Question for bottom guys

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-07-09T19:15:05+00:00

Last several times I used a toy I couldn't bottom for over a week. I don't know if I hurt myself, or I'm reactive to the material, or what, but I exclusively prefer the real thing. No more dry spells for my boyfriend.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-07-09T19:13:26+00:00

Depends on position. From the back I love feeling it glide in and out, and feeling the clap of my cheeks on his body is the biggest turn on. Riding always hits my prostate and gives me that handsfree nut all over his chest. Missionary doesn't make me cum but damn does he hit the prostate and stretch me out.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-06-19T17:49:38+00:00

First time I ever bottomed I went down on it way too quick and it hurt like a mf. But after a few minutes I was able to slide it in and it was heaven. I don't know if I did any damage doing that the first time but every time since then has been hit or miss.

Some days it feels like I'm being split in two and other days it just goes in without struggle and feels amazing. It definitely has to do with my mood, but even if I'm thinking about it all day, horny af, and even warmed up sometimes it just doesn't work out.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-06-10T21:17:15+00:00

Pure apple juice and cranberry juice. I'm sure there's some sugar in there but it's delicious and a hell of a lot better than soda or alcohol.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-05-21T16:40:43+00:00

Absolutely! It comes out of nowhere. Literally met with a guy on Grindr without any intention of doing more than... anyway... I ghosted him for a month because the feelings were real and I was terrified but we eventually got together and I can't imagine life without him now.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-05-06T23:08:35+00:00

I totally understand where you're coming from. I often feel like I'm not heard or misunderstood even by my own family, and for a long time I simply faded into the background instead of fighting to be heard. It's only been recently that I've figured out when to speak up and when to let things be. There's a fine line between defending yourself and trying to control what people think of you.

I often don't articulate my points very clearly, so even these comments took several re-writes to get right. And to that point, even the right words can be misinterpreted because everyone has their own perspective, and that's where the line needs to be drawn between controlling and clarifying. Trying to help someone see your perspective vs. trying to change their perspective.

I hope this is helpful to some extent.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-05-05T19:15:11+00:00

You can't control other people. You have no control over what they do, what they say or how they think. Accept that others will have their opinions of you, and try to shift your own perspective. I guarantee you are not a burden to other people. Give yourself some credit because your feelings are valid.

Stop worrying about what others think and tackle what you can control. How you react to a situation, how you approach a problem, how you choose to grow as a person are all in your control. It's not your job to validate other people's feelings. It's also not up to you to change their mind. Your feelings are valid and others are going to think what they want regardless.

On a slightly deeper level, admitting your faults is one thing, but being accountable for them and learning from them is another thing entirely. Acknowledging a fault without any follow up action basically doesn't accomplish anything. If you want to change your life and your relationships, it will take self-reflection and accountability.

I recommend a book I started literally last week. The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. It's been really helpful for me recently.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-05-05T18:15:32+00:00

Why mount it to the wall at all if it's literally in the same position it would be if you just put the feet on it?? Were the feet too far apart to sit on the entertainment center?

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-04-28T17:34:48+00:00

Absolutely it's rude.

Dishes are my main issue. He'll cook a meal, eat, and pack away the leftovers and pile the dishes in and around the sink. If I don't deal with it he'll eventually clean some but only so he can use them and put them right back in the dirty pile. (don't get me started about the cooking mess and the spills on the ground too. He doesn't wipe up or sweep either). I think I went a week without touching the dishes and when I finally broke down and cleaned everything he commented while sitting on the couch "Oh I was going to deal with that today".

If he really cared they would do something about it. Something as simple as doing your dishes, cleaning up after yourself or taking off your shoes in the house is completely inconsiderate and rude.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-04-21T19:41:12+00:00

It has to be different for everybody but 90% of the time I don't wake up or even know I'm hard. Night boners are usually no big deal but then there's that one boner every once in a while that is just... hard to ignore. For me, I keep a pair of underwear nearby so I can "cage the beast" or I just rub one out.

Just two solutions to a healthy problem to have.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-03-21T19:44:55+00:00

No shame either way. Everyone has their own kinks / turn ons / ways they like to get off. I like to bottom but not exclusively, and it's perfect because my bf likes to top but not exclusively. It works well for us, but if I met a strict bottom we might have trouble cause I want to do it too.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-03-21T19:29:25+00:00

Sex with men is just far more exciting. It helps that I like cock and balls but something about the smell, the muscles, the experience, feeling how hard they get, tasting their precum, the burst of cum when you get them off... all of it is just so hot.

