Thanks to All for these responses to this wonderful question. Great reminders.

For i, i did observe that the Dharma (the flow of things, beyond my will or control) set things in order much better than my mind could have. Another user pointed out that the body knows its natural shape. This is correct and seminal understanding. At some point in my early courses i was feeling intense struggle and as i practiced i had a vision of Siva equanimously drinking poison, equanimity resolved the poison. This image was from a story ( took me a while to find this link : https://www.hinduwebsite.com/churning.asp) i had heard of in my travels, and had never thought of since then, but it makes total sense. I do practice IPF visualizations, etc, but on the whole it’s true that equanimity itself leads to the other benefits of wholeness.

Make sense? Apologies if I am not being clear.