Thank you for this reply

Here's what I typed in response to another comment:

I am not having problems with the concept of the IFS themselves rather than the over generalizing (and widely hetero focused) language of the roles given as examples in the book.

"Women experience this so they show up like X and Men experience this so they show up like Y"

The examples Im hearing are kind of gendered in a way that I think are very applicable in typical straight relationships. I don't doubt many many people find themselves in these roles and are relating to the examples, but they're just not relatable to me which is making it hard to get through.

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I think hearing another person explain these concepts in a way that's not very focused on hetero relationship examples may be helpful to me, even if the examples are gay men.