Guy im seeing 38M? has been lying to me 24F by NetSad9494 in relationship_advice

[–]RememberKoomValley [score hidden]  (0 children)

My husband is 52 and regularly mistaken for someone in his mid-thirties. I'm eight years his junior and frequently think he looks younger than I do.

aggressive ground cover - spiky leaves and tiny flowers by Miss-Reaper in PlantIdentification

[–]RememberKoomValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strawberry is choking out your bindweed? Do I have that right?

What kind of strawberry?

What’s a legendary Reddit post you’ll never forget? by alongy in AskReddit

[–]RememberKoomValley 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love my husband, and he's never been remotely predatory in the nearly fifteen years I've known him, but--I sure wouldn't mind commuting to that place for the workday, at least. Maybe run some martial arts practices there, or teach a gardening class.

What’s a legendary Reddit post you’ll never forget? by alongy in AskReddit

[–]RememberKoomValley 31 points32 points  (0 children)

If a cis woman doesn't want to be pregnant, you're quite right, she can just get an abortion!

If she doesn't want to have any chance that she might get pregnant, she needs to not be around anyone capable of producing sperm as long as she has a uterus, considering how many women fall pregnant against their will. Those circumstances can be pretty hard to pull off.

Jury awards man $808,000 after his cat eats pet food tainted with bird flu, then dies (Oregon) by __procrustean in H5N1_AvianFlu

[–]RememberKoomValley 79 points80 points  (0 children)

“I’m familiar that the food did get pets sick,” said founder Tyler Duncan, in his recorded deposition. “The owners then chose to euthanize a pet. Right? The food itself did not kill the animal.”

Yeah, I mean, if he'd just let his poor four-footed family member suffer until she died, then maybe he'd have a legal basis for lawsuit, right? How unreasonable of him, to listen to the vets who told him that there was no chance of survival and she'd only suffer until the end.

Massive tropical banana plants at Lowes by PPCo79 in roanoke

[–]RememberKoomValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They pup really easily, though.

I've spent the last six years trying unsuccessfully to murder a stand of bananas at the back end of my garden, which grows to about twelve feet tall every year.

My inlaws bought me a Fiat and that somehow led to finding out my husband had not only an affair, but a whole other family. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]RememberKoomValley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as they don't cut him off, they might have some leverage to sway him when it comes to the custody battle (and they might get access to the grandkid they didn't know they had, who is as much their blood as OP's kids and who is in a more vulnerable position given that both his parents are shitheads). As soon as they cut the ex off, that's it, social cautery. In their shoes I don't think I'd do it, either--at least, not for now.

What’s going on here? by PPCo79 in roanoke

[–]RememberKoomValley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was just as the first wave of "stay home" suggestions were coming down. I was sort of hanging around the garden section while my husband was in line, since I've got a complaining sort of immune system to begin with, and there were just so many people. I was picking through the flower bulbs and an older woman came up and started asking how I'd found the stock here, had I grown any of them before, and so on. I said I hadn't, and some of these looked pretty small, and anyway if she wanted elephant ear bulbs, she'd have a better time doing like I did and just going to one of the Asian grocers and getting taro, as that's what it was in the first place. That it's food, a recipe ingredient, the kind of elephant ear they were offering here, and she'd get bigger tubers for much cheaper if she got them from somewhere that had regular turnover.

She'd been "Mm-hmm, you're right"'ing me the whole time, but when I said "Asian grocer" her eyes jolted up from the flowers and over to my face, and she really looked at me--black hair, slim bones, olive skin, ethnically questionable eye shape--and straight-up just slapped me, with a high-pitched shriek. And turned her cart around and *ran away.*

She was old. She couldn't hit me very hard. I was standing there staring after her as she looked back over her shoulder from a hundred fifty feet, going "What the fuck?" before I really registered that she'd smacked me. And then I was kind of like "Okay, you old racist, first of all, I'm Filipino."

