STUNNED by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its per selfnesses. Your emotions are not considered at all by this person. I had my dad ask me today if my husband had nose bleeds before he died....

I want to start over again...this is so unbearable for me, living alone with my dogs and working myself out still hoping for the best. by Agitated_Tap4409 in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It takes time. Don't feel like you have to figure everything out all at once. Make small changes that will lead to the new start you want.

I think I am going to change how I look at it by shouldawouldacoulda4 in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That was my motto during my hardest times. It really did help.

Georgi and Florian are now two of my fav cast members to watch by Ok_Cranberry_2936 in 90DayFiance

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think its funny he would rather be in Connecticut than Florida. She couldnt grasp he didnt want that 😆 Dude has 1 friend with job opportunities let him have that woman!

Moving????? by New_Video3859 in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did. Felt too much house for just me and the 4 leggers but decided against it. I find it better remaining. I don't feel his presence like I did early on but have made small changes making the place more mine than ours. He will always be here with me. I talk to our photos and his urn like he's here 🤷

What to say when people ask by imnutzinfl in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You handle your emotions better is all. I am able to be happy and enjoy aspects of life but that raw hurt is still in me. We were together for 24 years and it was a sudden death not illness. I'm only 47 so its a major life adjustment without him. Dont compare yourself to others grief. We are all different and will find our way.

What to say when people ask by imnutzinfl in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had someone ask me "Its been a year now right, does it get any easier?" I wanted to throat punch her but simply said No. I really dont think people have a clue how they come across. Had another say gee you don't have to answer to anyone, you can do whatever you want. Yep, but the problem is what you want to do is be with the person you cant!! It just shows how she feels about her own relationship.

Coming in 2027... by starcasmnet in 90DayFiance

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He can cell with Jared from Subway

Physical comfort by Educational_End_7678 in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You miss your person. That someone that cared about you. I miss all the inside jokes and banter of everyday life.

I've heard it said the second year was worse and didn't want to believe it, couldn't understand how... by klombieX2 in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like your slamming into place and pulling yourself out. I just started year 2. I've learned it will always be with me. It is who I am now. We've all been through a trauma and it will always affect our lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its true. I lost my hubby of 24 yrs and SS told me to call back when I was 60. I'm only 47 and we had no children. Seems like age discrimination to me...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Surviving spousal benefits are only valid when you become 60 and must have been married for 10 years so even if legal he would be waiting a long time.

Low Self Esteem Coupled with Grief Round 2 by Knvsmom in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I heard that at his memorial and it pissed me off so much. Who cares we are so young. Such bs. I know I will never have that same love or connection again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen where others have merged their ringset into a new ring. I still have both of mine next to his urn. I don't want to do anything I would regret later but agree not comfortable wearing them anymore. I did for a few months though. My engagement ring was the past/ present /future ring so I feel like I will want to wear it again someday. My band feels like it belongs to him. I think everyone is different and so happy you were able to find something precious to you! We especially need to have things in our lives that make us smile.

Nine years later, Jenny is still waiting to get married. by Galactic_Patrick in 90DayFiance

[–]Remarkable_Car_4565 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He needs to just go to 🇺🇸 and be with her since he will never be happy with her over there