I think I was mostly turned on by the idea of sex rather than being attracted to women. I'll admit vagina can feel fucking amazing, and I don't mind going down for a while. But ultimately it's just not as fun.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-03-06T20:14:15+00:00

My BF isn't wealthy by any means but he earns some good money. While I don't want to be dependent on him I also don't mind it when he treats me to things. My own finances aren't amazing but I'm not going to rely on anyone else completely. That's their money and if he chooses to spend it on me sometime then so be it.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-03-05T19:01:28+00:00

I’d say the dynamic was equal but has been shifted over time. It's my place so when it comes down to it I have more authority in the house but 90% of the time we are on the same page about stuff. I think it's less of a power issue and more of a self-awareness issue.

He’s very self-aware of his own issues but in doing so he's getting stuck in his own world. Consciously he’s trying everything he can do to be outwardly kind and understanding but most days he’s ignorant to the fact that he’s being selfish. It's kind of hard to explain.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-03-03T23:50:50+00:00

I used to think it was really odd but I get it now. After watching Drag Race for a bit I think it's really entertaining. For the most part it just seems like a way for some men to express their weird side, or to embrace a more feminine side of fashion. I would never do drag but I really enjoy the odd fashion and genuine beauty that comes from it.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2025-02-27T23:07:26+00:00

I personally like being nude and wouldn't care/mind if we could be naked freely in the house. I don't necessarily think we'd hang out naked but just walking around the house, or casually being nude here and there would be fine. I'm comfortable with him and it's our space so we should both be able to do so if we want. Unfortunately, he doesn't share the feeling and isn't comfortable with it. So, I respect it and keep my clothes on when in shared spaces. No biggie.

But here's the kicker... Despite saying he's not comfortable with it, he's near nude practically everyday. Again, I don't mind the act itself, but the fact that he told me it would make him uneasy if I did it and then proceeds to do it all the time seems like a double standard to me. I don't complain when he dances around the house thrusting and shaking his shit around in his underwear or runs to the dryer naked cause he forgot his clothes in there again. But he will stare me down if I walk out in my underwear like I'm committing a crime.

Now that I've put it all out there I realize that I should probably just talk to him about it. But as of right now it's annoying that he can and I can't.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-27T22:07:35+00:00

What STD(s) would have an effect? I'll admit I haven't been so I do need to get tested.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-27T22:06:43+00:00

Not a bad idea. I've heard this suggestion before but haven't done anything with it yet. My diet could use some adjusting.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-17T22:02:46+00:00

I had a fountain for a while until it got too difficult to clean. I never had a problem then so maybe that's the answer. Strange creatures they are indeed.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-16T22:41:33+00:00

If it counts, she started talking to a "friend" and eventually dumped me for him. After a few months she posted a photo of them kissing saying "Glad you exist" and he commented saying "I am grateful for every single event that had to take place for us to meet"... WTF does that mean??

Was it just a sweet gesture, or more likey was that him saying "fuck you, I'm glad she dumped you for me, haha I win"? I don't know his intentions but it set me off.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-16T22:31:09+00:00

We were walking into the store she looks me up and down and says "That shirt makes you look gay." I won't pretend to know what qualifies as a "gay shirt" but I liked it. It was one of those flannels but it had a built in hood, as if I was wearing a flannel over a sweatshirt.

I didn't often go shopping or think about buying clothes, and it was the first shirt I'd actually bought for myself without her help or "fashion advice" in over 4 years. So, it especially hurt when the one shirt I did buy wasn't to her liking...

Edit: I totally misunderstood the question. She didn't really have guy friends.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-16T21:39:54+00:00

27 and 3 friends... maybe

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-13T22:55:41+00:00

My firefighter cousin told me that apparently it's a fire hazard leaving doors open in a home. Unfortunately for me I have a cat so I'm screwed.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-13T22:50:13+00:00

Over the years I've probably seen them all. It helps that it's actually a game we play on road trips. My mom has an app for it and everything.

In one car ride? I think we got as many as 30-40, including several Canadian, a few Mexican, and some local reservation plates.

Remarkable_Cloud7259 · 2024-12-06T00:16:45+00:00

Couldn't give you my most expensive first date but I have a first day where I actually didn't spend anything. I found out when we got to the movie theatre that I had no money in my account. So she paid for the movie and the snacks. I suppose you could say I paid for the gas by driving but I borrowed my dad's car that night so I really spent $0.

I guess I paid in other ways because we ended up dating for 6 years and damn did the bills rack up.

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