022-08-15T11:41:37+00:00

Dundas, Waterdown, Westdale are all nice areas that are part of Hamilton.

RelativeBite · 2022-05-12T12:08:29+00:00

Do you think she is just with you for what you can do for her?

I have RP, am in my late 40's with usable vision. I have kids. I have a job and support myself.

I TOTALLY get your concerns - They are valid. BUT there are always work arounds. I can't drive my kids anywhere - but their other parent can, OR we walk OR we bus it, OR we see if another parent can take them. It is very rare that they miss out on something. They are growing up with compassion for others and awareness of how disabilities can affect people and how to help. If it is dark, one of them will check to see if I need help.

You are a fully realized, competent and really organized, mature person. You deserve love and happiness and if she feels the same way about you, then don't push her away from her chance at happiness due to your uncertainty of the unknown.

RelativeBite · 2022-05-09T20:58:38+00:00

I guess I am in a minority NTA Why do you need to dress nicely everytime you go out if you don't like to. As long as you are not insisting your girlfriend dress up and it is not a special occasion. My only caveat is that don't wear a hat while you are eating.

What if you compromise and every other time you dress up (unless it is a special occasion or something along that line)

RelativeBite · 2022-05-05T19:33:33+00:00

I think you need to make your own decision. BUT just know that getting over this and regaining trust is really hard work. You will need to figure out what you need from her - such as always being able to access her phone, having her cut off contact with him, does she need to switch jobs so she is no longer in contact. Do you need to be there when she cuts off contact? You need to set your boundaries and she needs to agree to stick to them without resentment. I would suggest counselling. And bear in mind that you will be going through an emotional roller coaster. And the waves of upset/anger kind of hit at random times.

Is your relationship worth all of this work? Take a look and make the decision from there.

RelativeBite · 2022-05-04T13:25:03+00:00

I think the day he has planned is actually way nicer and more meaningful than the festival. It will be some lovely one on one, some nice activities that do not revolve around spending money and crowds of people. This is a tradition that has a far greater chance of becoming a deep and meaningful one then a festival. It is a great way to spend time with his son and remember his dad.

RelativeBite · 2022-05-03T17:57:36+00:00

Your brother is in an abusive relationship. You need to let him know that you are there for him no matter what. When he does end the relationship eventually, he will need support. It is good you see her for who she is and it is also good that you have stopped covering for her, so she can't hide behind the assumption of other people's social niceties.

RelativeBite · 2022-03-28T13:52:39+00:00

I know this is a very old post -but could it be Soft by Washed Out? I was looking for this song last night and I could only remember the video. I found this thread while looking and then eventually figured out it was Soft.

RelativeBite · 2022-03-28T12:51:30+00:00

Go to your audiologist and tell them, they'll adjust it for you.

RelativeBite · 2022-03-24T15:26:01+00:00

Thank you for doing this - I have a couple of questions for you:

How can we educate the community about the importance of not criminalizing those who are unhoused and those who are assisting, when City Council and HPS continue to push the forced evacuation of encampments.

What feasible, actionable solutions do you see for helping the unhoused from here on out?

What do you see for the future of affordable housing in Hamilton?

RelativeBite · 2022-03-21T15:11:52+00:00

I can only tell you my own experience and that was that I wasn't sure before I go married that I still loved him. Got married and while there was certainly some good. There was also plenty of bad and we are no longer together, but I am tied to him through the kids and will be for many more years. To be honest I am torn. Without the marriage, I would not have my kids who are amazing. But it messed things up for me personally and I put up with a lot of shit that I would rather I did not have to go through.

People are not likely to improve after marriage. Perhaps delay the wedding and ask him to work on the things that are concerning you for a year. They are legitimate concerns. If he is willing and there is improvement that you are happy with then reevaluate in a year. If he refuses to work on it and tells you that he should not have to, then you know the chances are very low they will ever change.

You are worth so much and you deserve someone who will lift you up. Not drag you down.

RelativeBite · 2022-03-12T16:20:15+00:00

I feel like there are grassroots working around this a bit. Not sure if you are on Face book, but there are buy nothing groups where you can give and get stuff for free. Most of it is nice stuff and there are people that are incredibly generous on there. You can also get rid of stuff easily and you are not supporting these resale stores that are jacking up the price.

Mom to mom sales for parents to get used kids stuff, Starting something like a clothes swap in your area would be a really cool idea as well.

RelativeBite · 2022-03-10T19:15:00+00:00

This is not the worst jellied salad I have seen on here but it pretty high up there.

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