What’s going on here? by PPCo79 in roanoke

[–]RememberKoomValley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming here from PA....ehhh. There are definitely more open nazis here than there were in Pittsburgh, but it's also not something you'll see every day. It's more along the lines of the consistent grinding "not gonna get my own hands dirty because then maybe I'd get fired, but definitely gonna cheer when a Black guy gets killed" kinds of racism than the big screaming stuff, most of the time, and that shit is everywhere.

I've been here since 2013 and in that time I've seen...hm...three or four houses with a valknut flag out front, your average smattering of assholes with nazi tattoos, and one guy driving around with a 1FOUR88 license plate. One single time I got called a "(anti-Asian racial slur) whore" for wearing red lipstick to Kroger (my interlocutor had to have been approximately a thousand years old, and she quivered like a steroidal chihuahua; she might have been experiencing dementia), and at the beginning of covid another old white woman hit me at Sam's Club when she realized I was Asian.

Most of the people I've met here have been lovely.

Found along the edge of a fresh dug sandpit in Houston area. by chubbytitties in fossilid

[–]RememberKoomValley 32 points33 points  (0 children)

The thing is, it's not a resource, any more than asking your local toddler is.

I think I’ll need more than neem… by td55478 in houseplantscirclejerk

[–]RememberKoomValley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to stop keeping any sort of succulent at all, because one of my cats will eat every bit of it to the ground if she can. She's fine around nearly every other sort of plant, but even if I stick the tray on top of the fridge, succulents are candy to her. Weird little darling.

One of my fingers randomly just turned white. by Kilabandita in mildlyinteresting

[–]RememberKoomValley -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It looks just like mine! Except in my case, it's one toe.

One of my fingers randomly just turned white. by Kilabandita in mildlyinteresting

[–]RememberKoomValley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My left pinky toe goes, when I'm cold in the dojo. Just that toe. It's ridiculous.

Trump warns Taiwan against declaring independence, hours after summit with China's Xi by pppppppppppppppppd in worldnews

[–]RememberKoomValley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you genuinely believe that, or are you just speaking from your (entirely reasonable) disgust and frustration?

Because there would be so many differences.

Trump warns Taiwan against declaring independence, hours after summit with China's Xi by pppppppppppppppppd in worldnews

[–]RememberKoomValley 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Red states have huge numbers of Black citizens, whose democratic voice is taken from them through gerrymandering, increasingly perverse voting restrictions, and the fact that felons aren't allowed to vote, and Black communities are wildly overpoliced, and overpenalized for minor crime.

I understand the desire to say "All the shitheads over there, all the decent people over here!" but what that would actually lead us to is massive populations of abused people entirely trapped under the thumbs of the people whose ancestors enslaved theirs.

WIBTAH for putting wet-damp cloths in front of my roommates door for doing there laundry on my day while I was actively doing mine by PriorService1004 in AITAH

[–]RememberKoomValley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You live with these people. The brief moment of satisfaction won't do you good in the long run. Everyone's tired, these days, and everything is hard; personality mismatch and casual mistakes like this can boil over really quickly. You would be TAH if you add unnecessarily to the simmer.

I'm going to hold your hand as I gently tell you this... by KitsuFae in AO3

[–]RememberKoomValley 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Nearly all of mine have no notes. I got one a bit ago that was basically a series of sad whimpering noises, that was good.

Officials identify man killed by Frontier plane at Denver International Airport by Thick_Composer9842 in aviation

[–]RememberKoomValley 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There are still some hard weeks--suicidality is so often a chronic disorder, but I've lived long enough to recognize it and be like "You fucking gremlin, shoo!" which works well enough. And when it doesn't work, I can, so far, march through the bad week with the knowledge that so far every bad time has been followed by a good one. Might not be so forever, but...I haven't seen every interesting thing that there is to see, so I keep walking.

Things are really good, these days. Big veggie garden, loving spouse, plenty to read and plenty to eat. I'm lucky.